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A heart wrenching, as real as it gets gift to those with PTSD.
on November 14, 2012
I, along with my wife have read Christal Presley's book "Thirty Days With My Father" It is compelling, and right on the money. I can only say it is the real deal. Her father is truly me, and she is somewhat my two daughter's and son. It was hard for me to see myself, but for some strange reason I knew I would. You see, I have been on a journey the past six years, and some really strange things have taken place in that time. I have been pulled by a force, and led to places I never thought I'd be.
Six years ago, I decided to take a second tour in therapy, and am glad I have. The thought of a third generation of dysfunctional family was too much to deal with. My first tour in therapy (1980's) wasn't well received, due to PTSD not being well known. Even so, I learned much from that point in time, until now. I only wish I had learned so earlier, to spare my family the hardship they endured because of me.
We as combat veterans sometimes mistakenly feel we are protecting our loved ones by secluding ourselves, our suppressed feelings, or in my brothers case committing suicide. Our thinking becomes distorted, our anger's increased, as well as those of our children, and family. Our abnormal becomes our normal, and without help there is not much hope in realizing and changing any of that.
What I have come to now realize, is that the 40 some past years have really been about me, a selfish controlling me, and I alone have to change that. I have controlled everything, and everbody with my behavior, and the results have been devastating. I unwantedly, unknowingly, and without intention, had nearly destroyed my loving family.
My thoughts now are towards healing my family and I, and trying to remedy the damage I have inflicted on those that I love. My children will receive Christal's book for Christmas, as my way of trying to explain why their father was, and is the way he is. It is my way of saying I am sorry, and asking for forgiveness.
PTSD is and will always be a part of my life. The difference is, it does not have to control it. I can use it as a tool, embrace it, learn from it, and teach others to realize it, and live with it.
Brothers, we only have so much time left to get it right. It is no longer about us. It is time to heal, and help heal those around us. To help give insight to those that need it.
Christal, I know your father is sorry for the damage done to your mother and yourself, just as I am for what I have done.I also understand your need to hear that. So until that day comes from one veteran to another, I say "I am sorry"
Jim "Wildman" Linton
H Troop 17th CAV.