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The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men

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Is there any sexual activity out there that is more taboo than anal sex??? Perhaps, but due to religous dogma and the negative associations installed within us about our own anal region from very early on, anal sex is certainly one of the least understood, often by those who practice it. It is very rarely discussed, even amoungst us gay men, whom are supposedly the most sexually active and aware of all orientations. Ask a gay man about anal sex and you mostly get shy glances and giggles, even from experienced players! So when I wanted to find out more about anal sex, I bought this book. I certainly wasn't dissappoined!

There are 2 reasons why I find this book extremely helpful with exploring my own sexuality - it is easy to read and brutally honest. It doesn't assume you have a medical degree (everything is explained in layman's terms) and both the potential positives and negatives are thoroughly discussed.

'Ultimate guide to anal sex' gives a great grouding in basic anal anatomy, health, and the need to explore this area on your own before including a partner. After reading this book you will not suddenly find yourself an experienced player capable of 'anything', but it will give you honest information that will lay a wonderful groundwork to explore anal pleasure on your own and with a partner.

It is by no means an 'advertisement' for anal sex (even though it's obvious that the author is very experienced in this area), indeed you might read this book and say 'it's not for me'. But it will go a long way to answering your questions that are difficult to ask and make you better informed as to your own choices. If you still have questions after reading this book, the last chapter contains a considerable listing of resources that will put you in contact with other information.

Isn't it wonderful that we live in a world where books can be published that gives us insights into one of the most taboo sexual practices???? Even if you think you are 'experienced' and need no instruction, read this book. You might just find you do indeed learn something new. After all, isn't that what sex is??? A constant exploration of ourselves and each other??

Considering there are books out there about how to give better oral sex, it's not surprising there'd be books about the other end. This one's from the publishers who produced the anal guide for women, but this one is for the guys, both the giver and the receiver. For that reason, this one isn't for the girls and caters exclusively to the gay and bisexual man. The frustrating taboo of anal sex that remains very much alive in the gay community is knocked down in this book, probably by necessity and the literally life-saving information it offers. Anything any guy can think of in giving or getting is here: health precautions, preparation, muscle exercises and techniques intended to make the probing experience more pleasureable. An important other section of this book is that it strongly encourages self-exploration before trying it for the first time as part of a duo (or trio, or so on). The tips on self-exploration are so effective that they may actually help a guy decide if man-to-man anal penetration is or isn't for him. The "how-to's" aside, the book is also a tremendous resource guide and points to websites for health, toys and so on to gain further knowledge. Considering the life-and-death aspects of man-to-man anal sex, this book is far too important to be tossed aside for not being written well (which it is), because of religious dogma or for whatever other reason. It is an essential companion guide that, no, won't make you "exerpienced" by reading it or "promote" this most intimate of sexual interaction as something necessary for a fully satisfying gay sex life. More than that, it may make the experience even more enjoyable for those already experiencing it.

This book is the true ultimate guide to analplay for anyone anywhere. It's much more thorough than the other books out there and very well researched. If you want to get into your butt or you want someone else to, this is the book for you! Besides excellent instructions for butt pleasuring in an endless variety of ways, this book has great illustrations and extensive information on the pros and cons of using different drugs during sex, if that's your fancy. It even goes so far as to list music appropriate for butt activities. No butt is left unturned!

Before reading this book my experiences were painful and unpleasant. Now they are filled with utter exstacy.

Prior to reading this book small object were a struggle to insert, now my man can go what seems to be elbow deep.

I definately give this book two thumbs up, but I won't say where. Hee hee.

Overall, I thought the book was well written, descriptive and to the point. I think it did the job it was intended to do: give a broad general introduction to anal sex. I'll agree that the illustrations were lacking, although, I wonder if they weren't intentionally campy.

If you're more expereinced or lookig for something in more detail, then go elsewhere, otherwise, I recommend checking this out. I would have loved to have had a copy growing up in a small, sexually repressed New Jersey town (Haddonfield). A lot of the stuff described in the book ... I had to discover on our own and I think that played a big part of our relationship.

Regardless, it's worth the read. Some of the stuff may surprise even the "very knowlegdeable."

Bought this book, and I must say the information contained herein is very well written (with a nice slice of comedy thrown in as well) I'd reccommed it to anyone new to anal sex.

Bill Brent offers us a very well written and honest discussion of what anal sex is for men and how one can overcome the taboo to find greater pleasure. For the novice the tone of the work should be reassuring. For those of more experience, I'm sure you'll find useful suggestions. There is a few brief mentions about women but honestly that isn't the focus on the book so don't be upset if you don't find the answers and you are female or have a female partner. My only complaints are the fact that this book, as with so many on sexuality, lack good citations for their "facts". Frankly the more I encounter this problem the bigger it becomes in my mind.

This book is ideal for those with little or no experience in this area. Before reading this, my partner and I each had a little but not enough to be fully comfortable or adept at anal play. After reading this and using some of the concepts contained in the book, we both find it much more enjoyable and satisfying. I can definitely recommend it for any gay couples looking for some advice on the subject. At the same time, much of the advice in the book is generic enough for both male/female and male/male couples interested in anal sex; in fact, the few illustrations included feature both types of couples. There are no photos or erotic stories, so don't expect pornography here; what you will find is very useful information written in a "straightforward" fashion.

The book is well organized with something for everyone. The chapter on technique was the most helpful with tips on preparation, which is especially important for those who are inexperienced. It also has a section on positions with a description and illustration for each. For those looking to experiment on their own or as a precursor, there's a chapter on toys and one on self-exploration. The general chapters on anatomy, hygiene, and health provide good answers to questions some might have. Chapters on lube and communication contain good information for those starting out too. Finally, there are chapters on specific interests - analingus, fisting, some recreational drugs, and "extreme play" (such as water sports and the like).

While most of this information is likely available elsewhere if you go searching for it, I find this book to be a great resource that brings it all together. Primarily useful for those new to anal play, you probably won't pick it up much after you've become more experienced; however, you will be glad to have it when first getting that experience.

I found the information in this book sensible and sane, and believe it is useful for both "tops" and "bottoms" who want to get the most out of an encounter.

The overall message for beginners is to take things gradually, starting with self-exploration, and don't martyr yourself if anything becomes uncomfortable or scary. Since I believe a lot of the issues with anal sex are psychological -- beginning with the mindset necessary to relax and feel sufficiently at ease to allow penetration -- the author's emphasis on going at one's own pace is sensible.

It could be argued that this book has some filler, but really it's not horrible and the book is reasonably priced. It seems unlikely that an old hand would find much in here that they hadn't already figured out, but there may be some surprises, especially in the health/medical discussions. And it's OK to skip sections that aren't of interest, such as (in my case) the chapter on fisting. I certainly did not encounter anything that I strongly disagreed with.

All in all, not a bad compendium.

I found this book to be extremely interesting and informative. I, being somewhat young, have learned much from this book. My partner, who is older and more experienced, also found this book extremely useful. It is nice to see that we are entering into a time where men can be open about their sexuality and comfortable themselves. I would recommend this book equally to younger and older sexually active people. A great companion to my other reviewed books.