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Truth in Dating: Finding Love by Getting Real

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I have found this book and other books by this author extremely helpful. I have been married for one year and I credit Dr. Campbell's philosophy and what I learned from these books as a big part of why my marriage is so rich, intimate, and satisfying. That said, this approach takes a great deal of courage. It is not for the faint of heart. For those willing to risk being truly open, however, the rewards are exceptional.

When you date in the traditional manner--trying to manage outcomes and get people to like you--you are left living or dating in fear, wondering when you are going to be 'found out' and the love will be lost. Gay Hendricks presents the alternative, one that only some people have discovered on their own.

I read Truth in Dating after reading Getting Real most of Brad Blanton's books on Radical Honesty. I found this book to be the best of the genre because it artfully disperses theory, practice, and examples in a format that is easy to digest and relate to.

Rebeccasreads highly recommends TRUTH IN DATING as an enjoyable & informative guide without one "should" or scolding in the entire lively text!

TRUTH IN DATING covers:
* ways to navigate the singles scene that will maximize your chances of finding true love.
* why so many singles have given up on dating.
* why even psychologically sophisticated people have difficulty beginning a new relationship.
* learning to enjoy the process of meeting new people.
* unfocusing on the outcome.
* learning the skills for becoming more honest, conscious & responsible.
* realistically examining what a romantic partner can & cannot offer in the way of fulfillment & happiness.
* living graciously & honestly.

TRUTH IN DATING is spiced with sidebars, stories, examples, exercises & summaries, with a good resource guide & index, & will be of great help to the millions of singles, searching for true love & an authentic life.

When I first met my partner almost 15 years ago, she and I practiced some of the ideas which Susan writes about in this book. We were very clear and upfront with each other about what we wanted and our secrets. The foundation of honesty we laid on our first date has been very reliable for us for all these years.

I like how Susan presents an approach to dating that is quite different from conventional wisdom and people's old habits when getting to know a new person. Dating without thinking we have to calculate our every move can be so much more relaxing and fulfilling!

I also want to comment on a review here that stated that this book is a book written by a women for women, not men. My experience, as a guy, is that this book speaks to me very strongly.

I have a close friend, who is also a guy, and he frequently tells me that this book has completely changed his approach to dating and has made a huge difference for him. Women, in my experience, like men who are real and transparent. It is a great relief for them. Susan's work can be a great guide for us men as well!

I read this a couple weeks ago. SOme paragraphs, I totally skim read since they were LOONG example stories, and sale pitches for the author's seminars... but I've begun to relate in a different way with the men I meet-date-know and I totally like this new and honest approach, it does simplify things and eases up on any after the date guilt that I may feel if I don't necessarily find the man atractive or a match for me. I recommend this book.

Truth in Dating is written in a lively, easy to read manner. In the book Susan Campbell identifies each of the practices required to prompt relationships to deeper levels of authenticity. Eager for the next practical hints, I couldn't put it down.
A must read for anyone, not just singles, who wants to use their relationships to become a person of greater integrity.

Linda Bloom is co-author of 101 Things I Wish I Knew When I Got Married:Simple Lessons to Make Love Last.

Getting Real, Saying What's Real, and Truth in Dating are three of Susan Campbell's books that I have been reading and rereading recently. These books are making a difference in my life.

Keeping relationships alive and living life fully - this is what Susan's books address.

She has a lifetime of experience working as a therapist, author, coach, and consultant. Based on this experience, she has developed a set of simple principles and tools that we can apply every day of our lives.

I find her ideas very helpful in looking at past relationships - what went right and what went wrong. I feel much more optimistic about creating a solid relationship in the future.

Susan is an excellent writer (and teacher). I recently attended a workshop that Susan lead. I found her to be unpretentious and personable, as well as a good teacher.

I highly recommend her to you.

First I read "Saying What's Real," which I highlighted until it looks like a rainbow. So, I took my chances on this book and, again, found so much useful information that's it's hard to capture it all in this window. I can't say enough about the practical advice and numerous examples Susan Campbell lays out in this book.
Suffice it to say that Ms. Campbell has proven to me that I can handle the truth and whatever side-effects come from it. After all, if I tell you I can't tolerate perfumes and you continue to wear it strong, I've got some decisions to make. And, deciding to be true to myself, I am sure I'll be better off without someone who disrespects me.
In my opinion, it's a book about learning to stand for something versus accepting the justifications I tell myself and making us both miserable. Or, said another way, being co-dependent always backfires, so why not choose the truth.
There are exercises to work with if you have a partner, whether new or someone you've been with for years.
She's the best! I highly recommend!

This book spoke so clearly and eloquantly about the role of honesty in all relationships that I consider it the best book I have read in decades. The primary focus of the book is dating relationships but the concepts apply equally well to married couples as well as friendships. I have always considered myself an honest person, especially in the arena of dating but after reading Susan Campbell's book I discovered some ways that I wasn't completely honest. I was a bit astonished and found that revelation sobering but welcome and inspiring as well.

I read every single page of this book and everything in it was right on target. I mean it's sad but you do have to be yourself. I mean we all at some point in the beginning act like someone were not or fall in love to easily. This book covers and has so many useful advice I don't feel the need to go on, as you should get the hit.

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