Amazon.com: Together Forever (9780385488754): Eric Marcus: Books

Buy Used
Used - Very Good See details
$3.64 & eligible for FREE Super Saver Shipping on orders over $25. Details

or
Sign in to turn on 1-Click ordering.
 
   
Have one to sell? Sell yours here
Together Forever
 
 
Tell the Publisher!
I'd like to read this book on Kindle

Don't have a Kindle? Get your Kindle here, or download a FREE Kindle Reading App.

Together Forever [Hardcover]

Eric Marcus (Author)
4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)


Available from these sellers.


Formats

Amazon Price New from Used from
Hardcover $24.00  
Hardcover, May 18, 1998 --  
Paperback --  

Book Description

May 18, 1998
In Together Forever: Gay and Lesbian Marriage, Eric Marcus takes us into the lives of forty couples who have been together for at least nine and as many as fifty years. From the high desert of southern California to the cliffs of northern New Jersey, Eric Marcus tells the stories of this diverse group of people who have welcomed him into their modest apartments, comfortable houses, and double-wide trailers.

Together Forever examines how these couples have successfully built happy, fulfilling lives. We learn how they met, how they've overcome their differences, survived through the rough spots, and stood up to the outside pressures and antigay prejudices that continue to threaten them. We see the couples' surprisingly close and at times estranged relationships with their families, children, grandchildren, neighbors, and colleagues. And, finally, we understand that a gay marriage is just as viable as any other--messy, complex, and inestimably rewarding.

Not just the first comprehensive look at gay marriage from the ground up, this is the kind of rewarding and compulsively readable nonfiction that can truly cross boundaries. And, as the debate over this highly controversial issue rages on, Together Forever will be a must-read for gay men and lesbians--as well as the friends and families struggling to support them.


Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

Just because gay men and lesbians are denied the right to get married under the law does not mean that there have not been gay "marriages": committed, sustained, emotional and physical relationships. In Together Forever, journalist Eric Marcus interviews 40 gay and lesbian couples who have maintained decades-long relationships and presents us with a complex tapestry of love, desire, and friendship that is as stirring as it is heartwarming, as invigorating as it is moving. While Together Forever contains much of what you might expect--coming-out stories, meeting-cute stories, tales of horrific homophobic cruelty, and just-folks-at-home images--Marcus is an astute enough writer and interviewer that the individual tales are always surprising. He is also not a single-minded booster for idealized, perfect relationships. Many of the couples here talk about their hard times with one another as well as their struggles with work and family. A compelling theme running through the book is how sexuality shapes and informs long term relationships. Questions of fidelity, open relationships, and monogamy surface in these interviews, discussed with honesty and a rare understanding and compassion. Written with a incisive eye for detail and an ear for the quirky phase and insight, Together Forever is a welcomed addition to the ever-increasing wealth of materials on the complexity and courage of gay and lesbian relationships. --Michael Bronski

Review

"A complex tapestry of love, desire, and friendship that is as stirring as it is heartwarming, as invigorating as it is moving--written with an incisive eye for detail and an ear for the quirky phrase and insight. "
--Michael Bronski, Amazon. com


From the Trade Paperback edition.

Product Details

  • Hardcover: 368 pages
  • Publisher: Doubleday; 1st Anchor Books ed edition (May 18, 1998)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0385488750
  • ISBN-13: 978-0385488754
  • Product Dimensions: 9.4 x 6.1 x 1.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 1.4 pounds
  • Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #3,927,118 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Discover books, learn about writers, read author blogs, and more.

