Ever wish you had a cheat sheet for flirting? Total Flirt is the hip girl's handbook to getting any guy you want. With the techniques in Total Flirt, no guy will ever be "out of your league."
Know how some girls seem to have secret tricks to get guys? And guys use tricks like "The Game" to get girls? Well, here they are. This is Girl Game.
Total Flirt is packed with tricks and tips for every situation you'll encounter when out on the prowl. Secrets of pick-up artists are explained and styled for the girl who wants more out of life.
Spend 20 minutes with Total Flirt and learn:
Two distinctive ways to flirt, and why you need to know the difference.
Total Flirt relies on the science of kinesics, the study of body language and its hidden messages: learn how to communicate magnetism and seduce your target - or get rid of someone -without words.
Take style quizzes to see what kind of flirt you are, and what kind you could be.
Master the art of "speed flirting" and how to tell if he's worth it.
Get oodles of conversation starters - and exit strategies when you need to hit the "eject" button.
Find out how to tell if he's really into you (or just a friend), and how to eliminate the competition.
Learn how to walk like a siren, talk like a bombshell, and seduce like a vamp -- learn how to do it on Twitter, email, social networks and more.
How to get guys you think are "out of your league."
This fun and breezy purse-sized "pocket wingmate" is perfect for girls who just wanna have fun, and those looking for "the one." The Total Flirt is from sexuality expert and bestselling author Violet Blue - formulated from years of research, studies, and infiltration of male and female pick-up artist societies.
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Learn how to flirt. The Total Flirt is fun and funny and sweet, but it takes no prisoners -- unless it's the sexy one you're intereted in catching. It also teaches you how to get out of awkward flirting situations, exit lines and strategies, and how to know when they guy you're flirting with is a bad idea.
Total Flirt is a guide we smart girls have been waiting for. Finally: A real flirting, pick-up arts, and hookup guide for girls who want to get what they want. Every woman: from the shy and nerdy to the brazen or even the girl who wants to know what to say to that hottie who makes her blood run hot. And keep the conversation going: At parties, in cafes, online, anywhere. It also teaches us how to turn the tables on guys trying to trick us with "mind control" techniques -- or even use their techniques to our advantage. I had a lot of fun telling you exactly how to use their "secrets" to get what you want.
In the back of the book, I put instructions to get a free special bonus chapter by visiting thetotalflirt.com and entering a secret code (it's in the book!) to get your prize - more essential flirting info, advanced tips, and more.
Look for the Total Flirt app for Apple and Android, a "pocket wingmate" that guides you like a best friend through in-person flirting situations. I've had a lot of fun writing, researching and dreaming up smooth ways to make flirting and picking up hotties easy and super-fun.
Remember: it's always better to be flirty than forgotten.
From the Back Cover
The Insider's Guide to Being a Total Flirt
Did you know there are two types of flirting? Have you ever wished you could "just tell" if he was interested in you? Whether you're tired of waiting for your chance or you want to play for higher stakes, Total Flirt will teach you the tools of the flirting trade–and sexy secrets no girl should be without. You will learn how to walk like a siren, talk like a vixen, seduce like a vamp, always have a great time, and take home the prize. If you are not a born flirt (and most of us are not), you can learn this very seductive art from Violet Blue, author of "the kissing bible," Seal It with a Kiss. Offering up years of research in her trademark witty, girlfriend-to-girlfriend style, Violet shows you the skills you need to be a world-class charmer. Total Flirt is the indispensable guide to getting what you want. Sweet or wicked, sassy or seductive, no girl needs to go it alone.
The London Times named Blue "one of the 40 bloggers who really count"
"Violet Blue is omnipresent on the Web." -Forbes
"Violet Blue is the leading sex educator for the Internet generation." --Webnation
"America's leading (very) public intellectual sexologist, Violet Blue." --The Institute for Ethics and Emerging Technologies
Violet Blue (tinynibbles.com) is a top 25 Forbes "Web Celeb" and one of Wired's "Faces of Innovation." Blue is regarded as the foremost sexuality and technology futurist and sex-positive pundit in mainstream media (such as The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, Attack of The Show and The Tyra Banks Show). A published feature writer and columnist for CBSi/ZDNet, Violet also has many award-winning, best selling books. Her books are featured on Oprah's website.
She is regularly interviewed, quoted and featured prominently by major publications and media outlets including Wired (and Wired UK), Newsweek, MSNBC, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, Salon.com, BBC, CNN, The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, Cinematical, PBS: Mediashift, CBS, The History Channel, Esquire, Jane, Maxim, Marie Claire and more. Violet is the author and editor of over thirty award-winning, best selling books and was the notorious sex columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle. She is a renowned blogger, high-profile tech personality, the first female podcaster, currently a reporter for long-running web TV show Geek Entertainment Television, and professional speaker, including two Google Tech Talks at Google, Inc.
Violet Blue's many books have won numerous awards and accolades and have been translated into seven languages. Blue connects with an audience of over 7 million a month with her podcast "Open Source Sex", named for the intersection of technology and sex, and the free-flowing information exchange of the open source software movement.
