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Total Flirt: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques Every Girl Needs to Get the Guy [Kindle Edition]

Violet Blue
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Book Description

Truth be told, it is not blondes who are having more fun--it is the total flirts! Flirting is half desire to flirt with someone we find attractive, and the other half is knowing how to use the "tools of the flirting trade." Our desire to connect with someone cute gives us motivation, and our body, mind, and conversational skills make a flirty encounter a fun, adventurous reality.

If you are not a born flirt, and most of us are NOT, you can learn this very seductive art from the best in the business, Miss Violet Blue! It is a skill you can hone into a craft. Any girl can be a good, fun, brazen, sassy, or great flirt! Total Flirt is the hip girl's handbook to getting any guy you want. Under Violet's wise and helpful tutelage, you can become a flirting diva. Or, if you are not quite a diva, this book is for you, too, and you'll find it laced throughout with humorous personality tests and wile caricaures of flirty personal you can try on or use for inspiration. Total Flirt teaches readers how to walk like a siren, talk like a bombshell, seduce like a vamp, and even how to do all this on the Internet--the essential guide to having a good time anywhere, anytime, and with anyone.

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From the Author

Learn how to flirt. The Total Flirt is fun and funny and sweet, but it takes no prisoners -- unless it's the sexy one you're intereted in catching. It also teaches you how to get out of awkward flirting situations, exit lines and strategies, and how to know when they guy you're flirting with is a bad idea. 
Total Flirt is a guide we smart girls have been waiting for. Finally: A real flirting, pick-up arts, and hookup guide for girls who want to get what they want. Every woman: from the shy and nerdy to the brazen or even the girl who wants to know what to say to that hottie who makes her blood run hot. And keep the conversation going: At parties, in cafes, online, anywhere. It also teaches us how to turn the tables on guys trying to trick us with "mind control" techniques -- or even use their techniques to our advantage. I had a lot of fun telling you exactly how to use their "secrets" to get what you want. 
In the back of the book, I put instructions to get a free special bonus chapter by visiting and entering a secret code (it's in the book!) to get your prize - more essential flirting info, advanced tips, and more. 
Look for the Total Flirt app for Apple and Android, a "pocket wingmate" that guides you like a best friend through in-person flirting situations. I've had a lot of fun writing, researching and dreaming up smooth ways to make flirting and picking up hotties easy and super-fun.  
Remember: it's always better to be flirty than forgotten.

Product Details

  • File Size: 281 KB
  • Print Length: 206 pages
  • Page Numbers Source ISBN: 1573446467
  • Publisher: Viva Editions (February 1, 2011)
  • Sold by: Amazon Digital Services, Inc.
  • Language: English
  • Text-to-Speech: Enabled
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  • Lending: Not Enabled
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #705,464 Paid in Kindle Store (See Top 100 Paid in Kindle Store)
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7 of 8 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Good Ideas, but Limited Scope March 20, 2011
By Fuji
Format:Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase
The book comes with a lot of good ideas, but I personally feel that the author has boxed her audience into categories, which is great if you fall into any of them or any combination of them, but bad if you don't. She approaches almost all of her tips from within those categories (if you are ____, then____), which is useful to do as an examples section for each chapter, but these categories pretty much dominate her whole book.

I took her quiz and scored "none of the above" for almost every question. I am not shy and a sweetheart like her first category, but I am also not going to jump on the next guy that walks in the door... which is pretty much the next step up from being a sweetheart in the author's eyes. With so much diversity among women out there, approaching all women using only 4 stereotypical categories is a very, very bad idea.

I downloaded this book because it was free, and I could recommend the same as long as it is free. Otherwise, before you pay for this book, take the quiz to find out what type of flirt you are but add "none of the above" as a line for each question. If you find that you are circling "none of the above" more often than any of the choices, this is probably not the book for you.
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6 of 7 people found the following review helpful
1.0 out of 5 stars A waste of time, but not of money May 21, 2011
Format:Kindle Edition|Verified Purchase
I'm glad this book was free. Much of it is filler, and what little advice it offers can be incredibly inane and counterproductive.
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7 of 9 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Flirting for smarties! Violet always delivers. January 29, 2011
Flirting for Dummies? I think not. The techniques Violet includes in this are tips and trick that work for those of us who are Flirting Femme Fatales and for those of us who are Flirting Beginners, too. All of Violet's books are for sassy and smart women who want it all - like me!

I love the 5 elements of the wordless seduction and how to hypnotize him with your hands. And, I love the reminder that there are all kinds of flirting styles and reasons to flirt. Flirting is healthy for you and all flirting does not have to end in a one night stand or even a date. Flirting is a very fun and sometimes intense way to interact with another person - male or female. It's fun for everyone and maked everyone feel ab fab!

Don't miss the chapter on reading body language and how to pay attention to your own body language so you are giving off the right signals. Fantastic handbook for flirting newbies and flirting vixens. Another awesome book from Voilet Blue.
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8 of 11 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Flirting the Fun and Fabulous Way! January 29, 2011
You just spotted an incredibly cute guy across the room. But, you feel too timid and shy to approach him. Or, you're doubting your mojo, because you feel like your game is played out. Violet Blue is here to help with a brand new, amazing book called Total Flirt: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques Every Girl Needs to Get the Guy. It is a modern, fun and informative book that gives even the most reticent girl the skills and advice she needs to snag that hottie at the end of the bar or sitting beside her on the subway.

