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The Three of Us: A Family Story [Deckle Edge] [Hardcover]

Julia Blackburn (Author)
3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)


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July 22, 2008
This is the story of three people: Julia Blackburn; her father, Thomas; and her mother, Rosalie. Thomas was a poet and an alcoholic who for many years was addicted to barbiturates, which would often make him violent. Rosalie, a painter, was sociable and flirtatious; she treated Julia as her sister, her confidante, and eventually as her deadly sexual rival. After Julia’s parents divorced, her mother took in lodgers, always men, on the understanding that each would become her lover. When one of the lodgers started an affair with Julia, Rosalie was devastated; when he later committed suicide, the relationship between mother and daughter was shattered irrevocable.

Or so it seems until the spring of 1999, when Rosalie, diagnosed with leukemia, came to live with Julia for the last month of her life. At last the spell was broken, and they were able to talk with an ease they had never known before. When she was very near the end, Rosalie said to Julia, “Now you will be able to write about me, won’t you?”

The Three of Us is a memoir like no other you have read. The writing is magical, and the story is extraordinary, not only for its honest but also for its humor and its lack of blame. Ultimately, this is a tale of redemption, a love story. It will surely become one of the classics of that genre.

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English writer Blackburn (Daisy Bates in the Desert) had two extraordinary parents, poet Thomas Blackburn and painter Rosalie de Meric. Her utterly doting father, who'd sit on the toilet seat and recite poetry with her when she bathed, eventually died of the alcohol and pill addictions that fueled his adult life. Both parents entertained long lists of lovers. After they separated, Julia (who was born in 1948) lived mostly with her mother, who painted heavily symbolic nudes and ethereal landscapes, and the young boarders her mother was forever trying to seduce. As Julia grew older, Rosalie worried that her pubescent daughter was becoming more enticing; enraged, she'd goad Julia into flirtations and then accuse her of spoiling Rosalie's romances. Julia steered clear of most of her parents' sexual nonsense, except for a significant affair with one of her mother's ex-lovers that ended with his suicide. Using excerpts from her own journal, snippets from her mother's papers and her father's poetry, Julia gradually came to terms with something her father told her, that we chose our parents so we must forgive them, if we are to forgive ourselves. Her father wasn't the problem—as bizarrely as he behaved, she'd never felt threatened by him. Instead, it's her mother's endless anger that's the vortex of this strangely compelling memoir. (July)
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"Despite the darkness of the rooms she re-enters, Blackburn's book isn't gloomy in the least . . . However unforgiving her detail, tout comprendre, c'est tout pardonner is the message of this extraordinary book."
--Blake Morrison, The Guardian

"This memoir has warmth and love it's hard to imagine could have been possible. Readers be warned--this is no misery-lit memoir. There's something else going on entirely. [The Three of Us] is also a work of art in itself: a careful weaving in and out of personal memories and present pain to create something remarkable.'
--The Herald

"Gripping . . . What sets Blackburn's memoir apart is her extraordinary ability to sit on the edges of her own drama, to notice the texture, cadence and scent of these lives and to capture th experience with a painterly precision . . . An unnerving book about manipulation and loss, and about the complicated burdens families inflict on one another down through the generations. As a literary memoir of a lost childhood, it is remarkable as much for its candour as its craftsmanship."
--The Sunday Times

"Blackburn details her first sixteen years . . . in such as ingenuous, matter-of-fact manner that she somehow manages to make terrible events seem almost funny . . . The resulting memoir is mesmerizing and brilliant."
--Daily Mail

"This is an astonishing memoir, brave and exquisitely written. The story is riveting, and its ending takes us as well as Blackburn by surprise as her mother's dying becomes the occasion for something that goes beyond reconciliation--a time of grace on both parts. Everything we think we know about families and sex and mother-daughter relations is called into question as Blackburn's unsparing eye is joined by her remarkably open heart."
--Carol Gilligan, author of In a Different Voice and Kyra: A Novel.

Product Details

  • Hardcover: 320 pages
  • Publisher: Pantheon (July 22, 2008)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0375424741
  • ISBN-13: 978-0375424748
  • Product Dimensions: 6.6 x 1.2 x 8.6 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 10.6 ounces
  • Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,187,012 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

 

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15 of 16 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars The Parents From Hell, August 2, 2008
This review is from: The Three of Us: A Family Story (Hardcover)
This is the season for memoirs of dysfunctional parents. First Miranda Seymour published "Thrumpton Hall" of her English upbringing with her eccentric father. Then Doris Lessing created "Alfred and Emily" of her parents, complete with an alternative history of them. Now Ms. Blackburn has written of her family in the 1960's in a factual matter of fact style. She introduces her alcoholic, violent father and promiscuous, sexually competitive mother in the opening chapter, while offering hope of healing at the same time so that the reader is not overwhelmed with depression. It is amazing that the author turned out to have avoided her parent's mistakes and have a happy life. She is an excellent writer and story-teller.
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Reader Makes Four, September 23, 2008
This review is from: The Three of Us: A Family Story (Hardcover)
This book was mentioned in a Harper's review about memoirs in general, and given high marks for its unusual format and content I bought it to study the writing technique and couldn't put it down. The present and past are deftly woven into a thickly textured family drama that drew me in from the very first page. The diary entries are emphatically apropos, and along with the family pictures create a sense of intimacy with the characters and scenario that feels almost like being part of the family. The story was rough, but the telling of it rang true and lent a certain stability to the challenging terrain. I highly recommend this book.
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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars A moving memoir, August 5, 2008
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It has the peace and clarity that often mark those who have been through suffering and come out the other side. The author's honesty, acceptance and humour while recounting some terrible events inspired respect and reverence in me. Julia Blackburn reminds us that, whatever has happened to us and whatever our mind has made of it, forgiveness and the unconditional love that are our birthright are always there to be reclaimed.

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