Forbes called her podcast "One of the Internet's most popular podcasts."
In addition to mainstream media features and guest blogging for sites such as Laughing Squid, Blue writes for media outlets such as Forbes, O: The Oprah Magazine, MacLife, and UN sponsored international health organization, RH Reality Check. She has contributed essays to eleven nonfiction books about sex and culture, and has been cited and quoted as a sex and future tech expert in print outlets ranging from Wired UK's "Experts Predict The Future" feature to David Levy's "Love + Sex With Robots."
Violet lectures about Internet sexuality to cyberlaw classes at UC Berkeley (Boalt; Samuelson Law Clinic), human sexuality programs at UCSF, volunteers as an advisor and instructor about sexual health and human sexuality to sex crisis counselors at community teaching institutions. She is considered an expert in the field of sex and technology, and has been invited to speak about the topic at conferences ranging from O'Reilly's ETech, Gnomedex, LeWeb and SXSW: Interactive and has given two Google Tech Talks at Google, Inc.
Oft-quoted and sourced, Violet has been a published writer in the field of sex and culture since 1999, was the first female podcaster and is a respected digital privacy advocate.
The book comes with a lot of good ideas, but I personally feel that the author has boxed her audience into categories, which is great if you fall into any of them or any combination of them, but bad if you don't. She approaches almost all of her tips from within those categories (if you are ____, then____), which is useful to do as an examples section for each chapter, but these categories pretty much dominate her whole book.
I took her quiz and scored "none of the above" for almost every question. I am not shy and a sweetheart like her first category, but I am also not going to jump on the next guy that walks in the door... which is pretty much the next step up from being a sweetheart in the author's eyes. With so much diversity among women out there, approaching all women using only 4 stereotypical categories is a very, very bad idea.
I downloaded this book because it was free, and I could recommend the same as long as it is free. Otherwise, before you pay for this book, take the quiz to find out what type of flirt you are but add "none of the above" as a line for each question. If you find that you are circling "none of the above" more often than any of the choices, this is probably not the book for you.
Flirting for Dummies? I think not. The techniques Violet includes in this are tips and trick that work for those of us who are Flirting Femme Fatales and for those of us who are Flirting Beginners, too. All of Violet's books are for sassy and smart women who want it all - like me!
I love the 5 elements of the wordless seduction and how to hypnotize him with your hands. And, I love the reminder that there are all kinds of flirting styles and reasons to flirt. Flirting is healthy for you and all flirting does not have to end in a one night stand or even a date. Flirting is a very fun and sometimes intense way to interact with another person - male or female. It's fun for everyone and maked everyone feel ab fab!
Don't miss the chapter on reading body language and how to pay attention to your own body language so you are giving off the right signals. Fantastic handbook for flirting newbies and flirting vixens. Another awesome book from Voilet Blue.
I usually do not post reviews but I seem compelled to this time around. I initially got this book to fine tune some of my flirting skills and instead enjoyed an easy read and learned some valuable life skills as the same time.
Violet cuts to the chase and give you the power to own yourself and use the power you already have inside of you. I found an new inner voice that gave me a greater self confidence not only in flirting but in business as well. You should see how I enter a room now. Thanks for the new walk. Ally McBeal would be jealous. My inner soundtrack is way better than hers.
I also believe this book would really benefit women who are getting out and dating again after a dry spell. I know a few friends who are going to get a copy if you know what I mean.
Reading Total Flirt felt like I was getting the inside scoop from a trusted friend. Like Oprah's Gayle. You know Gayle would not steer Oprah wrong and neither will Violet with this book.
So I know have that "take no prisoners--unless they're cute. Then I'm the warden" attitude.
Thank you for leveling the playing field for us girls. Ladies we all should have this book in our arsenal.
You just spotted an incredibly cute guy across the room. But, you feel too timid and shy to approach him. Or, you're doubting your mojo, because you feel like your game is played out. Violet Blue is here to help with a brand new, amazing book called Total Flirt: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques Every Girl Needs to Get the Guy. It is a modern, fun and informative book that gives even the most reticent girl the skills and advice she needs to snag that hottie at the end of the bar or sitting beside her on the subway.
Don't know where to begin? Violet Blue makes it simple. Take the quiz at the start of the book and determine your flirting style. (I'm a `Sweetheart'--but you could also be a Diva, Femme Fatale or my personal favorite, Ruler of All Mankind. Or, maybe you a little bit of all of them!) Worried about saying the wrong thing? Don't! Just go to the chapter on wordless flirting and break the ice without uttering a syllable. There are also stellar tips on feeling sexy, flirting in the tech age and how to avoid those flirting pitfalls that every girl falls victim to.
The book is small enough to stash in a purse, for quick reference. If carrying a real book just isn't your style, there's a more modern way to get help! That's right, there is also the Total Flirt App for help with any flirting situation that might come your way, right on your mobile device. What could be better?
So, for those women out there looking for the best way to approach the guy of their dreams, or just looking for confidence when chatting up men, buy this book. Then, let the flirting fun begin!
