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Turn Your Cablight On: Get Your Dream Man in 6 Months or Less

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While there are some decent ideas in here, most of it rehashes other - far better - (and far better written) dating books - and nothing about her "Program" is even remotely the miracle strategy implied in the promos. What this surprisingly naive Harvard-educated author, (also a real-life dating coach who shamelessly pitches her own services throughout) is saying boils down to the following news-flashes: Be available, be receptive, search actively, search intelligently, of course don't phone him, widen your horizons, always look your best, stay positive even when things are rough - in essence - put on a happy face in the right place and he'll come along. She also seems to be really out of touch in some areas - doesn't address many logistical issues such as dating when you have kids or living in areas where there just isn't much out there - and even endorses some questionable stuff that conflicts with her own advice in other chapters. Her ideas are also often surrounded by far too much lead prose and childish filler -- mostly meaningless celebrity references gleaned from television and pop culture - all apparently intended as relatable examples, but which are now mostly dated and make this book a total chore to read. It would seem to be much more informative to hear about everyday folks (names changed of course) from her own life experience as a dating coach and while running her meet-and-greet singles cafe in NY - deep, timeless wells that would seem to offer some intriguing examples. She also slags just a bit on the two all-time champ dating books - "The Rules" and "He's Just Not That Into You" - saying that while both make some good points, there should be some room for gray. Well maybe in rare cases that's so - but you know what - ? - my experience now over the last five years on the mid-life singles scene tells me that those two best-sellers (along with Sherry Argov's books) aren't just hilarious, demystifying, snappy reads - they have all absolutely nailed it. While this book does however benefit from some sidebar perspective from her psychotherapist husband, otherwise there's not much new here and it's not nearly as fun or as illuminating as the promos imply.

I was both encouraged and then slight ly alarmed by
some of Nancy Slotnick's theories about dating. Positives:
her encouraging, go for broke, common sense aphorisms,
i.e. don't date beneath yourself, don't rely on internet dating et al
Negatives: some "quaint", quasi stalkerish concepts, such as
give "vulnerable" eye contact (eh? I didn't get that one), get a
new date each week (what if you want to get to know someone
for a while, wait there's no time for that! snap snap!) don't ask him
out (calling all "Rules" readers) and don't touch him (that is "controlling
behavior" she implies.) I just felt too straitjacketed to adhere to these
tenets. My ultimate dating advice: do what feels right to you, it's really
the only sustainable notion.

I just got this yesterday and read it in one day. This is an excellent dating book with a lot of pretty great ideas, the best dating book I've read in a long time. It's about defining yourself and positioning yourself so you can attract the guy who's right for you and stop wasting time. Just the chapter on translating guy talk really opened my eyes about the things I do wrong when I get involved with someone new. It's also unusual for a dating advice book in that it's so well written and zips right along. The writing is fast and sharp and funny and it reads like your friend is sitting you down and giving you some necessary, no-nonsense advice. I highly recommend it to anyone who has lost hope of finding the right person for them, because the author of this book really taught me something new about relationships.

I made it my New Year's resolution to find a worthy guy for myself, and now I know how! The advice in here is amazing and it's such a fun read. I learned a lot while laughing out loud. One chapter talks all about how men use actions and not words to communicate and how we can learn their "language." I never realized I'd been making so many mistakes with men. Thank God I read this before I made more! I highly recommend this book to anyone who's really serious about finding the right guy.

I thought this book was very helpful. It helps you go out and be more out going!!!

This book gives practical and effective strategies on how to date and find who you're looking for. If you're truly serious about falling in love, this is the book to read.