This Affair is Over!! [Paperback]

Nanette Miner (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 23, 1996

A self-help guide for the woman who is waiting for her lover to leave his wife and begin a life with her - it rarely happens. This book provides encouragement, support, and a PLAN to get out of that dead end relationship.

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From the Back Cover

Over 7O% of married men have been involved in extramarital affairs - while less than 1% actually have left their wives for their lover. This book has been written with the intent of helping women....women who are in affairs with married men and women who are contemplating an affair.

In most cases each woman who is involved with a married man believes she is the only one.... the only one who can make a "difference" in his life, the only one that he will leave his wife for, the only one he's having an affair with. She also may feel that she is the only one leading the life of "the other woman". Join the women who have realized they are not the only one.

Be prepared to read this book with a strong heart and an open mind. You'll "hear" your lover's lines, excuses and promises. This is not intended to discourage you, but rather encourage you - to reclaim your life, your self respect, your motivation and the happiness that you deserve.

About the Author

The authors interviewed 133 women nation-wide to gather their stories.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 56 pages
• Publisher: BVC Publishing; 1st edition (January 23, 1996)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0965066614
• ISBN-13: 978-0965066617
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.3 x 0.2 inches
• Shipping Weight: 3.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (22 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #694,527 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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77 of 78 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars thank heavens i read this book, May 2, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: This Affair is Over!! (Paperback)

for so long , i thought i was deranged for falling in love with a man who not only never promised to leave wife, but was happy with her. then i thought i was even more deranged for beginning to have a lower self-esteem... turns out, these affairs follow a formula. you will read about your affair, and your married boyfriend in these pages, and be angered, yet greatly comforted. you will also see why you need to leave, *and* be empowered to do so. one of the things that is so good about this book is that it is very very short, and concise. i read it in an hour, underlining and making notes in the margin. the authors get right to the point and do not pull any punches! here are a few gems from this book: "[if you are going to have affair with married man] Don't expect him to be faithful (if he is having an affair with you, faithfulness is probably not in his vocabulary), don't expect him to leave his wife, and know that it will end eventually"(pg. 4) and "Your life with him, while he stays married, will always include pain"(pg. 28) and most importantly: "He is not committing to his wife, nor is he committing to you. Stop enabling him. Stop reinforcing his behavior by staying with him or taking him back after an attempt at ending the relationship. Don't be desperate for this man's love. Don't settle for the worst you can tolerate."(pg.40) well said! a very empowering book. another excellent book in the same vein, but longer and more detailed (and not "advice" oriented) is "The New Other Woman; Contemporary Single Women in Affairs With Married Men" - just as comforting. these books will get you through it.

66 of 73 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars If he loves you he won't make you cry......., February 11, 2003

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"melissahodge8" (Australia) - See all my reviews

This review is from: This Affair is Over!! (Paperback)

I met the most beautiful man I had ever met - he was everything
I looked for in a man. I loved him. That was the moment I saw
him. On our first meeting he told me he was married - unhappily but married. Our romance, friendship and 'relationship' lasted 5 months. 7 months later ....... I am on my own. It turned out his love was for his wife meant more and that leaving her would be far more painful than giving up his love for me. I was under the sad illusion that I was the love he had only ever dreamed of. I waited to read this book because I knew it would tell me things I had previously not wanted to hear. For any woman who has loved a married man, this will help you move on as you will realise how far down the priority line you actually are. When reading this book, prepare to read things you don't want to read, feelings you don't want to feel and realities you don't want to face. Remember - if he loves you he will do whatever it takes to be with you and will never want to see you cry. If he lets you cry, he doesn't love you. Heal your heart and strive for true love. I have every hope that its out there. My heart goes out to all women that have loved married men. Nothing changes the love for my married man but I am on the willing yet long road to having to live without him. Best of luck in your struggle to move on......

26 of 29 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A gem of a book for a very taboo topic, March 16, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: This Affair is Over!! (Paperback)

I bought this book because it's so difficult to talk about being in an affair with a married man to my family, friends, etc. I felt so alone. But I'm not. After reading this book I realized how common the emotions I've gone through really are. It's easy reading, well-written, and full of bluntness (which I needed). I think it's also a wonderful book for men to read. This book is giving me the courage to move on with my life.