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Time's Up: How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships Guide Paperback – March 17, 2010

ISBN-13: 978-1608443604 ISBN-10: 1608443604

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Product Details

  • Paperback: 224 pages
  • Publisher: Dog Ear Publishing, LLC (March 17, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1608443604
  • ISBN-13: 978-1608443604
  • Product Dimensions: 0.5 x 9.5 x 7.3 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 5.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (23 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,565,257 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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As an expert in the area of intimate partner violence and the prevention of homicide, Susan has created specific tools and procedures which the abused need to safely leave a violent relationship.

Her books, "Defending Our Lives", "Moving Out, Moving On" and Time's Up, are considered the "bibles" of how to make the move away from abuse and deal with the many confusing situations surrounding violence prevention, stalking, break-up or divorce.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.

Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth http://www.therothshow.com/

Susan witnessed her father, a decorated Chicago Violent crimes Detective, brutally and violently attack her mother repeatedly. The words "if you leave I will kill you," turned into reality the night Susan walked into her childhood home and found her mother murdered and her father in the next room dead from a self-inflicted gun-shot wound to the head. Susan vowed then, and has, since the murder-suicide of her parents, carved out a road making changes in the way the world looks at violence in and outside the home.

Her books and strategies are taught world-wide and used by law enforcement, domestic abuse advocates, social workers, attorneys, health care workers, human resource departments and domestic violence agencies. The comprehensive strategies and escape plans utilized by Susan have been successful and tested by time for over 20 years.

Susan uses humor, passion, and all her years of experience to motivate her audience to become more effective first responders, advocates and professionals in their work to stop family violence.

Susan's quest for justice was instrumental in the passage of the Illinois Stalking Law and the Lauternberg Act. She has been prominently featured in newspapers, magazines, radio and television including: The Oprah Winfrey Show, A & E Biography, Larry King Radio, ABC'S 20/20, Justice Files, E-True Hollywood, CNN, Sunday Today Show Profile, Women's Day, Family Circle, US News and World Report to name only a few. She has frequently participated in guest media commentary panels on major news programs. She is a contributor to the online blogs Women in Crime Ink and the crime victims rights blog Time's Up.

Susan Murphy-Milano is the author of "Defending Our Lives" published by Doubleday books and "Moving Out Moving On" when a relationship goes wrong. Her newest book, "Time's Up" A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships, is available on-line and in bookstores. Susan is host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show and will be participating in the new television show, "Crime Wire" which will examine cases in which the investigations have left questions unanswered and possible criminal activity unexposed. Her Website is www.susanmurphymilano.com

TAGS: Stalking, Self-Help, Domestic Violence, Mental Health, Intimate Partner, Family Courts, Tracking and Safety, Prevention and Plan,

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Susan Murphy-Milano is doing great work to help victims of domestic violence.
Barry Goldstein
While this book gives an excellent step-by-step procedure for escaping an abusive relationship, even with examples, the value for me was in the very first chapter.
Charles A. Moncrief
If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship - or you work for an agency that involves victims of domestic violence, you need this book.
Danielle Pierre

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4 of 4 people found the following review helpful By Nancy S. on April 28, 2010
Format: Paperback
Murphy-Milano has given us another tool to save lives. It's practical, inspirational and USEABLE. Echoing the previous reviews with reference to the list of professionals who need to read and use timely book, I would include attorneys and judges as well. I say this as a former prosecutor and retired judge. The insights are precise and pragmatic. Buy one, donate one. I see the information this book as a treasure of information to be paid forward.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By Anny Jacoby on April 27, 2010
Format: Paperback
Times' Up must be available to every victim that needs help and assistance; Time's Up is an educational handbook that EVERY female must possess. Also, every Domestic Violence agency (National and State Coalitions as well); police departments, sheriff departments, Advocates, Churches, Libraries, Schools, Colleges and Universities must have a supply of this book in ADDITION to their suggested safety planning and counseling. Everywhere that females are, Time's Up should be available to them.

Time's Up should be included in every Criminal Justice program and Advocacy certification program as a must read/must have.

Time's Up CAN AND WILL save lives - Murphy-Milano has provided exact and precise information in detail that must be in every victim's hands. Time's Up is truly a breakthrough. Time's Up is a work of art, precise with right on target information. Nothing is left unturned.

