9 Things You Simply Must Do to Succeed in Love and Life: A Psychologist Learns from His Patients What Really Works and What Doesn't (Paperback)

~ Dr. Henry Cloud (Author) "I DO NOT REMEMBER WHEN IT FIRST HAPPENED, but I do remember the feeling..." (more)
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Many years of counseling have enabled Dr. Henry Cloud to observe people trying to work out the most important issues of life: relationships, career, fulfillment, meaning, pain, hurt, loss, despair, and addictions. If we sincerely want to "get life right" and quit repeating the same mistakes over and over again, 9 Things You Simply Must Do provides the practical guidance we need to live life to its fullest . . . every moment.

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You can win in the game of life!

Have you ever wondered about the difference between those who win at love and live, and those who fail? By carefully observing people who gave him a certain "deja vu" feeling when he first met them, Dr. Henry Cloud made a remarkable discovery. No, he hadn't actually met these people before, but he had encountered their particular ways of handling life. And the common denominator with these individuals who practiced these "ways" was they were all successful!

They all... - Had healthy relationships - Reached their goals - Did not repeat the same mistakes - Were in control of their lives - Felt a sense of purpose

Dr. Cloud then decided to do something that was not the focus of his clinical training: investigate why successful people's lives were working, rather than trying to uncover what was broken in a person and trying to fix it. He learned that personal growth is not only about getting healthy, but also about the principles successful people invariably practice.

If you follow these nine principles, you can achieve great results in y our work, your relationships, and other areas of your life. Best of all, these principles are not limited to the chose few who are born with money, brains, or great talent. They're available to anyone who wants to transform average relationships and uncertain hopes into vibrant and achievable dreams. --This text refers to the Hardcover edition.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson (September 11, 2007)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 078528916X
• ISBN-13: 978-0785289166
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (28 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #41,624 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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23 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars a good success book, July 22, 2007

By	Garrett Kikuyama (Hilo, HI USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Nine Things You Simply Must Do: To Succeed in Love and Life (Hardcover)

Cloud does a good job on how to have a successful life. First, you must find what you would like to do as a career. Second, deal with problems by fixing it or eliminating it. Third, create a well thought out plan step by step all the way to reaching successs. Also think about options and see if they will hurt you or help you in the future. Fourth, be proactive, be a person of action. Fifth, be dilligent and industrious by doing something and make progress, no matter how small the progress is. Sixth, Be sure to fix what you hate in a positive way. Seventh, do not seek justice for yourself, seek rather to give mercy and forgive. Eighth, study and grow in humility. Ninth, realize that you cannot please everyone.

15 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Life-changing and life-defining book!, November 29, 2007

By	Linda M. Chang (California) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Easy-to-read content with clear, pertinent examples of each of the '9 things' we must do to experience personal and professional success. Very common sense stuff. The presentation is like concentrated orange juice: it's weighty content that most of us have heard about in a watered down manner, or we KNOW it's true, but it's in the BACK of our minds, not in the forefront. Cloud brings these significant issues to the FOREFRONT of our minds, and he makes them memorable so that they will be imprinted on our minds, if we choose to adopt them. I have a friend who can't quickly get through the book b/c the truth is hard to embrace, sometimes. This material can be VERY CHALLENGING to adopt and apply in our lives, but, I'm living a much more peaceful and fulfilling life by just applying what I've learned so far, and I'm only about 80% through the book.... It's only when we challenge ourselves that true growth takes place. Growth never comes easily.

51 of 60 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars 9 Things You Simply Must Do to succeed in Love and Life, January 4, 2005

By	m lam (Richmond, British Columbia Canada) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Nine Things You Simply Must Do: To Succeed in Love and Life (Hardcover)

It is a great book, easy to read (even for ESL me). Concept is simple and the principles are surprisingly true even though it didn't seem that way when you just read the "principle" at par on the chapter outlines. I highly recommend this book. It also has christian values in it.