Transforming Your Self: Becoming Who You Want to Be [Paperback]

Steve Andreas (Author)

Book Description

ISBN-10: 0911226435 | ISBN-13: 978-0911226430 | Publication Date: November 1, 2002

Discover what your identity is made of, how it functions, and how to use this knowledge to change how you think of yourself. Easy-to-follow demonstrations, explanations, and exercises provide surprisingly simple and practical ways to change your experience of who you are and others if you work as a therapist or coach. Learn how to strengthen your sense of self to become more independent of others views, while at the same time becoming more responsive to useful feedback.

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I use the simple, yet transformative, processes in this book regularly in my practice with astounding results-ten times the progress in one quarter the time. --Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D., Psychologist, author of For Yourself and The Pause.

If you read only one book this year, make it this one. While the world of psychotherapy is dizzy trying to learn techniques, here is one of the very few books that provides enduring value! --Stephen Lankton, MSW, DAHB, author of 15 books, including The Answer Within, Practical Magic, and Tales of Enchantment.

With specific instruction, real-life examples, and an all-important sense of humor, Steve Andreas unpacks this vitally important process clearly and succinctly, going 'under the hood' to show you how to rebuild, fine tune, and change your self-concept and self-esteem. --Bill O'Hanlon, MFT, author/coauthor of 20 books, including Do One Thing Different and In Search of Solutions.

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I use the simple, yet transformative, processes in this book regularly in my practice with astounding results-ten times the progress in one quarter the time.

Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D., Psychologist, author of For Yourself and The Pause.

If you read only one book this year, make it this one. While the world of psychotherapy is dizzy trying to learn techniques, here is one of the very few books that provides enduring value! Stephen Lankton, MSW, DAHB, author of 15 books, including The Answer Within, Practical Magic, and Tales of Enchantment.

With specific instruction, real-life examples, and an all-important sense of humor, Steve Andreas unpacks this vitally important process clearly and succinctly, going 'under the hood' to show you how to rebuild, fine tune, and change your self-concept and self-esteem. Bill O'Hanlon, MFT, author/coauthor of 20 books, including Do One Thing Different and In Search of Solutions.

If someone told you that you could quickly and radically transform your life and increase your feelings of self worth-without having to undergo elaborate psychotherapy, a long-term major personality overhaul, or take anti-depressants-would you want to know how? Read this book now! You'll find powerful processes for creating self-acceptance and self-love. Michele Weiner-Davis, MSW, author, Divorce Busting and The Divorce Remedy.

In this beautiful and often brilliant book, Steve Andreas addresses the core distinction of personal identity. The examples are lucid, the methods are practical and eminently useful, and the writing is exceptionally clear. I highly recommend it!' Stephen Gilligan, Ph.D, author of Therapeutic Trances and The Courage to Love.

You expect to have your eyes opened about self-concept by reading this book, and they are. Then it turns out to be much more: an exploration of many of the ins and outs and mysteries of being human, too. Steve's astonishing directness and inviting confidence make it all easy to hear and take in.

David Gordon, MFT, author of Therapeutic Metaphor.

Many have traveled to the misty land of identity and self-concept, but until now, none have returned with a comprehensive framework of understanding. This remarkable book is elegant, understandable, and above all, eminently practical.

Glen Johnson, M.D., psychiatrist.

In this innovative and engaging book, Steve Andreas provides a clear lens for better seeing the core of who we are. He shatters some popular myths about self-concept and self-esteem, replacing them with useful concepts and practical strategies for enhancing our selves.

Michael D. Yapko, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist, author of Breaking the Patterns of Depression.

Transforming Your Self fulfills its promise. When you read it and take time to do the simple, practical, "how to" exercises, you will come away with a deeper understanding of yourself, like yourself better, and live your life more consciously.

Tim and Kris Hallbom, NLP trainers

This work is the best and most thorough example of NLP modeling excellence. The organization, sequencing, breadth of thinking, and rigor in distinguishing between structure/process and content shines throughout. I love the teaching style: clear distinctions, examples, humor, demonstration, and gems of practical wisdom in every chapter. I have used many of these methods in my own life, and my clients are also using them to get immediate results.

Kirk VandenBerghe, NLP Trainer, Author, Speaker, and Coach.

This practical, how-to book is a "must read" for those in the helping professions, as well as those who want to change troublesome aspects of their own self concept.

Suzi Smith, co-author of Beliefs: pathways to health and well-being, and other NLP videotapes and audiotapes.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 273 pages
• Publisher: Real People Press (November 1, 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0911226435
• ISBN-13: 978-0911226430
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.1 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (13 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #349,328 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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36 of 38 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A Really New Kind of Change, May 29, 2003

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Professional Trader (Kingston-upon-Thames, UK) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Transforming Your Self: Becoming Who You Want to Be (Paperback)

Transforming Your Self is a work as ambious as its title. It describes what your identity is made of, how it works, and how to use this knowledge to change who you are. Author Steve Andreas, once a student of Abraham Maslow, editor of Fritz Perls, and then popularizer of Richard Bandler and John Grinder, has already made numerous contributions to various fields including NLP. With this cognitive modelling of self-concept, Steve solidifies his reputation as an NLP innovator. Steve's ideas about self-concept correspond with Robert Dilts' idea of Identity level change and enriches it with many new distinctions and techniques including: how we create continuity of experience, how feedforward patterns lead to our futures, and how our mental processes act upon themselves. It will be no surprise to people who know Steve's work, that all this is clearly explained along with easy to follow exercises which enable the interested reader to create a more durable, accurate, self-correcting, and connected sense of self. The identity change processes are a mix of classic NLP patterns and distinctions applied in new ways with these new understandings. The NLP jargon has been kept to a minimum.

