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Therapeutic Interventions for Children with Parental Alienation Syndrome

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Dr. Gardner's guidance, first on the phone, then through this book and his Parental Alienation Syndrome book, was profound. It allowed me to realize what was happening to my daughter at the hands of her grandparents. He stated it isn't always parent against parent when this occurs, and can even be neighbors, aunts/uncles, grandparents, etc. For weeks I (and her friends, who'd also been targeted) had struggled to determine what was going on, since it had manifested so quickly, didn't fit anything, and had no cause for occurring. We'd gone through the confusion/lost for an explanation phase, then anger phases and wondering if she'd become a strange spoiled child that was acting out, but that was also contrary to what she'd always been. Nothing fit until I stumbled onto Dr. Gardner's writings. It seemed he had been here, viewing our situation. The book also suggested what to do about it when the lawyers and judges haven't a clue (and the judge chooses to also ignore the Guardian Ad Lidem and the testifying specialist, who both felt my parents were truly obsessed in this effort to possess her). This book will even help when you know it's up to you; her friends and I were able to realize what was going on and what we had to do to stop it. Dr. Gardner had said significant turn-around can be in days or hours, and thankfully that was our case. The book also specifies how important it is to then keep that child totally away from the alienators for at least a length of time, since this alienation is a form of severe child abuse and can cause long-term and sometimes permanent damage. The book also urged, if there is ever future contact of the child with the alienator, to have careful monitoring, since alienators usually want to try again, especially at the obsessed level. They are unable to stop. After my parents dropped their suit against me (no substantiation, as usual), they then sued their granddaughter, angry that she didn't want to live with them. They tried to convince the Court that she was dangerous (with no history of any such activity to substantiate this claim either) and suggested the Court put her into a foster home for the rest of her childhood. My daughter's attorney even allowed her to speak on her own behalf and the judge (a different one than the idiot I'd had to deal with) threw their case out.

Did this book help break my daughter free from obsessed alienation efforts? Absolutely. Does it give strategies for the future and recovery? Yes. Does it make you shudder with the possibilities of what sick people can do to a loving family? Oh yeah, enough to bring nightmares on and to realize having some parents watch your child when you're working is not always going to be an innocent, normal experience or outcome. Does it impart how important it is to fight this alienation? Yes. This can destroy a child and the stable life they've had, to the point, as Dr. Gardner said, that it can be lifelong and continued on even to their own children hating the targeted person. So possible multi-generational effect, future depression possible when, and IF, the child finally realizes the alienation was done and hating themselves for "allowing" it, to the point that some have committed suicide. Scarey stuff? Yes, but when you've experienced this it is easy to see this future if it isn't stopped. This book will help you do that, for most courts won't be helpful. And you HAVE to get them free of this alienation and the alienator. I don't care what you call it, or that it isn't listed in the DSM yet, but PAS exists, and this book will help you get your family away from that attack. If Dr. Gardner and his books had not been available, this family would probably have been destroyed.