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For Facing Death or for Being There Helpfully, September 9, 2009
This review is from: Through Death's Gate: A Guide to Selfless Dying (Paperback)
Here is a small book with a large value. The author has brought much ancient wisdom from Tibet into terms relevant for us today. For a spiritual, conscious death, he recommends a death prayer peopled with whoever inspires you, is your image of the divine or is the ultimate symbol to you of peace, contentment and trust.
There is help here for those who are the friends and partners or helpers. There is instruction from the ancients.
As noted also by Eckhart Tolle, the experience of dying is an opportunity for full awakening. As reported in Tibetan sacred literature and in this book, really a booklet, there are eight phases in the process of dying and when we come to the place of heartbeat and breath stopping, we are half-way through. The next four phases can take about a half hour in time and this means if you are the companion to one dying, you should remain present, in contact, fearlessly and calmly supporting the one who on death's journey. That one will encounter a series of visions in which full awakening is possible. Death coaching means letting people know that whatever they encounter, to hold calm certainty, such as cultivated through meditation on one's death prayer, and fear not.
Joel also tells us that sometimes what your friend or loved one needs is to know someone will pay the bills or water the plants, take care of everyday business, communicate with others on behalf of the person who is passing. Someone may need to act as a secretary. Someone else may need to be close in a calm and encouraging way.
I feel this is one of Joel's best works. It is a little book and one that has helped me be a friend and helper at times and also to prepare my own death prayer, peopled with only beloved figures of compassion and wisdom. Joel recommends getting proficient with one's death prayer long before it is needed because when that time comes, we might not be as strong. Planning ahead for the culminating adventure of this lifetime in a spiritual way is encouraging and reassuring and empowering in and of itself.
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