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Ties That Bind: Familial Homophobia and Its Consequences Hardcover – October 6, 2009
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Ties That Bind is one of the most exciting gay liberation texts to appear in years...this is a rewarding, wide-ranging, and challenging work from an original mind and a talented pen, one that will make you think and help you live.
Doug Ireland, Gay City News
Schulman boldly declares that visibility is a failed strategy for cultural change.
[Schulman is] a writer who has played a pivotal role in the cultural and political spheres of the gay community.
To call her book [Ties That Bind] pioneering would be redundant. . . . With its personal appeals, its call to arms or rather, ethics and its advice for therapists, family members, and gay people, I continue to be struck by the book’s usefulness above all else. . . .[I]t gives me hope that one day just as Schulman stipulates homophobia could actually be a punishable crime, we could be liberated from the systematic shame and humiliation that currently defines our culture, and in that liberation necessarily granted the rights that
we’ve lived without all this time.
Schulman’s lucid dissection of the role that families play as incubators of homophobia could hardly be better. This [is] a truly indispensable book. It should blow away the hot air generated by the public debate about family values.’
Andrew Ross, chair of the Department of Social and Cultural Analysis at York University
Sarah Schulman Ties That Bind tackles the familial and cultural homophobia that still pervade our society. She starkly lays out the fundamental immorality of such shunning behavior and its destructive consequences for everyone involved. This is an important and original book.
Martin Duberman, award-winning historian, biographer, playwright, and gay rights activist
Sarah Schulman is brilliant, vulnerable, and relentless. Ties That Bindshould be required reading for every familygay and straight.
Ellen Bass, poet and author of The Courage to Heal
A cri de coeur woven into a Utopian vision.
Susan Brownmiller, author of Against Our Will: Men, Women, and Rape
Sarah has taught me a great deal over the years of our being fellow activists and this book teaches me even more.
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Top Customer Reviews
I highly recommend this book to everyone. A reader who is homophobic might just get some insight and question that attitude. A reader who is gay and has never been victimized will get insight into what it's like for those not so lucky. A reader who is on the receiving end of the hatred and rejection will realize s/he's not alone, and maybe have some hope of how to deal with it.
It's not a particularly optimistic book, because even though Schulman tells what should happen within a family to set things right, I don't get the feeling she's optimistic about the chances of its happening. It's a dark read because of its subject, and also because she shows, sadly, that the result of being shunned and treated badly by family can lead to the victim perpetuating the treatment on a partner.
The author "takes no prisoners." She's forthright and honest and compassionate.
It's not a fun, fast, fluffy read. I found myself stopping frequently, thinking, "But why...? How can they...?" and re-reading those parts.
It's an important book, and one that cries out to be read. Schulman shouldn't be left to preach to the choir. This book should be in every public library.
1. The dominant culture uses homophobia to marginalize the gay community and repeated messages make them internalize their homophobia so that they feel down on themselves.
2. Homophobia is treated as a personal problem by society, when -- in reality -- it is a cultural crisis. Gays are marginalized on a large scale and treating as a "personal problem" someone is having is not the right way to approach it. We must recognize that this each case IS NOT AN ISOLATED INCIDENT. We must treat it as the cultural crisis that it is.
3. Homophobia is a pleasure system used by heterosexuals to maintain their privilege. Straight people OFTEN (not always) are aware of the privilege that comes with being straight, so they will use homophobia when it creates gains for themselves. This is even practiced by straight people that aren't really homophobic, but only use homophobia to gain a competitive edge against a gay person. Example: A woman is prejudice against her gay brother because it gives her favor with her parents who are very anti-gay. The woman will receive more financial, emotional and social benefit from shunning her brother.
4. The failure of therapeutic solutions: Therapists are notoriously bad at helping gay people in therapy. WHY? Because they are also products of a homophobic system. Some can be good, but they fail when dealing with gays and their homophobic families.
5. Homophobia has manifested itself within the lesbian community in regard to divorce/separation.Read more ›
Schulman forthrightly and accurately argues that homophobia is pathological, a virus insinuating itself onto the body of the family and the body politic. With stunning clarity and insight, she exposes the ways in which systems of familial homophobia operate, and the consequences this has on all family members and on the larger society. She envisions a new world, a transformed society where homophobia is rejected and shunned, where third parties intervene to eradicate this virus of familial homophobia, and where gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender people are cherished and nurtured. This book is a must read for anyone desiring to unearth the very roots of a perennial and persistent, yet often invisible pathology.
Most Recent Customer Reviews
I read the whole book, but it just felt so poorly written. I agreed with most of what the author said, but the author just goes on these long rants and comes off as angry and... Read morePublished 1 month ago by Weimo92
The book is excellent for the most part. The topic is very important and Schulman is a wonderful writer. I admire her honesty. Read morePublished 4 months ago by Drassie
Sarah makes some amazing points on homophobia's detrimental effects to homosexual people and their relationships and how to end its existence in our society.Published 5 months ago by Haili
Unremittingly depressing, grim, and fatalistic. The "It Gets Better Project" is derided as being fuzzy and vague, when in fact it tells real stories of hope and progress. Read morePublished 6 months ago by SGBook
This is a ground breaking work. I will
Continue to purchase this from you, because I find the need to share it with my GLBT friends.
Ms. Schulman brings some excellent points to light: the poor preparation of actresses to play lesbian roles, and the limited number of lesbian characters in literature and on the... Read morePublished 18 months ago by Roi Friedman
This book should be read by all young people growing up in a repressive environment.
Especially important for the youth, when they have no-one to turn to for... Read more