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Product Details

  • Series: Toybag Guides
  • Paperback: 128 pages
  • Publisher: Greenery Press (March 1, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1890159751
  • ISBN-13: 978-1890159757
  • Product Dimensions: 5.9 x 3.9 x 0.4 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 2.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,212,704 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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About the Author

Mollena has more than 12 years' experience in the BDSM and alternative lifestyle community, and has traveled across the nation speaking about race play and other taboo playstyles. Her essay "BDSM and Race Play" has been selected for Best Sex Writing 2010. Her website, "The Perverted Negress," is at

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Slavery. Genocide. Holocaust. Warfare. Racism. Hate. These are ugly realities of life. Why would you want to plunge yourself headlong into the darkest part of the human psyche for sexual gratification? How can you know anyone well enough to know that they do not really REALLY believe what they are saying to you? Aren't you playing into the hands of self-hatred or real bigotry when you do BDSM around racial identity? Aren't you afraid of being really damaged? These are all questions I have been asked, and asked myself, ever since I realized that I had a visceral curiosity about pushing the edges of my kinky play into the most oblique corners of my psyche. Can you really play with the terrible truths of hatred and racism and oppression and reemerge safely? Yes. I do. I do it, albeit selectively and extremely rarely, because it is a quick slide to one of the darkest edges of my psyche, and that of my play partners. It is emotionally dangerous. Like life. And yes, I live it. And yes, I have experienced racism. But that doesn't lead me to fight, flight or fear,which are all heads of the same Cerberus. I am curious about fucked-up edge play, so I "go there."

More About the Author

This "Delicate, Trembling Flower of Submission" © is a NYC born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller and an Award-Winning Executive Pervert. She is extremely proud to have served as International Ms Leather 2010. She is also thrilled to have been named Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009 after that contest's decade long slumber.

She is deeply honored and profoundly humbled to have been selected to receive the 2012 Jack McGeorge Award for Excellence in Education by Black Rose, and is thrilled to have won the the National Leather Association's 2012 Cynthia Slater Non-Fiction Article Award. She was a finalist for the 21st Annual Pantheon of Leather's Woman of the Year & Northern California Regional Awards. You can watch her being interviewed for the Women's Leather History Project, as curated by the Leather Archives and Museum. Her short film "IMPACT." made its debut at the 2012 ASKEW! Film Festival, curated by Madison Young and presented by the Yerba Buena Center for the Arts in San Francisco, California.

Her latest project, is co-authored with Lee Harrington "Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities" hit the streets mid-September, 2012. She is the author of the "Toybag Gude: Taboo Play." Her essays appear in 2 anthologies curated by Rachel Kramer Bussel: "BDSM and Race Play" appears in "Best Sex Writing 2010," and "Kiss my Boots" is featured in "The Lust Chronicles." Her challenging essay on "race play" is featured in"Spirit of Desire: Personal Journeys in Sacred Kink" edited by Lee Harrington. Not one but two essays commissioned by Tristan Taormino appear in the groundbreaking anthology "The Ultimate Guide to Kinky Sex." Mollena is pleased and delighted to be a featured educator with The Kink Academy, where you can see clips of her speaking on various and sundry topics! She is also a columnist for SexIs Magazine, where she lets loose twice a month on just about anything.

Exploring kink since 1993, active in BDSM and the Leather Community since 1996, and presenting classes since 1998, she speaks at Leather, BDSM and Kink events across the US, Europe and Canada on many Leather and BDSM focused topics. She also brings the knowledge on Kink, BDSM and Leather to such august institutions of higher learning as SF State and Cal State, Harvard, Princeton, Yale, Stamford, and Brown for IvyQ. She has been invited to present this fall for MIT.

Mollena's been sober since 3-14-2007 and in December that same year, she founded "Safeword," a 12-step based recovery group for all kinksters seeking recovery from addiction.

International Ms Leather 2010 was truly an international title year with visits to the Pride Festival in Stockholm, Sweden, where she made history as the first Leatherwoman ever invited to march with the venerable Scandinavian Leathermen's Association! She's also done her thing in Dublin, Ireland, Berlin, Germany, the UK: toured Amsterdam, Netherlands for Leather Pride, as well as teaching and performing in Vancouver, Canada. A roll-up of her epic IMsL 2010 title year can be found here!

