Tough Love (Revised Edition): How Parents Can Deal with Drug Abuse [Paperback]

Pauline Naff (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 1996

Tough Love is hope. It is help. It is a way of recovery for drug abusers, and a positive, supportive program for their families. Tough Love is a gift of love and a gift of life for those who practice its plan. It is a book for all parents, especially those whose children are now on drugs or are exposed to those who use drugs. Pauline Neff has gathered enthralling, real-life accounts of young drug users who needed help and of their parents' role in seeing that they received it. Eight families describe, in very graphic, heartrending terms, how their children successfully beat the drug habit through The Palmer Drug Abuse Program. PDAP is a privately financed twelve-step program, similar to the steps of AA. Ms. Neff explains each step to show how families can interpret and work through these steps in their own lives. Thousands of young people have found help through this method. Families have been reunited, and parents' own lives have been changed drastically in the process. If you are a parent of a young person in America today, Tough Love may be the most important book you will ever read. It may save your life.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Having a child addicted to alcohol or drugs is one of the most heartbreaking and challenging problems that parents may face. Here, in a revision of her bestselling 1982 book, Neff offers practical, loving and completely updated help to those struggling with that situation. Although the specific 12-step program that Neff stresses does not exist everywhere, parents can adopt the principles she outlines and form support groups with other parents. Central to Neff's approach is "detachment from the abuser," which entails allowing the abuser to "bottom out" without "padding the corners" (often called "enabling" in other references). This method, argues Neff, provides one of the few hopes for the abuser and his or her family. It is also terrifying, however, to parents who lack the support and distancing of the tough-love approach. By far the largest part of Neff's book is devoted to the stories of seven families who have faced the crisis of the addicted child and come through it stronger and more spiritually intact. In short, this book should be required reading for every parent with a child in trouble.
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Product Details

• Paperback: 158 pages
• Publisher: Abingdon Press; Revised edition (April 1996)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0687018250
• ISBN-13: 978-0687018253
• Product Dimensions: 7.9 x 5.2 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.0 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (4 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #629,168 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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60 of 64 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Description, July 19, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Tough Love (Revised Edition): How Parents Can Deal with Drug Abuse (Paperback)

Having a child addicted to alcohol or drugs is one of the most heartbreaking and challenging problems that parents may face. Here, in a revision of her bestselling 1982 book, Neff offers practical, loving and completely updated help to those struggling with that situation. Although the specific 12-step program that Neff stresses does not exist everywhere, parents can adopt the principles she outlines and form support groups with other parents. Central to Neff's approach is "detachment from the abuser," which entails allowing the abuser to "bottom out" without "padding the corners" (often called "enabling" in other references). This method, argues Neff, provides one of the few hopes for the abuser and his or her family. It is also terrifying, however, to parents who lack the support and distancing of the tough-love approach. By far the largest part of Neff's book is devoted to the stories of seven families who have faced the crisis of the addicted child and come through it stronger and more spiritually intact. In short, this book should be required reading for every parent with a child in trouble.

10 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book!, February 27, 2002

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Lyn Chagaris-Taylor (Kingston, WA United States) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Tough love: How parents can deal with drug abuse (Hardcover)

I bought this book in the 80's and it did wonders for me! It helped me to get control of "me" again... and I went forward with my son from there.

5.0 out of 5 stars Tough Love - Help for the family, December 17, 2007

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Pamela D. Nee (Australia) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Tough Love (Revised Edition): How Parents Can Deal with Drug Abuse (Paperback)

Very Good. It is about the work of a group called Palmer Drug Abuse Program and the work they do with the whole family. I wish there were more groups like this.