The "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" is the most powerful tool that Susan has implemented throughout the years with women that she has worked with. Now she has introduced the world to it along with precise instructions as to how to compile the information on paper or via video.

As a Survivor, Advocate and Personal Safety Expert, I urge you to obtain your copy today. Share it with your friends, co-workers, loved ones....You never know who may be hurting behind closed doors. There is nothing wrong with being pro-active, it's being smart. An excellent reference manual.

Murphy-Milano has done it again - she has hit the ball out of the park with Time's Up.

Thank you Susan for all that you have done and continue to do in Advocacy. You are truly a Blessing to many.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Neil Schori on May 7, 2010
Format: Paperback
I have personally assisted Susan in using the techniques in her book in order to create safe plans and a little bit of hope in several womens' lives. I'm honored to pursue justice along with Susan for so many desperate people. This is an invaluable tool to the faith communities that so often turn a blind eye to women in need of assistance in the area of domestic violence. I am truly grateful to know Susan and to use her expertise to help set some captives free. May God bless your work, Susan. It is fantastic!
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4 of 5 people found the following review helpful By Lisa Michels on April 9, 2010
Format: Paperback
Susan's book is like the "Bible" for anyone in an abusive relationship. She takes your hand and walks you step-by-step through what you need to do to survive. Susan has a way of making you feel like she's there with you, giving you the strength, determination & tools you need.

If you have a friend or family member in an abusive relationship, this book is the best gift you can give them.

We need to have this in courts and shelters across the country. This is a book that needs to be made available to everyone in an abusive relationship.

Highly recommend - that's putting it lightly.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Chris Crandle on August 4, 2010
Format: Paperback
Susan Murphy-Milano is a Godsend!!! After my friend, Renee Pagel, was murdered, I came to know Susan. She has been an incredible voice for my voiceless friend whose murder remains unsolved.

I only wish my friend had known about Susan and had had a copy of this book prior to being murdered. Renee may very well still be alive today by implementing some of these tools. Certainly if she had made an "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" her killer would still not be walking around four years later.

I've recommended this book to many women. I thank God for Susan Murphy-Milano!
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Robert McDowell on July 4, 2010
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TIME'S UP is a compelling reading experience. I began and could not put it down till the end. Susan Murphy Milano gifts us with the most thorough, clear, and unflinching guide to this material that I've seen. She is fabulous when it comes to alerting people about what to look for. She's like an old-time scout on the pioneer trail whose skill and reading signs mean the difference between life and death. Milano sees into the mind and psyche of the abuser and is able to make that information clear to anyone.

This is a book you must read to expand your own consciousness. Share it with anyone you know who might be in an abusive relationship. Don't wait, don't put it off. This book literally saves lives. How many books can we say that about?

--Robert McDowell, The Poetry Mentor, [...]
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful By Diane Santhany on June 2, 2010
Format: Paperback
"Been there, done that..." Susan Murphy- Milano has turned a tired phrase into demonstrable realism through the gift of her newly published book, TIME'S UP: A GUIDE ON HOW TO LEAVE AND SURVIVE ABUSIVE AND STALKING RELATIONSHIPS. Susan's writing is based on doing. It is based on the irrefutable credential of experience, both as a residual victim of interpersonal violence and a tireless advocate for others who suffer. This book is born from working in the trenches for twenty years and the necessity of crafting working solutions to help ensure individual safety from batters and stalkers.

TIMES UP is a comprehensive guide for women in danger. Every advocate owes it to those they work to assist to obtain this book.The contents provide specific steps towards safety and addresses issues that a person who is stressed and in fear may not think of. This guide can provide structure in the midst of chaos.

Among the tools and forms is the original idea of an "Abuse Affidavit", a sworn statement detailing the facts of an individual's victimization, preserving the specifics so they are not lost even if the victim is. It is difficult to think about speaking from the grave but no different than any life insurance policy obtained in consideration for those left behind.

An "Abuse Affidavit" has the additional psychological benefit of being forced face reality and admit that the potential for the ultimate kind of violence exists...and that if it occurs the perpetrator will be held accountable.

Purchase and read TIMES UP as an advocate to continue to learn and practice informed advocacy. Give TIMES UP to concerned friends or family members looking for solutions for a loved one who is in danger. Most of all, find a way to share this valuable guide with the domestic violence and stalking victims you know and work with. It has all the information and tools to empower a crime victim to save her own life.
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