Her background includes a lifetime of training and involvement in the performing arts, which include spoken word, classical theater, dance, performance art, and all manner of stagecraft. Performing professionally since the age of 5, her credits include singing on the soundtrack for the movie The Wiz and co-starring with Danny Bonaduce in the underground cult-classic America's Deadliest Home Video. Her first solo show,69Stories: One Pervert's Tale was a hit in Vancouver in November 2010 and Madison Wisconsin, July 2012. You can see an excerpt from it here ("Kiss My Boots" part One, and Part Two) as performed at Rachel Kramer Bussel's In the Flesh storytelling series. She is a favorite at Dixie De La Tour's Bawdy Storytelling, has performed for many storytelling venues including Bare! Stories, Tiny, Dangerous Fun Audacia Ray's Red Umbrella Diaries, Carol Queen's Perverts Put Out, and was a guest on Kevin Allison's Risk! Podcast. She has also thrown down onstage for Porchlight Storytelling and has told for NPR's Snap Judgement.

As a model, Mollena has been featured on the Folsom Street Fair 2010 Poster, as well as modeling for Stormy Leather. She has worked with many well-known and renowned kink, Leather and fetish photographers, including Stacie Joy, Laren Leland, Aeric Meredith-Goujon, Melvin Moten, Don Sir and Michele Serchuk: who's photograph of Mollena posing with fellow educator Graydancer was featured in the Seattle Erotic Arts Festival 2010.

She is chuffed to have been interviewed for the Leather Archives & Museum's Women's Leather History Project. Recent interviews with Mo can be found on Jezebel and on Princeton University's Equal Writes website. You can also read her 2010 interview with SexisIs Magazine. She was featured in a groundbreaking interview at on BDSM and race, and also interviewed by Sharon Glassman for the Huffington Post. Her work's also been published by the Society Of Janus Newsletter, The Eulenspiegel Society's magazine, Prometheus, as well as the online magazine at ALT.COM and She has been interviewed for The Bottoming Book, ColorLines Magazine, Bitch Magazine, Abiola Abrams: Love, Sex & Dasting, The Playboy Advisor, Sexploration with Monika and The Reverend Mel Show, SexIs Magazine, The Huffington Post, Jezebel and Racialicious to name a few! She is featured in the award winning documentary "Vice & Consent". You can also see her all tied up in the instructional video, "Jay Wiseman Teaches Rope Bondage"

A founding member of Crowded Fire Theater Company, and former co-host of San Francisco's Queer Open Mic, Mo blogs on Her blog, The Perverted Negress, has been a featured blog on Fleshbot (not Once but TWICE!) as well as the pick of the week for The Sugasm. And boy howdy, the venerated Jane's Guide thinks The Perverted Negress' Blog is pretty rad! Mollena is also a member of Mama's Leather Family (#1231) , formally dubbed "Mama's Perverted Negress" and pinned in at the SF Eagle by Mama Sandy Reinhardt herself. She Twitters incessantly over on, so follow her there!

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9 of 10 people found the following review helpful By Phantom of Light on April 29, 2010
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This is a beginning book on taboo. The book gives an overview of the most common taboos, including religion, bestiality/zoophilia, rape fantasy, incest fantasy, bodily secretions (scat, blood, urine), racism play, and necrophilia. While it covers considerable breadth in the extreme edge of BDSM, it also spends only a few pages on each topic, not enough to go in depth on any one fetish/kink.

The book repeatedly stresses the importance of safe, sane and consensual play, which leads readers to examine the motivation for such desires and fantasies. It also points out the myriad of health risks associated with these taboos.

In conclusion, it is a good introductory book but unfortunately does not provide examples of further reading that would be helpful for one wishing to continue exploring certain taboos in play or in research.
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3 of 3 people found the following review helpful By o-gal on August 20, 2011
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Mollena Williams' "Playing with Taboo" is a great starter booklet for those with thoughts and sexual desires that are decidedly *not* mainstream. It's a quickie sane/safe guide to exploring so-called forbidden topics like scat, race play, bloodplay, bestiality and gang-rape. I don't think it's meant to be an in-depth guide to those topics, more of a general overview designed to provide a nonjudgmental jumping-off point. Mollena talks about her thoughts and feelings with humor and a fresh, modern and sharp-witted take on age-old issues. This quick read is designed and published by Greenery Press to be tossed into your toybag for reference and consideration. Mollena has the chops (and awards) to back up her assertions and while I may not be into what she discusses, it's refreshing to see taboo topics discussed in an adult manner. If I had a complaint, it would be that the guide could use a more thorough proofreading. But that's a minor complain that doesn't detract from the quality of the minibook.
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By Heather L. Emry on January 17, 2014
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This is my second book purchased in the Toybag series. I Love the book. This is something I recommend for newbies and veterans of the BDSM lifestyle. It is very freeing to read this. If you have a lot of shame and want to feel better about yourself. I recommend it. Well written. Although not for the faint of heart. So beware heavy topics are talked about.
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