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Turning to One Another: Simple Conversations to Restore Hope to the Future

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The main reason for me coming here and writing this review is that I'm not the typical person to read a book like this, let alone fall in love with a book like this. I am a seventeen year-old high-school student from Utah, but more than that I am Margaret Wheatley's son. But I firmly believe that her being my mother has nothing to do with me enjoying this book. She has written other books. None of them I have ever fully read, nor considered trying to finish reading. They adult books, and to me they are boring. But there was something about "turning to one another" that was different from any book I have ever read.

My mom gave me a copy of it before it was done just to see what I thought. I objected to reading more boring adult literature that I didn't understand, but because it was important to her I did. About two hours after I started reading it I realized I was almost half way through the book with no intention of stopping anytime soon. It is rare that a book catches my attention like that. And that is what I believe this book is. It is an extremely rare and incredibly important book. After reading it I felt that even someone like me could make a change in this frightening world. And for once I really was proud to be human and no longer scared, but excited to see what tomorrow and the future would bring me. I think that is something that we all need right now. We are living in a time where countless people are losing their faith in not only people, but also the future.

I don't know what else to say about this book. It really does speak for itself. I know that anyone, no matter how old or young, could pick up this book, read the first few pages and fall in love with it the way I did. It is written very clearly and is extremely easy to understand. Most of all it truly does what the title says, it restores your hope to the future and I feel it is something every one should read.

Margaret Wheatley's new book demonstrates the importance of more deeply coming to understand and listen to one another if we are to not only survive but to thrive, as our world sits at a key moment in human history. The method is profoundly simple which is what makes it simply profound. If the practice of conversation suggested in this text were to begin to take place, there can only be hope for a better existence for all-and it can start right now, today, with anyone willing to get together and simply converse. This book provides a hopeful tool for anyone concerned about our world and the directions it is heading-it provides practice and promise to make a real difference in our own lives and in the lives of others. I recommend this book with great energy and enthusiasm and am most grateful for the wisdom of this fine author.

It never stops confounding me how the simplest truths are the most powerful. In this work Margaret Wheatley speaks the simplest truth of them all, that incredible changes can occur on a global scale with the spark of a simple conversation.

This is not groundbreakingly new, before the repurcussions of the industrial revolution, people gathered and talked to each other, made plans, even organized and brought about incredible changes. But today, in the midst of the media/technology flurry and the ensuing shortness of time with which to address each other personally, it is a truth too easily forgotten.

The beauty in this book is that the antidote to this social memory lapse is easily obtainable, and the remedy is very simple to put into action. This work is especially timely in that unlike the mass of other works which determine the root causes, events, and happenings that lead to the disaster of 9-11, it never addresses this with any definition (my suspicion was that the book was already in the works at the time of the horror), and yet offers a potential alternative to ensure that things such as this may not happen again.

The format of the work reflects its nature - no overfilled pages with laborous stories and instructions jammed in, rather, carefully selected simple words on a stark minimalist background accompanied by gentle and simple graphics.

Beautiful.

Turning to One Another is a gift to us, whether we live in small communities or are involved in global networks. As a management consultant and fan of Wheatley's other books, I have used her theories with CEO's and executives of many organizations. Her explanation of how nature organizes, cooperates, communicates and attracts has provided the leaders in these organizations with fascinating and freeing methods to lead, manage and release their organizations and the people in them to grow and evolve more naturally.

This book is based on the belief that these methods work equally well in less ordered communities and societies than organizations. She encourages us that through simple conversations with people where we live we can believe again in our ability and become creative in solving issues that concern us. And, if we do engage one another with commitment to create what we envision or care about, we will witness something new and positive emerging from our efforts. It's all in the nature of how things actually work. I am very thankful for her efforts and plan to encourage conversations in my community work.

I am an FOM. (Friend of Meg [Wheatley]) I am also a person who flourishes in a world of dreams, dreams that lead us to realize greater potential in ourselves. With that said, I must admit to the following: Reading Meg's new book felt uncomfortable. Not because I thought I wouldn't like it, nor did I worry about what Meg would think about how I experienced the book. I actually felt apprehensive about the subject matter. What could she say about something as ordinary and matter of fact as talking with one another? Well, I threw out my anxieties and opened myself to whatever might speak to me. Isn't that what a friend would do?

