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The Threesome Handbook: A Practical Guide to SLEEPING WITH THREE

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Of the numerous `threesome' books which appear to be crowding the market right now, this one is easily my favorite.

It doesn't have a lot of pretty four-color photos. (In fact, it doesn't have any.) But it does contain a lot of good, solid advice on how to make one's threesome musings a reality.

Fantasizing about threesomes is the very first topic, and the tome starts off with a few lurid tales to get one's juices flowing.

The first half of the book basically assumes that the desire is real (and valid) and proceeds to provide helpful tips on how to deal with the emotional side of having a threesome - such as how to communicate one's desires (to one's partner or `third wheel'), how to establish boundaries (ahead of time, hopefully), and how to deal with possible jealousies (all around) - to name but a few of the issues discussed.

It's not until the middle of the text, though - that the author deals with the "queerness" factor - by highlighting how a (two-girl) threesome can be a relatively safe and more comfortable means by which to fulfill our own same sex desires (which I found to be quite helpful, especially since most of the threesomes imagined by couples will be of the girl/girl/boy type, anyway).

It's in this `queerness' section where the author (a woman) also tosses out the initials, "L-I-T" - which stands for "Lesbian (only) in Threesomes" - which I thought was really cute (and reassuring).

There are some male and female anatomical diagrams as a refresher course; and a few pages encouraging women to go slow with each other, especially since our arousal takes more time (which is in definite contrast to situations involving two guys - where getting out of the starting blocks will typically be much quicker).

Lastly, in terms of the basics, there are a few brief reminders about hygiene, cleanliness - and STD's - which are, of course, sexually transmitted diseases.

The book really hits its stride, though - when it gets to (sexual) positions - in a chapter entitled `Joy of (Sex)3' (to the third power).

If you've ever watched porn, many of these geometries (in line drawings only) will be familiar, especially the ones with two guys (where the lone gal always seems to have at least two of her orifices occupied at any given time).

But it's the depictions of the two-girl threesomes - which I found to be really refreshing (and romantic) - with many of them encouraging women to engage affectionately with each other - to a degree I've not seen on screen (but would love to!).

For example, there are several positions which have the women hugging and kissing (each other) - while the man pleasures himself with one (or both) of the gals (normally from above or behind).

Having the females kiss - actually has several advantages. It's an easier way for the girls to begin to fulfill (a portion) of their same-sex desire - without having to be fully responsible for each other's sexual satisfaction. For the clever (and acrobatic) male - it can also be fun and challenging method for enjoying both women (in quick succession) in a manner which keeps them both occupied (and entertained) - while simultaneously reassuring them of their (underlying) heterosexuality.

In one of the `girls-kissing' postures, the ladies do so - while lying on top of the guy - who is on the floor underneath them (and supporting all of their weight). The author hilariously calls this position - the "nut crusher." (Yikes!)

Other variations have the women embracing front-to-back (such as when kneeling one-behind-the-other over the edge of the bed). Kissing each other over-the-shoulder isn't as convenient, granted. But having both ladies facing in the same direction - keeps their splayed legs and knees more orderly - making it easier for the guy to go back-and-forth between them. (Oh, now I get it!)

Advancing to the next level (of female enjoyment and participation), there are several situations - where one woman orally copulates with another. Some are daisy chain variations - where the girl in the middle (either face-up or face-down) orally pleasures the gal in front of her - as her guy enjoys himself (within her) towards her other end.

In a slightly more challenging geometry -- the female in the middle kneels and positions her center over the other gal's face - as her man fornicates with the babe (being orally copulated) from the back. (Ladies, for those of you -- who have difficulty achieving an orgasm while having sex with your guy - this position might be a godsend!)

The most advanced situations (bisexually speaking), for me - are two classics where both women perform cunnilingus on each other. One, of course, is a daisy chain triangle - where each participant concentrates orally on the male or female in front of them. And a second has the two ladies engaging in a sixty-nine - as the guy partakes in the girl on top from behind. (Being either the gal up above - or below - may be a truly heady experience, indeed!)

