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The Topping Book: Or Getting Good at Being Bad

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So you've finished "Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns" and still want more? If you're a Top, then this is the next step.

Dossie Eaton and Catherine Liszt combine to make for a very powerful read--a necessity since being a Top IS powerful

. They take you by the hand and lead you through the ins and outs of being a Top. Their handling of the rights and responsibilities of Tops is superb and the book itself is laid out in an easy to understand and straightforward manner.

They also provide many useful hints and tricks that every good Top should know. Not the least of these is how to handle a scene gone wrong, an important skill since you WILL make mistakes.

Most of all though, they dispell the myths surrounding Tops and show us for the people we are-- warm, caring, careful, and concentual. If you're wanting to be a serious Top, then you need a serious book...THIS book..

Wonderful reading for a new top. Dossie & Catherine give plenty of practical information and many great anecdotes of real-life scenes, and how D/S fits into a real life. This book will make you feel good about topping, and less fearful of trying. A great book to read after "Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns" and/or "SM101".

This book is the "companion" to The Bottoming Book and it makes a wonderful companion. I always enjoy the author's reasonably succinct and occasionally humorous style. They also use anecdotes to make a point.

The book covers a lot of topics important to Tops, including a Top Bill of Rights, How to get into 'Top space,' and what to do when a scene goes wrong. I think every Top would like to know what to do when that occasionally happens with a partner.

If you're a Top (and even if you're not), you should grab a copy of this book.

as a switch...as well as a novice to the whole D/s scene this book became one of my three bible books <along with the bottoming book> It offers examples, shows sides of D/s that aren't normally chatted about. I find as I progress and understand my own experinces better that this book has acknowlegde the stages that I have passed through and offers me the support and understand I need. After reading it I know I am not crazy... that I am a good Top, and how to be a better bottom for my Top as well. This is a MUST READ... for any one who is interest in the scene...

Well written, clear, and concise... an easy to understand quick read... the cute illustrations even gave me a few ideas. Dossie and Catherine are always very good about including all genders, preferences, and relationships. Safety is stressed- as always. Well worth the time and few bucks.

Get lots of copies! You'll want to give this book away. A lot. Every top should have one, and every bottom should, too. The Topping Book is a visit to the psyche of the top, and for those of us on the receiving end it is quite enlightening. It's also got the authors' usual collection of stories of their own exploits.

I give this to many of the Tops that I play with, especially the beginners. It's a great start. However, it should be used in conjuction with information about technical use and safety. The sister book, _The_Bottoming_Book_, is also a really great book for novice or old fogey. Not positive about Old Guard, so keep that bias in mind.

I'm too shy to go to BDSM clubs or answer BDSM personal ads, so I have yet to actually try the vast majority of things I've fantasized about. But this book made me feel much more comfortable with being a sexually aggressive woman who likes to do unusual things and to feel like there isn't anything wrong with me for being this way. And it also gave me insight into my own submissive tendencies, too. I think I may be what is called a "switch" I understand the theory... just have to get up the nerve to do things! Everything is consenting, of course, but I'm still working on "getting good at being bad". That's not the book's fault -- it's an irony that I have these incredible aggressive, "topping" tendencies sexually, but socially I'm quite shy and not very aggressive. I have to get the acts out of my head and into the bed, is my problem.

The information in this book is presented factually, with helpful examples, and with humor. It's reassuring and encouraging without being intimidating or going over one's head. If I ever get the nerve up to drag my boyfriend to any BDSM clubs with me, maybe we'll start "playing" this way. We have some of the accoutrements... I plan to get more... one of these days, hopefully... The book really helped me stop feeling bad about wanting to be dominant and aggressive. If nothing else ever happens, that alone will be enough for me to recommend this book to other women who feel the same way.

This is book was a very fun and informative read. It talks about the rights and responsiblities of the Top and what it is like to be a top. It tells you that Tops and bottoms are equals. I really enjoyed the chapter on the spiritual side of SM. I highly reccomend this one.

I came across this book from a bondage partner that I met recently who was quite new at this lifestyle. This book has appeal to the newbies. Not the best, but not that bad either.I would recommend Sm101 or Screw the Roses as better books.Celebrate Life