Is There Really Sex After Kids? [Paperback]

Jill Savage (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 1, 2003 | Series: Hearts at Home Workshop Series

With Leader's Guide and Personal Reflections A practical guide to help women rise above frustrations and disappointments to restore intimacy, pleasure, spontaneity, and passion in marriage What's happened to our sex life now that we have kids? Many moms may not ask this question aloud, but Jill Savage knows from years of leading Hearts at Home conferences that no workshop subject will more quickly fill a room. Having children in the home alters the sexual dynamic between husband and wife. Going from making meatloaf to making love, from practical mommy to passionate lover, all in one crowded evening has its own set of unique challenges. Is There Really Sex After Kids? is written by a mom, for moms, and filled with practical ideas. This is not a clinical book on sexual technique, though readers will find some creative suggestions. It isn't a counselor's text, though it contains the sage wisdom of a mentor and friend. It is a woman-to-woman discussion---a true insider's look---at what works to build intimacy outside the bedroom and improve intimacy inside the bedroom.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Good Christian moms who are a bit shocked by the title of this book may be even more startled to learn that it comes with a group discussion guide. While not explicit, the book is refreshingly frank and down-to-earth, offering exhausted moms an opportunity to reflect on sex (or the lack thereof) and its importance in their lives. It's really a book about marital intimacy in all its manifestations, including emotional and intellectual closeness as well as sexuality. Savage is honest about her own struggles, mentioning times when her marriage "hit rock-bottom" and she had to learn about creating a marriage-centered family rather than a child-centered family. After she had kids, she says, "making meat loaf was a higher priority than making love." Now a mother of four, she and her husband lead marriage-encounter workshops and counsel couples who are experiencing intimacy conflicts. This book, which is occasionally repetitive but always sensible, is the distillation of the Savages' advice, and features questions for reflection at the close of each chapter.
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From the Back Cover

With Leader’s Guide and Personal Reflections

A practical guide to help women rise above frustrations and disappointments to restore intimacy, pleasure, spontaneity, and passion in marriage

What’s happened to our sex life now that we have kids? Many moms may not ask this question aloud, but Jill Savage knows from years of leading Hearts at Home conferences that no workshop subject will more quickly fill a room. Having children in the home alters the sexual dynamic between husband and wife. Going from making meatloaf to making love, from practical mommy to passionate lover, all in one crowded evening has its own set of unique challenges.

Is There Really Sex After Kids? is written by a mom, for moms, and filled with practical ideas. This is not a clinical book on sexual technique, though readers will find some creative suggestions. It isn’t a counselor’s text, though it contains the sage wisdom of a mentor and friend. It is a woman-to-woman discussion—a true insider’s look—at what works to build intimacy outside the bedroom and improve intimacy inside the bedroom.

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Product Details

• Reading level: Ages 18 and up
  
• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: Zondervan (March 1, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0310237432
• ISBN-13: 978-0310237433
• Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 6 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.1 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #256,969 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Jill Savage is an author and speaker who is passionate about encouraging moms.

A graduate of Butler University in Indianapolis, IN, Jill's holds a bachelors degree in music education. After teaching piano and voice privately for 15 years, Jill now considers motherhood the most important job she will ever do.

Jill's enthusiasm for the profession of motherhood is contagious. Founding Hearts at Home, in 1994, Jill now speaks to thousands of women each year about their priorities, their passions, and their purpose. Jill's honest, vulnerable, and encouraging style makes her an effective communicator. In fact, readers say reading a Jill Savage book is like sitting down and having a cup of coffee with a girlfriend.

Jill lives in Central Illinois with her husband Mark. They are the parents of five children ranging in ages fourteen to twenty-six, and the grandparents of one granddaughter.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

11 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars If there isn't, there will be after you read this book!, October 28, 2003

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T. Suzanne Eller (Beautiful Oklahoma) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Is There Really Sex After Kids? (Paperback)

As a speaker and author, this is a book I would not only share with other women, but will carry on my table so that women can buy it and enjoy the common-sense wisdom contained inside. My first "ah" moment was when I read the definition of intimacy. There were many more moments such as that as I heard the heartbeat of a woman share an honest and straightforward path to sexual intimacy for couples who juggle work, kids, and life. Highly recommended. I receive tons of books to review and only a handful stay on my shelf as treasures. This is one of them.

7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Graceful guide to intimacy, December 3, 2003

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Janet H. McHenry "Author/Speaker" (Loyalton, CA USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Is There Really Sex After Kids? (Paperback)

Jill Savage has gifted Christian couples with her new book, Is There Really Sex After Kids? The central part of the gift is grace--lovingly teaching the reader about those things that inhibit intimacy, better ways to communicate physical need, and male/female differences of desire. The Christian community needs more such books of grace. I recommend this quickly-read book highly.

4 of 4 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A fabulous book for a mom of young ones, January 10, 2006

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Amanda K. Duvall (Dayton, OH USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Is There Really Sex After Kids? (Paperback)

I loved this book. After having two kids in 2 1/2 years, I felt like sex was the last thing I thought about, the last thing I wanted to do. And I felt like a freak because of it! here I am in my late 20's and not desiring sex. Jill presents the material in a funny, non-judgemental way. My husband and I have faith in our God and Jill makes it very clear that our relationship with God is the most important part of cultivating a healthey relationship with each other. It is a book about sex, but it is more importantly a book about healing and strengthening a marriage in a Godly manner.

A must read for any stressed new mom!