FROM THE NEW YORK TIMES:
"TORN is filled with the voices of women trying to solve an impossible equation, all doing the best they can. These nearly four dozen writers include a wide swath of the real world - attorneys and professors, software designers and social workers, soldiers and stay-at-home moms. They live on good incomes, and reduced incomes, and, in one case, on welfare. They are married, divorced and single. They write about big things (cancer, depression, regrets, teen pregnancy, readjusting to being a mom after being a soldier in Iraq) and small (worm bins, cupcakes, speeding tickets, Dora the Explorer, dirty diapers.)
All of them have one thing in common - they have all compromised. Whether theirs is a compromise they can live with is the central question."
-- Lisa Belkin, The New York Times
“For those of us who live in a constant state of anxiety about how we’ve compromised our careers for our kids or the other way around, books about the the work/life balance and how other women have dealt with it remain perennially interesting. Torn is a welcome addition to this body of work …. The point that nobody actually has it all is made all the more compelling when it is made by a choir of voices.”
– Deborah Netburn, Los Angeles Times“Torn offers up the finest imaginable gift for today’s moms, no matter whether you work or stay at home: the comforting truth that we all juggle life and kids as best we can, and that moms ride this nutty ‘mommy wars’ roller coaster together."
- Leslie Morgan Steiner, author of Mommy Wars and the NY Times bestseller, Crazy Love
"A fascinating look at Mothering 2.0. In Torn, a new generation of mothers explores the delicate balancing act of work and family life with intelligence, wit, and candor."
--Willow Bay, Senior Editor, The Huffington Post, and Special Correspondent, Bloomberg Television
"A tender, humorous, and sometimes heartbreaking collection of experiences as unique as the women who lived them. For those of us who were guided, and often defined, by the women's movement, these stories resonate in a way that is both sustaining and essential."
--Victoria Zackheim, Editor, He Said What? Women Write About Moments When Everything Changed
"Torn is a poignant look at how a generation of mothers is trying to forge its own identity while honoring the legacy of 60s and 70s feminism. Sometimes freedom can be its own trap, and this book illustrates that principle beautifully."
--Neal Pollack, Vanity Fair columnist and author of Alternadad and Stretch
"Finally, a reality-based look at life, love and motherhood for real women from real women. No quick fixes or fantasy escapes here. Just good, old-fashioned, in-the-trenches camaraderie that lets you know you are not alone and that the fight is worth it. Really!"
--Allison Glock, author of the award-winning memoir Beauty Before Comfort and mother of two girls she still hugs in public
"Torn speaks a bold, discomfiting truth: there is no easy solution when it comes to balancing career and parenting. These unflinchingly honest stories reveal the unusually high stakes of women's choices about work and family--for their marriage, their children, their career, their financial life, and especially for their own identity. This book is a vital contribution to the conversation about the value of domestic life and the hidden costs of work for women and their families. Offering neither easy solutions nor judgment, its hope lies in its willingness to fully engage the messy realities that so many women face every day."
--Lisa Harper, author of A Double Life, Discovering Motherhood (Winner of the 2010 River Teeth Literary Nonfiction Award)
"Sharp, poignant and sometimes funny stories about some very unfunny issues that mothers grapple with daily. If you have a mother, are a mother or know a mother, read this book."
--Katherine Clifford, Founder of Youronramp.com
"As a therapist who sees many women torn between the conflicting demands of motherhood, marriage and career, I believe that the deep empathy and understanding created by these remarkably honest and moving personal testimonies makes this book a 'must read' both for women struggling to create work-life balance and for men trying to understand the plight of the women in their lives."
--Geraldine Alpert, Ph.D., Licensed Clinical Psychologist and Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry, University of California Medical School, San Francisco
"In a culture that obsesses over every conceivable determinant of a woman's identity, from physical appearance to marital status, from mothering skills to career potential, the real women behind the societal images often get lost. Finally, 46 successful, well-educated women have taken on the ch --Karen Carrera, former Deputy City Attorney, San Francisco, and board member, Equal Rights Advocates
"With Torn, Samantha Walravens offers a diverse collection of voices making a valuable contribution to our ongoing discussion about trying to maintain a career while raising a family. These writers are sometimes rueful and sometimes quite raw, but always compellingly honest. They insist we set aside guilt and judgment and instead listen to their truths--complicated and difficult as they are--in the hope that someday our children will feel less torn."
--Caroline Grant, Editor-in-Chief, LiteraryMama.com and co-editor, Mama, PhD: Women Write About Motherhood and Academic Life
"Suffice it to say that I started reading the book in the subway and missed my stop! These little essays, often poignant, capture where American mothers find themselves today."
--Joan C. Williams, Distinguished Professor of Law, Founder/ Director, Center for WorkLife Law, University of California, Hastings College of the Law
Motherhood can make you feel crazy...with many peaks and valleys.
This thoughtful compilation of essays is well written and provides a broad breadth of perspective that speaks to so many women.
Ms. Walravens has captured the mixed feelings and anxiety many women feel while trying to balance work and family.
I love this book! TORN clearly addresses the challenge that so many mothers face today; the balance of raising well adjusted children and pursuing a career. Read morePublished 3 months ago by AM
Samantha did a webinar for my company discussing the concepts in the book. Our audience was so pleased with the he session and it was one of our best rated sessions. Read morePublished 5 months ago by Maria Goldsholl
Torn is a valuable and thought-provoking read. It is true the perspectives presented in this book come from a relatively small subset of privileged women who enjoy advantages and... Read morePublished 13 months ago by J. Lee
I wanted so much to love this book as it speaks to so many things dear to my heart. I wanted to read these essays and feel a deep affinity with the mothers and what they were... Read morePublished 14 months ago by JEN
This book is a series of anecdotes from women who are splitting their time and energy between working and caring for their family. Read morePublished 15 months ago by Amazon Customer
I was very moved by all of the diverse stories in this anthology of stories of both Stay at home Moms, and Working Moms. Read morePublished 17 months ago by R. Rosenbluth
Most parenting books offer one model for how one "should" parent. Samantha Walravens' book shatters that format, along with pretty and petty preconceptions and misconceptions... Read morePublished 19 months ago by DG
I found the stories in the book insightful, but I can't say it's really changes my fundamental views on motherhood and the incredibly diifcult balance of working as well.Published 20 months ago by hobokenite reader
Yes, as some reviewers have noted, this is a book about the challenges faced by a specific--and privileged--demographic: that of well-educated (and usually well-off) women in the... Read morePublished 21 months ago by A reader