on January 5, 2006
The authors Delaney and Kunstal are noted proponent of Attachment Therapy (aka Holding Therapy) and its brutal parenting methods. This practice was denounced as abusive and inappropriate for all children in 2006 by the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children and by the American Psychological Association's Division on Child Maltreatment.
The authors themselves admit that their methods not reputable: "These strategies have not been researched by any statistical, controlled study." (page 166) Actually, no human subjects review board would allow children to be subjects in any study involving these methods.
Delaney and Kunstal, as Attachment Therapy proponents (and as therapists), have advocated (and used) "coercive restraint as therapy." This is a vile practice that seeks to disturb children to the extent that they loose control. While held down, the children are yelled at, poked, tickled relentlessly, threatened with abandonment, etc. From pages 141-142 of this book:
"When held in place, [the child] became livid and struggled against the adults -- to no avail. His rage escalated quickly as he screamed louder and louder at those holding him. He commanded them to let him go, he threatened to turn them into the police, and he claimed that they were breaking his arms. The adults kept [the child] in a 'therapeutic restraint,' nonetheless....Many parents and professionals may find this approach quite overwhelming and intense -- even contrary to their beliefs about helping. However for some children in placement, therapeutic holding is imperative..."
There are more bad ideas in this book than you can shake a stick at, such as "infantalizing" older children, "reparenting," forcing eye contact, and advising against reasoning with children. The overall tone of belittling children with terms like "mealy-mouthed" makes it clear that the authors have little respect for children, much less a professional attitude towards child development.
Worse, they would subject the most vulnerable of children to literal torture.
So kids are expected to love their parent if those parents and a therapist rough them up and make their life a living hell? Not likely. This is really about adult dominance and creating gratefully obedience little Stepford Children.