Steve introduces an important new concept into NLP and popular psychology - the "summary representation." NLP asserts that understanding a word means accessing a particular experience - often a memory. For example, on hearing the word "dog," you would remember a particular dog. Except only some people do that. Others think of a dog that stands for all dogs, or a cartoon dog, or dogginess. It all depends on the number, and the qualities, of the examples of dog you have to draw on to make your summary representation. The fewer the number of examples, the more impoverished (and caricatured) the representation. The greater the number and variety, the richer. With more abstract words, like the ones we use to describe ourselves - including beliefs, values, and qualities - this gets even more complicated. Each of these words refer to a number of categories each containing examples that are to be summarized. A summary representation is a simplified image of the examples it represents - and therein lies both its strengths and weaknesses. Previous identity change processes have for the most part tried to change a person's summary representation or self image. Steve found that while a self image can be difficult to change directly, the individual examples that it summarizes are easy to change, and cumulatively have profound transformational effects.

What is certain to surprise many motivational speakers and self improvement authors is that not thinking of mistakes or failures actually weakens a person's sense of self, making it rigid, brittle, and perfectionist. Not only can you afford negative thoughts; when handled with processes so easy they can be done conversationally, these "counterexamples" actually strengthen and enrich your sense of self - making it more open to improvement. You also learn the difference between self-concept and self-esteem (and how many of the self-esteem building efforts in American schools are an attempt to have the tail to wag the dog); as well as how 'classic' NLP distinctions like time, perceptual positions, and submodalities combine to create our identities.

This book doesn't say everything there is to say about transforming your self. There are ideas, observations and insights along the way that if they were followed up it would easily have doubled its length. I was particularly struck with Steve's modelling of the structure of paranoia, something wholly unanticipated by him. (A good sign that there is actual NLP modeling going on.)

Among the people who have written about NLP modeling, few of them have actually produce new models. This book offers the reader an opportunity to listen in on an actual modeler of human experience practicing his craft. For all these reasons, Transforming Your Self is likely to be the basis of identity change work for some time to come.

12 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Andreas helps readers transform identity, February 8, 2003

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K. Gerling (Seattle, WA USA) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Transforming Your Self: Becoming Who You Want to Be (Paperback)

The first time I encountered the writing of Steve Andreas was when I read his superb book "Awareness" written under the name John O. Stevens. That was over twenty-five years ago. Since then, Andreas, in his writing and teaching, helped to found NLP (neuro-linguistic programming) and to guide NLP towards sensitive morality and technical effectiveness. The subject of this book--transforming your self--is a tricky one. Any book on this subject must guide readers to change their self with--guess what?--their self doing the guiding. This is a complex, paradoxical endeavor, one Andreas deals with well throughout the book through the use of many specific examples. What makes this book and its subject especially important is this: our sense of self influences many aspects of the rest of our lives: our values, our feelings, our relationships, our decisions, our hopes and dreams, and certainly our behaviors. Andreas treats this important subject much like he treats his workshop participants--with care, sensitive guidance and technical skill. He accomplishes this without falling into a review of often confusing and contradictory philosophical theories. Instead, he goes beyond theories to practice. He focuses on what we *can actually do,* to transform our sense of self in the privacy of our own minds. The process Andreas reveals in this book not only helps us to enhance our sense of self, but also offers something else: the book's workshop-style format helps therapists, educators and other professionals to discover how to pass on what they've learned to their clients and students. Parents too can benefit in this way, passing on what they learn to their children. For all of these reasons, I highly recommend Steve Andreas's book, Transforming Your Self: Becoming Who You Want to Be. Kelly Patrick Gerling, Ph.D.

6 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Transforming Your Self, January 28, 2003

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Richard Shane, Ph.D. (Boulder, CO

Boulder, CO United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Transforming Your Self: Becoming Who You Want to Be (Paperback)

For years, the world of psychotherapy has used words like self-esteem and self-worth. When posed with the question "How do you build good self-esteem?" most psychotherapists and authors would talk about giving positive regard to a child, etc. Steve Andreas, author of Becoming Who You Want To Be, is the first person I've come across to dissect in detail what are the internal "building blocks" of a healthy self-concept. His thinking is clear and precise and the models he presents (for building healthy self-concept) are well layed out and fairly easy to follow. Some of the ideas are revolutionary. Steve's humor and humanity make this book heartfelt and very enjoyable to read. Even if you use just some of the information, I predict it will change your thinking and actions. The world needs all the positive help it can get. Tell others about this book!