Don't know where to begin? Violet Blue makes it simple. Take the quiz at the start of the book and determine your flirting style. (I'm a `Sweetheart'--but you could also be a Diva, Femme Fatale or my personal favorite, Ruler of All Mankind. Or, maybe you a little bit of all of them!) Worried about saying the wrong thing? Don't! Just go to the chapter on wordless flirting and break the ice without uttering a syllable. There are also stellar tips on feeling sexy, flirting in the tech age and how to avoid those flirting pitfalls that every girl falls victim to.

The book is small enough to stash in a purse, for quick reference. If carrying a real book just isn't your style, there's a more modern way to get help! That's right, there is also the Total Flirt App for help with any flirting situation that might come your way, right on your mobile device. What could be better?

So, for those women out there looking for the best way to approach the guy of their dreams, or just looking for confidence when chatting up men, buy this book. Then, let the flirting fun begin!
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8 of 11 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Nothing but good things can come of this book. February 1, 2011
By Daphna
I usually do not post reviews but I seem compelled to this time around. I initially got this book to fine tune some of my flirting skills and instead enjoyed an easy read and learned some valuable life skills as the same time.

Violet cuts to the chase and give you the power to own yourself and use the power you already have inside of you. I found an new inner voice that gave me a greater self confidence not only in flirting but in business as well. You should see how I enter a room now. Thanks for the new walk. Ally McBeal would be jealous. My inner soundtrack is way better than hers.

I also believe this book would really benefit women who are getting out and dating again after a dry spell. I know a few friends who are going to get a copy if you know what I mean.

Reading Total Flirt felt like I was getting the inside scoop from a trusted friend. Like Oprah's Gayle. You know Gayle would not steer Oprah wrong and neither will Violet with this book.

So I know have that "take no prisoners--unless they're cute. Then I'm the warden" attitude.

Thank you for leveling the playing field for us girls. Ladies we all should have this book in our arsenal.
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
2.0 out of 5 stars Two Stars
Corny, outdated tips.
Published 4 months ago by Vanessa Villalobos
1.0 out of 5 stars nothing in this book works at all
I have already tried most of what is in this book and it dosen't work! It is the same cliche garbage most books are. It has a huge emphisis on things like make up and clothes. Read more
Published on February 23, 2013 by tarotqueen
1.0 out of 5 stars Marriage killer
This might be a great book for a single girl. But when you find out that your wife ordered it on your Amazon account, then I guess it explains the affair. Nice, real nice.....
Published on January 19, 2013 by Scalded Dog
2.0 out of 5 stars Point..
While I enjoy reading what the other half reads, I never understood the point to "how to get the guy" type books. Read more
Published on August 29, 2011 by M. Otto
4.0 out of 5 stars Great little book for anybody who wants a little flirty fun
The naysayers just need to chill out. Yes, there are some really silly bits in this book (like choosing a flirt name) but come on people, it's meant to otherwise uptight or shy... Read more
Published on July 7, 2011 by Lola Wants and Gets
1.0 out of 5 stars Please
This was a free Kindle book or nearly free and I think I paid too much for it.

There is no earth-shattering information in here. Read more
Published on June 17, 2011 by txeggplant
1.0 out of 5 stars Really?
This book is beyond dumb. This is not a book on how to be flirty, but rather how to be slutty and aggressive. This is not a book on how to get a guy, but how to get laid.
Published on June 7, 2011 by Syberchica
1.0 out of 5 stars What a waste of time!
Wow, was this a horrible book. Nothing useful. Not even mildly funny. Such a disappointment! Was hoping to laugh and maybe learn some new skills. No such luck. Read more
Published on April 1, 2011 by sarahsades
1.0 out of 5 stars ....ridiculously boring
Thank the Lord I got this for free! I swear! the pretty pink color on the cover hypnotised me!!

I actually sat down all serious ready to get some "tips and tricks", but... Read more
Published on March 29, 2011 by Ce.Se
5.0 out of 5 stars Laugh and learn
This was such an enjoyable and quick read. I laughed out loud at many parts, which is something I rarely do with a book. Read more
Published on March 21, 2011 by Terri W. Green
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More About the Author

Ms. Violet Blue is an investigative tech reporter at CNET, Zero Day, ZDNet, and CBS News, as well as an award-winning sex author and columnist, making her the foremost expert in the field of sex and technology. She has authored and edited several award winning, best selling books in eight translations. Ms. Blue is on Twitter @violetblue and her human sexuality blog is

Blue has reported on hacking, cyber crime and personal privacy violations in countries such as Malaysia, Germany, Russia, China, the Dominican Republic, the United States, and Serbia. Her work as a journalist has broken many large stories about hacking and cybercrime, affecting the largest online companies and millions of users. Blue is the journalist who broke the story when Anonymous hacked The U.S. Federal Reserve ("The Fed" Bank), the story in which social sharing app Snapchat was hacked and its user database maliciously exploited, and the story when Comcast was hacked and millions of user accounts were compromised. She is also responsible for breaking several critical stories in which Apple iMessage and Apple iCloud were exploited, and when hackers showed how to hack an Apple iPhone in 60 seconds.

Blue has appeared on CNN and The Oprah Winfrey Show and is regularly interviewed, quoted, and featured in a variety of publications that include ABC News and the Wall Street Journal. She has been a sex columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle.

She has been at the center of many Internet scandals, including Google's "nymwars" and Libya's web domain censorship and seizures--Forbes calls her "omnipresent on the web" and named her a Forbes Web Celeb. She has given keynote talks at such conferences as ETech, LeWeb, and the Forbes Brand Leadership Conference, she received a standing ovation at Seattle's Gnomedex, and has given two Tech Talks at Google. In 2012, Blue presented "Hackers and Harm Reduction" on the featured stage for CCC's 29c3 hacker conference in Hamburg.

The London Times named Violet Blue one of "40 bloggers who really count."


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