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The Truth About Love: The Highs, the Lows, and How You Can Make It Last Forever

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Don't be misled by the somewhat cheesy title or the fact that the author's name is Dr. Patricia LOVE-this is an excellent book that provides a much needed reality check to both married and unmarried couples alike. Whether you're having relationship problems or experiencing smooth sailing with your partner, this book is a highly recommended "must read." Filled with practical advice, The Truth About Love takes an honest look at the nature of love in all it's myriad forms and walks you through and shows you how to cope with the various stages that all relationships go through. Dr. Love shows that true love is truly a lot of work but that it if you're serious about it, it can be one of the most rewarding jobs in life. My boyfriend and I read this a year ago in an effort to better understand one another and to work through some issues we were having-not only did this book relieve some anxieties that we both were experiencing but it brought us closer together. Love is more than a feeling; it's a journey that you take with another person and both of you are active participants in how that journey unfolds. So make the most of it and read this book.

In The Truth About Love, Dr. Love breaks "love" down into four stages -- Infatuation, Post-Rapture, Discovery, and Connection. The first part of the book seems pretty grounded in science and makes for interesting reading. I can understand why relationships tend to fall apart for many people. I can also see why rushing into marriage can be a bad idea. The Infatuation Stage, she tells us, can last from 6 months to 2 years. So, rushing into marriage while still infatuated can create false ideas of what the marriage will be like. This part of the book was quite strong. I would say that the later parts of the book -- Discovery and Connection -- are strong too, but I sometimes found the information a little repetitive. I did learn a lot while reading this book, and I did see my relationship improve. And, interestingly, the relationship improved even though I was the only one of the two of us who read the book -- just like the book promised could happen. My only complaint is that the book probably could have been twenty pages shorter. But, it's still a good and helpful read.

When my boyfriend of two years broke up with me because he didn't love me anymore and had 'chemistry' with someone else, I was devasted. I searched and searched for answers and came across this book. I begged him to read this book even if only just the first chapter. He did and now we are back together and married! I wish I had this book years ago. Buy this book even if you are happily married. The information in this book needs to shared with everyone. It is an easy to read book. If people only knew The Truth About Love, there would fewer divorces and affairs. Again, BUY THIS BOOK. It is worth it!

This is the sort of book I wish I had early in my marriage. It is full of wit and wisdom that every young couple (and old ones too) should hear. She explains why infatuation and romantic actions are easy early in a relationship and why it is more difficult (but not impossible) to maintain that early wedded bliss. For anyone who wants a lifetime of romance I'd recommend a book I've been using as my romantic "bible" this past year: The RoMANtic's Guide. Both books are marriage savers.

This book is poignant in nature and is spiritually, mentally and emotionally satisfying. This is by far the best book about Love that I've read in a l-o-n-g time. I haven't read a book yet that remotely comes close to the insightful content of this particular book. "Dr. Love" really knows how to get her distintive message about love across to such a wide array of audiences. Thank you, Dr. Patricia Love for helping me redefine love and utilize your practical skills for keeping the true love that I have with my partner of 9+ years alive. I highly, highly recommend this book for anyone struggling with how to keep love alive or/and how to redefine true love in ways you may have thought of but never put to use.

As a newly married couple this book is a wonderful starting point to help us discuss our views on our relationship, trust, commitment and what it means to support each other and how to show appreciation. It's also a great way to begin building our home that is a haven for us. This book will be an invaluable tool for us as we define and grow into our roles. It will also be great to revisit it as we need for course corrections or for hints on ways to discover more and share more with each other.

My marriage counselor recommended this book but I had already made up my mind that divorce was imminent. Then the book came in the mail and I read it in one day. It was like Dr. Love wrote about my relationship! It forced me to look in the mirror and realize that if I made changes, instead of expecting only my spouse to change, my marriage might be salvaged. It is an extremely easy and quick read, written using simple language. I cried tears of joy after realizing that hope was not at all lost. The exercises provoked thoughtful discussions with my spouse and we are both now committed to trying many of Dr. Love's suggestions. True love goes through many transitions and you must be able to adapt to the different stages (which takes work!) Buy the book - it shows you how to recognize when changes are needed and how to make them.

This book is full of good old common sense views on life and living with another especially in the context of having made a comitment to another. if your interested in the real basics behind maintaining and enjoying a comited relationship with another person, this is a great starting place.

Not enough pizazz in your relationship? No more thumpity-thump in your heart when it comes to 'romance'? Before you decide to dump your significant other, read this book. Both my husband and I can honestly say that the information went a long way in saving a perfectly good marriage - we just didn't know that we had one. Now we're pretty sure of it and hope to spend many more happy years together, truly in love.

So many people consider love to be like it is in the movies. We feel it should always keep us in a high state where we feel wonderful about the other person we have just met. But, as Pat Love reveals that stage of love, better known as infatuation, though exhilerating, is only a small part of what real love is all about. Love goes on to show how love includes the stages of learning to see each other more clearly after infatuation, building a greater level of trust and intimacy, basing it on a solid commitment to love and care for each other, forging a friendship, providing support and comfort from the outside world, communication with each other (especially through appreciation and positive support) and more! Also interesting is the biological information about what happens during the various phases of love to us chemically. In short, for those wanting a lasting loving connection with a partner, this book will help them understand what it takes, and how to make love stay in the long run. - Dr. Lisa Love, Beyond the Secret