This is the book men should read early in a relationship or marriage. -- Arkansas Democrat-Gazette, February 2, 2005
From the Publisher
Presented concisely in 144 reader-friendly pages a length no man can say with honesty that he doesnt have the time to read this book reveals to men the things they need to do right now to repair and strengthen their marriages in what are highly volatile times in the battle of the sexes. Our greatest hope is that men will pay attention to the well-researched advice of someone whos been there, i.e., hands-on tips from the trenches, as opposed to the kind of textbook analysis widely available and targeted overwhelmingly to female readers.
Third and Long features a sports/football theme to further enhance its readability, and introduces readers to well-known and more detailed relationship books such as Relationship Rescue, Mars and Venus, and others. If your marriage is in deep trouble or just needs a minor tuneup Third and Long is a concise and simply presented guidebook for men who need to get better at relationships right now.
Too many relationship books out there?
Some might say there are already too many relationship books out there. Unfortunately, much of the recommended reading is simply too theoretical, intellectual or long for many male readers. Third and Long, conversely, gets right to the point: its action-oriented, just like most men. The book goes through the fundamentals of a relationship, sets up a framework for understanding aimed specifically at men, and provides some 50+ tips and new skills designed to achieve results quickly. Men need positive feedback, and these tips provide it. Third and Long also refers readers to works by experts such as Dr. Phil, Barbara De Angelis, and others. Youll find there really doesnt appear to be any book like it.
Men learned about relationships from their grandfathers
As a group, todays men are disadvantaged, having learned about conducting a relationship mainly by watching their fathers, who in turn learned from men for whom "love" was likely a topic of secondary concern and little or no reflection. As a result, any change occurs too slowly as each generation of men learns a bit more from their mistakes and passes it on. This system doesn't work, given the much more rapid evolution of women who today are unwilling to stay with partners who cant or wont address their needs.
Therefore, the books main thrust, for men who want to keep their marriages intact, is that theyd better start putting more effort into their primary relationships immediately, stop "faking," and start bridging the relationship gap. Women are not about to reduce their rising demands for equality and satisfaction in their romantic relationships that much is apparent so an expedited social transformation of mens relationship awareness and skills is absolutely crucial.
Because women are not going back, in our opinion, its just a matter of how rapidly this generation of men improves these skills and how much pain men and women will have to endure along the way while that process occurs. Any tools (books, courses, etc.) available to help speed the transition can only help. The ultimate achievement for Third and Long would be to help speed that transformation.
While Third and Long has been written as a warning third and long is a challenging situation in any football game the book is upbeat and positive. And, if our viewpoint is correct that this generation of men needs a radical transformation of its relationship skills and know how then this book just might provide the spark and traction needed to help get things moving faster. That is our objective in publishing Third and Long Mens Playbook for Solving Marital/relationship Problems and Building a Winning Team.