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Thirty Days with My Father: Finding Peace from Wartime PTSD
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15 of 15 people found the following review helpful
on November 14, 2012
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I, along with my wife have read Christal Presley's book "Thirty Days With My Father" It is compelling, and right on the money. I can only say it is the real deal. Her father is truly me, and she is somewhat my two daughter's and son. It was hard for me to see myself, but for some strange reason I knew I would. You see, I have been on a journey the past six years, and some really strange things have taken place in that time. I have been pulled by a force, and led to places I never thought I'd be.

Six years ago, I decided to take a second tour in therapy, and am glad I have. The thought of a third generation of dysfunctional family was too much to deal with. My first tour in therapy (1980's) wasn't well received, due to PTSD not being well known. Even so, I learned much from that point in time, until now. I only wish I had learned so earlier, to spare my family the hardship they endured because of me.

We as combat veterans sometimes mistakenly feel we are protecting our loved ones by secluding ourselves, our suppressed feelings, or in my brothers case committing suicide. Our thinking becomes distorted, our anger's increased, as well as those of our children, and family. Our abnormal becomes our normal, and without help there is not much hope in realizing and changing any of that.

What I have come to now realize, is that the 40 some past years have really been about me, a selfish controlling me, and I alone have to change that. I have controlled everything, and everbody with my behavior, and the results have been devastating. I unwantedly, unknowingly, and without intention, had nearly destroyed my loving family.

My thoughts now are towards healing my family and I, and trying to remedy the damage I have inflicted on those that I love. My children will receive Christal's book for Christmas, as my way of trying to explain why their father was, and is the way he is. It is my way of saying I am sorry, and asking for forgiveness.

PTSD is and will always be a part of my life. The difference is, it does not have to control it. I can use it as a tool, embrace it, learn from it, and teach others to realize it, and live with it.

Brothers, we only have so much time left to get it right. It is no longer about us. It is time to heal, and help heal those around us. To help give insight to those that need it.

Christal, I know your father is sorry for the damage done to your mother and yourself, just as I am for what I have done.I also understand your need to hear that. So until that day comes from one veteran to another, I say "I am sorry"

Be safe,
Jim "Wildman" Linton
H Troop 17th CAV.
LZ Bayonet
1969-1970
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12 of 12 people found the following review helpful
on November 4, 2012
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Reading Thirty Days With My Father gave me a sense of the whole Vietnam fiasco, and the pain which was, and still is, predominant in so many lives of veterans and their families. In her uplifting story, Christal Presley demonstates considerable strength and perseverance that eventually brings healing and a loving spirit to her life. This story will be cathartic for verterans of all wars and their families.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful
on November 26, 2012
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My father always spoke openly about his two tours in Vietnam. Growing up, however, I never associated his combat experience with his unpredictable mood swings, his short fuse when it came to patience or his explosive anger over minor failures. I learned to back off, to be quiet, and to get away. It took over 30 years for him to be diagnosed and to get help. The VA came through for him but, as Christal's dad points out, for many it does not. For those of us who have dealt first hand with a combat PTSD sufferer, this book is a reassurance that we are not alone. For others, it is a lesson in the long-term trickle-down effects of war. Veterans who don't like to talk about their war REALLY don't like to talk about it. Christal has done an amazing job getting her father to share his story, and she is brave to share her own. Wonderful book.
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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful
on November 4, 2012
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Great book about a daughter's journey of reconnecting with her father and finding herself. Could not put the book down.
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
on November 8, 2012
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As Presley reminds us in Thirty Days with My Father, we have the most to gain when we face our biggest fears. Through love, acceptance, and a willingness to be vulnerable, she reveals how communication can heal the deepest wounds. Anyone who has experienced PTSD, either first-hand or through a loved one, will want to give Presley a big hug and say "Thank you for telling our story."
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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful
on December 4, 2012
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The author tells what she went through while growing up with a father who was living with PTSD. And how she too lived with PTSD herself from her experiences of living with her father. Too many people who suffer from this affliction are not understood.
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
on November 24, 2012
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When you read Christal Presley's book, Thirty Days with My Father, it will be the first time you have heard a story that has been repeated over and over throughout the history of military conflict. It is the story of how a war induced trauma consumes the soul of the warrior and contaminates his future attempts at interpersonal relationships.
You will not need a dictionary to read the words because the truth is always simple. But be sure to bring your heart and a hand full of Kleenex. The brave little girl hiding in a closet, the self abusing teenager protecting the secret and the insightful, educated adult touring her father's battleground reveal the true costs of war. Christal battles her father's demons with love and persistence. This is the highest calling and she does not fail.
Tommy J Skiens
C 4/3 11th LIB
Vietnam 1968
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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful
on November 20, 2012
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What a great read about my classmate and her inner struggles with her own PTSD. This book showcases the "secret" a family dealt with the only way they knew how;
whether right or wrong. I think this well written book is not only enlightening, but healing as well. It's a must read!
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
on November 7, 2012
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I started reading and hated to go to sleep without finishing it. I could feel the words, the pain, the tears, and then the joy and I caught myself smiling when I felt she would smile. The book really puts a prospective on the mind of a veteran and how he put his life on the line for our freedom only to suffer mental agony more frequently than anyone deserves. My uncle drank himself to death because he could not stand the memories of war which robbed his two children of their childhood (because of his anger and alcohol abuse). Decorated heroes--these veterans were not. I admire Christal for having the courage and passion to write from her heart and mind. Great book and good job. Thank you all veterans!!!! I salute you all!!!!!
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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful
on November 6, 2012
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I encourage families of veterans of all eras to read Thirty Days with My Father: Finding Peace from Wartime PTSD. There are so many emotions tied into this story. As a family member to a veteran of war, this book will make you feel as though you are reading parts of your own life. As a civilian to the military life, you will grasp more as to what goes on behind closed doors that military and veteran families are still so reluctant to speak of. Presley has a captivating and unique way of capturing the good and bad moments in her life and pulling readers into her world. Thirty Days is an emotional read because of the sincere honesty it holds. It is a book that will remain a part in the lives and hearts of all that read it.
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