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Forgiving a spouse
on February 9, 2011
I am currently going through a divorce in which I did not want because I was married to a man who professes to be a Christian but was not willing to work on the problems we were having. On the day of our 30th anniversary he came to our home to let me know he had a lawyer and also had stopped his direct deposit from going into our account. I had so many emotions going on that I didn't know whether to scream, kill him, or what. As the weeks have progressed (now been 10 mths since he left on the first occasion)resentment, anger and hatred were welling up inside of me and I knew I had to do something with these emotions. I had already read the book and so I ordered the workbook. I am also a Christian who believes that the Word of God is true from Genesis to Revelation. I also knew the I had to forgive my husband for severing our marriage and causing much pain to my 23 yr. old son and myself. It has not been easy but what I have gained by Kendall's words from 1 Corth. 13 is that I had longed to be loved like the description he gives. One of the biggest obstacles I had to overcome was the fact that my husband had dates and times of when had not followed through with the love described above. I have admitted that I made mistakes in our marriage and was willing to work to correct those mistakes. I applaud Kendall for pointing out that when you truly love someone you don't keep a record of it and more importantly you don't give it to your lawyer to use as ammunition. That's where I had to forgive and I did. I went to him and read a letter that I had written from the heart explaining to him that I had forgiven him and that I hoped that he would have a better life presently and in the future.