The Tibetan Art of Parenting: From Before Conception Through Early Childhood [Paperback]

Anne Hubbell Maiden (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: December 2, 2008

Steeped in the Buddhist traditions of wisdom, compassion, and the interconnectedness of all things, Tibetan childrearing practices are a refreshing new way to prepare for and raise children. This book provides a practical introduction to these practices and an integrated system of childcare that incorporates body, emotions, mind, spirit, relationships, and environment. Authors Anne Hubbell Maiden and Edie Farwell cover all aspects of traditional Tibetan parenting from conception onwards, both exploring ancient techniques and reinterpreting them for a modern audience. Far more than just a parenting guide, the book is a fascinating look into an intimate and revered part of Tibetan culture. It makes a welcome addition to the library of newlyweds, expectant parents, and parents with children of all ages who are interested in a practical approach to parenthood that recognizes community and everyone's responsibility to both self and planet.

Product Details

• Paperback: 204 pages
• Publisher: Wisdom Publications; Revised Edition edition (December 2, 2008)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0861715799
• ISBN-13: 978-0861715794
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.4 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (1 customer review)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #109,300 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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5.0 out of 5 stars Well-written and Fascinating Look at Tibetan Beliefs and Practices Regarding Parenting and Childcare, October 13, 2009

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This review is from: The Tibetan Art of Parenting: From Before Conception Through Early Childhood (Paperback)

I really enjoyed this book, but readers should pay close attention to the subtitle: From Before Conception Through Early Childhood. The first half of this book covers the stages of preconception, conception, gestation and birth, which many Westerners might not yet consider 'parenting'. Once the book does begin to cover actual childcare techniques, it is focused only on the infancy and early childhood stages. Also, readers should note that this is not a book on Buddhist parenting per se, but instead specifically covers Tibetan parenting, i.e. Tibetan cultural and medical practices. In many ways it is more of an anthropological study (and that is the background of one of its authors.) However, since Buddhism permeates every aspect of Tibetan life, I think anyone interested in Tibetan Buddhism will also get a lot from this book. Themes of karma, rebirth, and subtle energies underlie all the Tibetan's beliefs re: parenting and childcare.

Below are the seven stages of parenting presented in the book with sample insights from each stage. Note that I am only including one or two items from each stage - within the book there are many included, and each is covered in much more detail.

Preconception: Parents prepare to conceive, including at times with Buddhist rituals and purification practices, as it is believed that parental actions and states of awareness during this period will karmically influence the type of child they attract.

Conception: Beliefs related to conception are summed up as follows: "Life is ongoing, and the spirit seeking incarnation is attracted by the specific energetic quality of the parents, even as they engage in intercourse." Once conception has occurred, it is believed that the child 'forgets' its past life memories until later in gestation.

Gestation: Spiritual practice and ritual by the parents during pregnancy, especially the mother, is believed to benefit the baby. Dreams by either parent, but again particularly the mother, are important during pregnancy, and can offer clues to the child's nature and later life. In the 26th week of gestation - interestingly around the 'fetal age of viability' in Western medicine - the child begins to remember its past lives again, and it will retain these memories, at least to some extent, until the age of around 8 years old.

Birth: The belief that being born human is extremely rare and fortunate influences how Tibetans view birth. There are often rituals to celebrate, and it is viewed as one critical event within an infinite cycle of rebirths. Many Tibetans birth at home, with family members attending.

Bonding: There is a 3-4 day period of exclusively family bonding before the child is introduced to the community. Early parenting involves plenty of "water, sun, touch, fresh air, and massage" all of which provide the baby "with needed nourishment and connection to the earth."

Infancy: Tibetans believe infants are very sensitive to energies - positive and negative - that many adults have lost the capacity to feel. They take both their children's intuitions and energetic disturbances very seriously, and Lamas may be consulted in cases of both. As for a child's development, they believe that every milestone should be celebrated, and have rituals associated with many.

Early Childhood: It's believed that children have a natural purity of mind and naivete lasting up until about 8 years old that needs to be taken into account when parenting and educating them. At the same time, discipline is essential, especially in relationships, where harmony with others is emphasized above everything else.

If these themes interest you, and/or you are interested in Tibetan culture and/or Tibetan Buddhism, The Tibetan Art of Parenting is a wonderful book for learning more.