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True Secrets of Lesbian Desire: Keeping Sex Alive in Long-Term Relationships

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I will make this review quite simple. This is probably the most helpful book on this subject I have ever read. I have been and am one of those people who have their problems. I seem to be completely unable to be faithful in any relationship I have ever had. I have simply messed them up purely through selfish promiscuous behavior. In other words, I am a horrid flirt and a complete cheat. This work has made me see how so much of what I have done has been so unnecessary and how much better things could have been and how I could have found what I have been wanting, had I only controlled this seemingly uncontrollable problem I have.

This is an excellent book. I suspect that I may have been a bit late in being introduced to it, but for those just starting out, please, please, please read it. It will save you so many heartaches.

This book can change your perspective on what constitutes sex, and may change your approach to lovemaking. There is timeless, advice, and wisdom, for every person who wants to bring authenticity and healing to the bedroom. Written from the perspective for women lovers, however, the information could help any couple. At some point acrobatics don't work to keep sexual passion alive. We have to genuinely look to where our beliefs and ways of being come from. Form our own beliefs and free ourselves to be fully present and open. True love is beyond sexual entertainment, that requires us to continually change partners to get long sustained satisfaction, which in turn leaves us empty. Get this book, at the beginning, not when the relationship has fallen apart. Best book on finding fulfillment within a committed relationship I have read. Thank you for this book Renate.

True Secrets of Lesbian Desire should be essential reading for
every gay woman....period...no excuses. It would be a good book for anyone
who loves women to read. A lifetime of experience, distilled,
artfully presented and so essential right now. So many women floundering.
And answers to their questions, right here, clearly expressed, with humor
and affection....readily available. I particularly found the chapter "Truth
as Aphrodesiac" enlightening. To end with Ms. Stendhal's words: "The
sexuality for which we ardently long, waiting for us in the very bed we
thought had condemned it to death? You bet!"

Months after reading this book I still find myself referring to its passages when my lover and I are talking about intimacy and sex. After I read the book I couldn't wait for my lover to finish it so that we could talk about it. It allowed us to talk about things that we may have thought were too taboo or embarrassing. The book showed us that we are just like everyone else. It really lifted pressures and allowed us to delve deeper into our relationship.
Concerns arise about keeping up the pace or reaching certain levels with sex and intimacy. Women are so intimate on different levels with each other that we often fall into patterns of neglect with our sexuality and our partners'. But we all have needs. They may sound crazy or strange or they might be exactly what your lover is wanting, too, but cannot say it!
Renate Stendhal keeps her words to the point and hits it home.
I recommend this book to anyone in a long-term relationship.