To conclude, if you're looking for an entertaining and informative way - to heighten your fantasies (or realities) regarding threesomes (of all types) - `The Threesome Handbook' is one that I would highly recommend. Enjoy.

As someone who spends a lot of time reading and writing about sex, it's always such a treat to find a book like this amongst the rubble. Vicki not only gives heaps of enlightening information on the logistics, psychology and emotions surrounding the almighty threesome, but she does so as a great writer. After reading this I'd pretty much read anything she chose to write about. She is quite the talent (and anyone who names sexual positions such things as "Old Time Carriage Ride" and "Quilting Bee" is someone I want to know). A great read, informative and really hot. Threesomes can be tricky and this is the best book I've seen out there on how to successfully navigate the territory.

Anyone interested in having a threesome should read this book. Although you can find a lot of books about "how to" have a threesome, etc - this book has a vast amount of information regarding threesome relationships. It discusses the occasional sex threesomes, too, but exploring alternative relationships and how to have a successful committed long-term threesome is reviewed very well. I used a lot of the suggestions and it helped me process my own situation. Great read! The author's tone is fun and easy to read but very factual.

I admit when I first saw the title of the book, I was a little intimidated by it. My only experience of threesomes has been the hollywood version. The author uses a great mixture of humor, honest exercises in self-exploration, and plain language. I would recommend if anyone is curious or wanting to explore different avenues within a committed relationship, this is the book!

I was interested in learning more about threesomes, and generally fascinated by the idea, but this book is better than the bedtime reading designed to get you in the mood! You will have trouble finishing the chapter your reading because you will be looking for someone to come and share your bed! Very funny, sensual and exciting! Made me want to go out and live life, and explore myself!

The book covers all kinds of threesomes not just the stereotypical male fantasy of FMF.

The author gives good guidelines for the right and wrong reasons for having a threesome and discusses the pros and cons of a threesome. Safe sex is discussed and there is a chapter on when/if your threesome becomes permanent but the focus is mainly on the committed couple looking for a hook-up and where to find your temporary third.

if you are actually interested in a more permanent arrangement then you may be better off reading something on polyamory.

Some of the places the author advises you to seek a third may seem a bit outlandish but based on my personal experience, she was right on.

Over all, this is a good book for someone thinking about a threesome for the first time.

I found it at my local library and just had to buy it: it's that good. And, ok, I initially read it because Vantoch is married to actor Misha Collins, who I absolutely adore.
But it was fun! Very instructive, very much about people accepting themselves and their desires. I like her tips about jealousy and confidence. The positions, as well as the safer sex techniques were a delight.
What can I say? Now I'm definitely yearnin' for a few threesomes. :)

Great book to read for couples who want to enhance their love, marriage, and sexual lives. For me and my husband the sex is amazing. You have no idea what you are missing. A good threesome is like jumping out of a plane. It's so thrilling and the sex is never boring it like sex for the first time ever day. Having a threesome has been an enhancement for our marriage of 30 years. It help me overcome my shyness, insecurity in myself and jealousy. Realized jealousy is insecurity. Help me feel more secured as a woman. You don't have to be a Lesbian to enjoy a threesome. We share each other in a long term threesome and find our marriage becoming better from the experiences we have shared with others. The sharing does and will enhance/save a good marriage. It has for us after 30 years marriage together. When I think of your threesomes it gives me a big grin.

A very informative and interesting book. Makes you reflect. A "should-have-should-read" if you are thinking about trying this kind of lifestyle.

A great read if you're interested in having a threesome. Even if you're already a pro at them this is a good book to keep you on track and remind you of some of the ground rules.

With laugh filled first hand accounts Vicki Vantoch leads you through the exciting world of sexual discovery and interesting new life styles. Not leaving anything out she details the good, and potential bad, sides of threesomes in a manner that is easily understood.

Definitely one of my favorite books, and I highly recommend it if you are even sort of kind of thinking about threesomes...even if you're not that into threesomes this book still has some good ground works for couples all on their own.

Definitely a five star, two thumbs up book.

And if we're lucky, maybe she'll write another one.