I read Meg's book in one sitting. Actually, it was a train ride from Seattle to Portland. I was grateful for the confinement of the train, leaving me undisturbed to delve into Meg's world, save for a few pre-dusk glances out the window, taking in the natural beauty of our WA state coastline. turning to one another holds nothing new, as Meg would admit. However, when read in light of this past calendar year, her words hold all things new. Meg Wheatley has posited for her readers what I experience as a charge for all storytellers: How do you take what is common knowledge, retell it in light of what makes meaning in your life, and then let it go, out to the universe, praying it will be read with new eyes and heard with open ears.

turning to one another does just that, for me, its reader. And, without speaking in generalities, I feel this book will play its revelatory tune loud and clear to all who look inside its pages. Meg has asked us to put aside our technological armor, turn it off and sit. Sit with the silence, with the uncomfortable feelings of being silent. Sit with the many who are silent, too. Waiting. Perhaps then, in the silence of our hearts, we will rise to a place where we can speak. And if so moved, then we will do what Meg encourages us to do, "turning to one another, in simple conversations to restore hope to the future." Our future.

Meg Wheatley asks nothing more than a willing reader, compassionate eyes, empathic ears and the voice to speak new words. Words of hope, words of vision, of dreams for the future. Telling our stories. Not such a daunting task. Or is it?

Margaret Wheatley's Turning to One Another: Simple Conversations to Restore Hope to the Future is one of the most important books I've read.

It is based on the incredibly simple premise that growth, real growth begins with two people having a conversation.

Part 1 discusses a range of subjects: Wheatley's views on conversation and listening, including the importance of staying with conversations that sometimes get "messy" to reveal deeper truths and commonalities; her belief in the importance of being surprised and even shocked by the person(s) with whom she converses, versus seeking people who agree with her, affirm her thoughts, or where the conversation follows either a predictable course, or safe outcomes; the belief that differences between people can lead to deeper commonalities and greater closeness.

Quite frankly, there are simply too many gems of wisdom and insight in this book to do more than recall a handful that particularly struck me.

Part 2 is very short, restating some fundamental principles or concepts explained in greater detail in Part 1.

Part 3 is a list and explanation of 10 possible conversation openers.

This is not per se a "how to" book, as if there is "one way" either to converse, listen or relate to another person. Quite the opposite. She talks, for example, of the reality that various people can have a seemingly unlimited number of interpretations and reactions to a given event to stress (implied) that what matters is the process, the act of conversing and relating.

Wheatley's book is about possibilities, the possibilities that everyone possesses in terms of relating to one another, personal growth, healing oneself and restoring hope in the future, compared to the fragmentation, isolation, pressures of day-to-day life, the impersonality of technology, etc.

It is an exciting book to read, a book that virtually anyone can benefit from no matter where they are in their lives. It is, fundamentally, a gift that those of us fortunate to read this book should be grateful Margaret Wheatley wanted to share.

Dialogue. One word yet so many connotations. In our complex world of technology, toys, processes, downsizings, mergers, etc. there is one key element that continues to cause and raise exponentially increasing problems. That problem is communication. Or, lack thereof. I think that many of us forgot the art and the science of dialogue. Talking. Listening. One-on-one.

I think that we're given so many tools to work wherever and whenever; it's the likeness to using a keyboard or a calculator instead of writing with a pen and doing the actual computations. In the myriad and flurry of systemic, organizational maneuvers we forgot how to talk to each other and with each other. For some people, they've never learned the beauty and mystery of dialogue.

Dialogue, to me, is the ability to acutely listen to a story, enjoy it, have non-verbal reactions, and take it in while challenging the message with my own filters. We all have filters that are individual to us and therefore send us what messages we want to hear and shut out the ones we don't want. If we can flip off our filters for a moment and just pretend that we've met that neat person on the street, someone new in the grocery market, or an intriguing individual at a party and dialogue (share information and exchanges back and forth) then life becomes an enriching experience. And, it is a guarantee that from that individual you will always learn something new.

Meg Wheatley's book reminds me of "going back to the basics." Just talk to people. Listen with open ears and concentration with what they have to say. A lot of our world problems would be solved with better communication that lacks threat if we dialogued and if parties were willing to dialogue.

Respectfully submitted,

Andrea M. Ahlsen
Batavia, IL.

Margaret has created such a powerful book on conversation, learning, and change. I can not imagine a more powerful book telling stories that can transform how we work, play, and learn together. This is a life changing read and one that I highly recommend. And even more importantly, in such a turbulent time, keeping in conversation with others may be the only thing that helps us hold this world together. Therefore, do not only read the book, but put into action conversations that can change the world.

A wonderful new-age sort of book that truly is soothing to the mind. In a world of chaos, Meg brings us a reality check. Simple solutions and questions to rediscover humanity. I loved it.

So simple, and yet such a fresh way of looking at life, leadership, community and conversation. I learned a ton from this book, very helpful in specific situations I am involved in. It teaches me how to become an ever better listener.