 

Customer Reviews

3 Reviews
5 star:
 (2)
4 star:    (0)
3 star:    (0)
2 star:
 (1)
1 star:    (0)
 
 
 
 
 
Average Customer Review
4.0 out of 5 stars (3 customer reviews)
 
 
 
 
Share your thoughts with other customers:
Most Helpful Customer Reviews

11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderfully affirming of lasting same sex relationships!, May 26, 1998
By 
D. Tussey (San Francisco, CA) - See all my reviews
(REAL NAME)   
This review is from: Together Forever (Hardcover)
Eric Marcus proves once again that strong, loving relationships between people, are the same regardless of the gender of the couple. This book was a pleasure to read because it gave an honest glimpse into the lives of couples who have spent many years loving one another in spite of a sometimes disapproving world. I found many of the comments and responses of the couples to be very touching. Love is love is love.
Help other customers find the most helpful reviews 
Was this review helpful to you? Yes No


2 of 3 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars Being in Love, January 2, 2003
By 
To be able to find that special someone in the sea of crowds & fall in love it's a beautiful thing. What makes it even better is that these love stories last through the years. Dispite being in a sometimes discriminating society when it comes to gender issues, I applaud all the couples who have made it this far and to more years to come.

Through all the individual stories I read, I smile, I cried. Most importantly, I began to believe in love again.

Help other customers find the most helpful reviews 
Was this review helpful to you? Yes No


2.0 out of 5 stars 40 SAME-SEX COUPLES, September 24, 2010
Eric Marcus
Together Forever:
Gay and Lesbian Marriage

(New York: Anchor/Doubleday, 1998) 347 pages
(ISBN: 0-385-48875-0; hardback)
(Library of Congress call number: HQ76.3.U5M354 1998)

This book is based on interviews with 40 couples
who had been together at least 9 years
in what they described as a happy relationship
--20 gay male couples and 20 lesbian couples.
The over-all impression is that these are quite ordinary relationships.
The major themes: how they met; starting the relationship;
differences in life-style and personality; open or closed relationship;
housekeeping together; levels of commitment; work and colleagues;
handling money; sex; dealing with families; raising children;
problems in the relationship; dealing with change;
being public about the relationship; aging; death;
what makes a happy relationship?
The book includes pictures of several of the couples interviewed.

If you would like to read other books on same-sex marriage,
search the Internet for the following bibliography:
"SAME-SEX MARRIAGE--FIRST BOOKS".
Help other customers find the most helpful reviews 
Was this review helpful to you? Yes No

Share your thoughts with other customers: Create your own review
 
 
 
Only search this product's reviews



Inside This Book (learn more)
Browse and search another edition of this book.
First Sentence:
MY HEAD is filled with the remarkably engaging "how we met" stories of the forty couples I interviewed, and I wish I could tell them all: Stewart and Stanley, two nice middle-aged men who met at a bathhouse in Queens, New York. Read the first page
Key Phrases - Statistically Improbable Phrases (SIPs): (learn more)
gay kit, forty couples, separate finances
Key Phrases - Capitalized Phrases (CAPs): (learn more)
New York, San Francisco, Long Island, Salt Lake City, Palo Alto, Central Park, Correction Officers, Gay Men's Health Crisis, Mormon Church, Slut of the Western World, The Male Couple's Guide, World Bank
New!
Concordance | Text Stats
Browse Sample Pages:
Front Cover | Table of Contents | First Pages | Back Cover | Surprise Me!
Search Inside This Book:


What Other Items Do Customers Buy After Viewing This Item?


Suggested Tags from Similar Products

 (What's this?)
Be the first one to add a relevant tag (keyword that's strongly related to this product).
 
(4)

Your tags: Add your first tag
 

Sell a Digital Version of This Book in the Kindle Store

If you are a publisher or author and hold the digital rights to a book, you can sell a digital version of it in our Kindle Store. Learn more

Customer Discussions

This product's forum
Discussion Replies Latest Post
No discussions yet

Ask questions, Share opinions, Gain insight
Start a new discussion
Topic:
First post:
Prompts for sign-in
 

Search Customer Discussions
Search all Amazon discussions
   



So You'd Like to...


Create a guide


Look for Similar Items by Category


Look for Similar Items by Subject