I haven't read this book yet, only what is available in the free preview. But it seems like many of the ramifications of growing up with a BPD parent is to have it yourself. This book seems to suggest this since all of the possible traits of adult "survivors" of BPD parents sound like BPD traits - black and white thinking, "splitting," fear of abandonment, anger, etc. It says that BPD parents can be very invalidating, but one of the causes of BPD is to experience invalidation as a child.
This book seems to demonize the parents but then tells the adult children of BPD parents that these are normal reactions to growing up with a BPD parent but not to go so far is to say, "hey, if you have these traits, you have BPD."
Is this a way for the authors to try to break the cycle of BPD? To label the abuser but not label the patient? I just find this confusing and was wondering if anyone else had any thoughts on this.