Truth, Lies, and Online Dating: Secrets to Finding Romance on the Internet [Paperback]

Terry Ulick (Author), Alyssa Wodtke (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: June 14, 2005

Online dating is a growing and active industry that continues to grow in both usage and as a legitimate means of making social connections for dating, sex, and potential partnerships. "Truth, Lies, and Online Dating," shows people who want to use online dating services how to use technology to effectively market themselves and communicate who they are and who they are looking for. Unlike other online dating books out there, this book combines two critical components of online dating: communication skills and technology. Online dating represents an amazing new way of making connections but it requires technology skills in addition to social skills. "Truth, Lies, and Online Dating," approaches online dating in a no-nonsense and practical way and includes a "he said" and "she said" angle to give perspective from both sexes. Several technological components are covered as well as the mechanics of online dating services and how to put the search engines of those services to work to find the best dates. Tips on reputable online dating services, how to try services before subscribing to them, the importance of honesty and awareness of fraud are all covered. "Truth, Lies, and Online Dating," helps readers use technology to master written and visual communication techniques, understand the mechanics of dating services, and feel empowered, giving him or her the confidence to succeed in the online dating world.

Product Details

• Paperback: 296 pages
• Publisher: Course Technology PTR; 1 edition (June 14, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1592009166
• ISBN-13: 978-1592009169
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 7.4 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.3 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (3 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,115,969 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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12 of 16 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Complete How-To book, September 8, 2005

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John Matlock "Gunny" (Winnemucca, NV) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Truth, Lies, and Online Dating: Secrets to Finding Romance on the Internet (Paperback)

A male, Terry Ulick, and a female, Alyssa Wodtke have both tried matchmaking through the online dating web sites. Terry reports that he has found his true love online, Alyssa is still looking.

The web is perhaps the most significant change in communications since the invention of the printing press. And to move to match making is a logical use of these communications capability. The Internet expands your horizons beyond the local bar, or church, or any other social group that you might use to meet people.

First talking about the general rules, the authors move on to the mechanics of selecting and then using these sites. Let's face it, there are some commonly understood rules about making yourself as attractive as possible over the web without telling lies. As the story goes: 'She wants Tom Cruise, but she's no Nicole Kidman.'

The mechanics here include how to show yourself best in a picture, what to put in the written summary, how to phrase your first e-mail, and how to keep out of trouble -- the web is pretty wide open , how to proceed from just communicating online to gathering your heart in your throat and having that first meeting.

1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very thorough, contemporary and informative., March 4, 2011

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This review is from: Truth, Lies, and Online Dating: Secrets to Finding Romance on the Internet (Paperback)

This is a thorough 285 page discourse on all the aspects of Online Dating.

It is actually a Primer on Dating in general but applied to the specific mode of Online Dating.

I needed the advice, as I knew my Profile and pictures of self, and pics of special interest to me, were lacking.

I consequently edited my Profile on Match.com about 4 times and actually got praise from some ladies, who I emailed to check my editing work. They appreciated me more after my editing as suggested by reading this book.

I bought it used, like new for about $4.00; well worth it.

10 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars improves the odds, August 5, 2005

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This review is from: Truth, Lies, and Online Dating: Secrets to Finding Romance on the Internet (Paperback)

When the dot com bubble burst in 2000, one of the few, consistently profitable sectors that remained was online dating. The biological imperative to um, you know, kept those websites well visited. Match.com, date.com and a whole slew of others.

Now, Ulick and Wodtke offer a guide to the uncertain newbie. Who might be considering patronising one of those sites, but is understandably wary. Indeed, well you should be, as pointed out by the authors. There is a potential bad side to this phenomenon. They explain how to take sensible and easy precautions to minimise your risk.

But there is a broader and more optimistic theme to the book. Namely that online dating can [might, maybe] increase your chances of finding a compatible person. Sure, people can lie online. But that also happens in personal ads of newspapers, and in face to face meetings.

Online dating can let you expand vastly the pool of people; far beyond your personal acquaintances. And to do comprehensive filtering on their preferences and yours to improve the odds.