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Twenty Life-Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make

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I read this book after locating my birthparents. I wish I read it before. It was written in a way that made me feel like I knew the author and she was relating my own personal feelings and thoughts. I probably would have found my family many years earlier had I been given the support and validation and guidance that this book gave to me. This is a book for adoptive parents to read as it helps one understand the feelings that often arent validated by the world but are so real to us. It also can help one to decide when and if a search is right for them. I bought this book for my 2 friends who are adoptive parents and for 3 of my friends who are adopted themselves. I highly recommend it to anyone in the adoption triad.

SHERRIE, THANK YOU FOR YOUR BEAUTIFUL BOOK, Twenty Life Tansforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make. I cannot express enough my gratitude to you.

I am an Adult Adoptee from Hong Kong, and was abandoned on the street and lived in an orphanage for the first 2 years of my life. I was very lucky to be adopted into the US by my Caucasian American parents, whom I love very deeply.

Nonetheless, the repressed pain of abandonement and rejection has recently surfaced. I had bought other books on adoption, but they were so clinical and sterile, I lost interest in them. I never finished reading those books.

But Sherrie's book IS AMAZING. I could not put it down!!! It is very well written, deeply personal and very emotional. I needed to read EVERY WORD she WROTE. When she expressed her thoughts and feelings, she articulated unspoken thoughts I had always felt, but never could define.

She has alot of clinical information in her book, which is important for me, since I am a Ph.D. student in Neurophysiology. Being trained as a scientist, I do need to have studies to back up hypothesis or suppositions.

Sherrie's book has helped me alot to grieve and cry. Her book was hard for me to get through, b/c it triggered alot of violent volcanic emotions that had been deeply repressed. But I know that grieving and forgiveness is the key to true freedom. It is just very hard work to do. But once done, I felt 10 lbs lighter and 10 years younger!!

Sherrie's book is leading us to our divinity, wholeness, self-healing, and self-awareness... which is a painful but exhilarating journey.

Sherrie does make reference to the Bible and Christianity to guide her. Though, I am an SGI-USA Buddhist and chant Nam Myoho Renge Kyo as my form of prayer to the Universal Power, her book was still very helpful to me.

Sherrie also lists many helpful Adoptee organizations in the Appendix of her book. I hope to join an Adult Adoptee Support Group to continue my journey to wholeness.

Sherrie's book is a powerful guiding light in this deeply mis-understood topic of the pain that Adult Adoptees endure. Sherrie speaks for all of us in her book, and this book has saved my life.

If you want answers, comfort, empathy, sympathy, love, support, healing, and hope in dealing with being an Adoptee, GET THIS BOOK!!! YOU WILL NOT BE SORRY!!!

Sherrie uses her own experiences as an adioptee to lead her readers to an understanding of typical adoptee experiences. The book is enlightening to all members of the adoption triad, as well as professionals, family and friends. While not every adoptee may experience all the reactions, it is important to take note of the possibilities.

The feeling of loss of control over one's life is a common issue. The question of why birth mom "didn't keep me" to how did I get these adoptive parents both deal with control, or lack of it. The natural reaction is to either feel powerless or to look elsewhere for power. Adotive parents willing to discuss and listen are one of the best supports an adoptee can have and what every adoptee deserves.

"Twenty Life Transforming Choices Adoptees Need to Make" should be read by anyone touched by adoption and should be "committed to heart" by each adoptee! This book shows the adoptee how to regain control of his life and to make choices that will bring the peace for which he has been searching.

Sherrie Eldridge does an excellent job of presenting choices that will empower the adoptee to rise above "adoption loss." It is a no-nonsense approach that touches the adoptee right where he is and allows him to rise to new heights.

As the mother of an adopted teen, this book allowed me to feel in a very small way what my daughter feels. And it allows the adoptee to realize that she is not alone---other adoptees are feeling the way she does. But it doesn't stop at validating present "feelings"---it give very direct comments on how the adoptee can "soar above" and take control of her life.

I recommend this book to anyone touched by adoption.

As the father of three sibling adoptees, I am always seeking information to understand the struggles my children face, and to help them overcome those hurdles.
In my opinion, this book by Sherrie Eldridge is simply the ** #1 MUST READ** on the topic of adoption. It is for anyone who wants to understand the many issues associated with adoption, and rather than being a "pity parade" tome, specifically disclaims that as a positive solution and offers helpful "move forward" techniques for each issue tackled.
I particularly recommend it for adoptees who are have difficulty in facing issues that arise throughlut ones life as a result of adoption.

Hi Sherrie,

I am currently reading your book, "Twenty Life-Transforming Choices" and it is changing my life! I am an adoptee in Albuquerque, NM, am almost 43 years old and am just discovering that much of my life's struggles have been due to my loss at birth. Thank you! Also, thank you for the Christian aspect of this in your book. There is so much psychology surrounding this issue, it is sometimes difficult to know how God feels about it all.

As an adult adoptee, I heartily recommend this book to anyone touched by adoption. Sherrie is a master at putting words to feelings- especially from an adoptee's perspective. This book will help many to understand why they react as they do, why they have problems in relationships, and why it is so hard for adoptees to give up control, even to God. You will be touched by the openness of the stories shared in the book, by Sherrie and by the adoptees who contributed. This is not a book about blaming adoption for all our problems, but instead is a book that will lead to hope and healing.

As an adoptee, I never felt rejection from my adopted parents. However, after 60 years I was in contact with some birth siblings. There was total rejection on their part. In God's divine plan, Sherri's book came to me the very week I had been turned away by one sister. This book is an inspiration for all adoptees whether or not they are able to reunite with their birth families. It gives a great deal of insight into how to deal with the feelings of rejection and how to turn those thoughts into acceptance through the love of Christ. It really helped me through the season of tears and rejection and I was able to look beyond that to once again know that I am fearfully and wonderfully made and there is a definite purpose for me on this earth. Thank you Sherri for this wonderfully poignant expression of love.

On reading Sherrie Eldridges book I was amazed at seeing what could have been my own words staring back at me. Sherries book made me realize that i am not alone in my thoughts and feelings on adoption, and that the process we go through to come to terms with our own stories and situations is indeed normal.
Thank you Sherrie and keep up the good work
Fran

I am an adoption professional who has worked in the field for thirty years.If I had the addresses of the hundreds of children (most now adults) I have placed I would write them and tell them to get this book!
I now work with adoptive families at the Attachment and Bonding Center of Ohio working with children who have issues re attachment and adoption and feel this book will help many of them as well.
This book is also a must read for professionals who work with adopted children or adults.

It compassionately covers adoption issues and makes gentle suggestions about how to work on those issues.
I just bought five copies to give people and feel it speaks to the heart.
Sherrie, Thank you for writing it.
Regina Kupecky