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Tired of Arguing with Your Kids?: Wisdom from Parents Who Have Been There

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Wisdom and humor are typical of Curran, but she really outdoes herself this time in "Tired of Arguing". This book gives practical suggestions to parents around issues from chronic whining to monster spray. I underlined most of it and laughed out loud over and over again at her ingenious responses to children's tedius arguments. Curran gives practical help to parents who fall into the "anger trap" and shows how humor is both a great defense and offense in the game of parenting. The "Handy Responses to Kids' Arguments" was my favorite part of the book...straightforward, honest,and effective! Anyone with a child in the argumentative years (ie, age 3-23) should have this book!

This book is a must-read for parents, grandparents or anybody else who has contact with children. Dolores Curran tells us in words and ways we understand just what to say and do when children argue. She makes us aware of why and how much they argue, then gives appropriate responses we can make for the 80% of issues which are simply repetitive hassles. This leaves us energy to deal with the 20% of serious issues. "Children argue. Good children argue with good parents. One might even suggest that arguing is part of a child's job description," says Curran. That Curran humor is very much a part of this book, making it easy to read and easy to remember. Even her chapter headings are chock full of effective techniques to adopt or points to remember. Chapter One, for example, is DETACH, DETACH, DETACH. Chapter Two is A RULE WITHOUT A CONSEQUENCE IS NO RULE AT ALL. Curran doesn't mince words. She says, "When parents express consequences but fail to carry them out, children assume all consequences to be negotiable. They become suggestions, wishes, or threats, not consequences, and lead to habitually argumentative children." She tells us how to have a kinder, gentler home...a home which is a haven, not havoc. "Tell them we love them," says Curran, and then she shows us how. Curran recognizes what parents can learn with time. "We've learned that formerly worrisome issues and conflicts disappear in the mist of memory while love endures beyond messy rooms, loud music and sibling rivalry. We pass our experiences and wisdom on to young parents with a heartfelt message, 'Lighten up and enjoy the trip.'" This is a book which can impact families in positive, positive ways. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did.

How often have you read a book for parents and laughed out loud? You will with Curran's latest. These are ideas you can use. I have, and to great effect. Dolores Curran has gathered the wisdom of many parents and grandparents of various temperaments and offers it in a concise and well-organized format. Chock full of helpful tips you'll want to try.

As every parent learns, disagreements with their children are inevitable and can lead to exasperated feelings and harsh, life affecting disputations. For many years parents have been sharing with Dolores Curran responses that worked for them when their kids started arguing with them. In Tired Of Arguing With Your Kids? she shares the best and most effective of these. Arguing with kids may be inevitable, but it doesn't have to be exhausting, emotionally scarring, unproductive, or futile. Curran writes with wit, wisdom and humor, enabling the reader to find the right words, the right attitude, and the right approaches to transforming argumentation into an effective, practical, and successful parenting tool of child management, growth and development.

I had checked this book out from the library. When I started reading it there were numerous passages that I would have highlighted had it not been a library book. The information in this book nicely complements the theories that are taught in Love and Logic.

It had some good ideas and was just as informative as the pricier ones i bought, Not much new, but i wish i had just bought this first, i could've saved $$.

(I wrote a review for this book which is a Parents'Choice Award winner about 10 days ago...if you did not get it will you please let me know so I can write another. It is a book that all parents and grandparents of teenagers should read. It is unequaled! Thanks. Margie Langstaff, judgemtl@aol.com