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Tristan Taormino
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Book Description

January 27, 2006 Ultimate Guides
Revised and updated throughout, including all-new chapters specifically for beginners and for women giving anal pleasure to men, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women is a comprehensive and creative guide to anal pleasure. Tristan Taormino offers the kind of informed reassurance that can encourage even an absolute beginner to explore this nerve-rich part of the body, either alone or with a partner of any gender. Anal sex enthusiasts may need no encouragement, but will welcome Taormino’s sense of adventure and her detailed discussions of toys, fantasy play, and positions. Beginning by dispelling common myths about anal eroticism, Taormino goes on to illustrate anatomy, give tips on building trust and communicating desires, and provide reliable, easy-to-understand information on safety, preparation, hygiene, and much more. This new edition has been substantially expanded and revised to include new information on masturbation, anal health, BDSM and anal sex, and many other topics. In a new feature, Taormino answers actual reader questions.

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Editorial Reviews


"The bible of female anal sex."

About the Author

Tristan Taormino is the author of True Lust: Adventures in Sex, Porn and Perversion and Down and Dirty Sex Secrets. She is series editor of all thirteen volumes of Best Lesbian Erotica, two of which have won Lambda Literary Awards. She is director, producer, and star of two videos based on her book, Tristan Taormino’s Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women 1 and 2, the first of which won two Adult Video News Awards in 2000. She returns to the world of adult video in 2006 as director and producer of Tristan Taormino’s House of Ass, which will be released by Adam & Eve Pictures. She is the sex columnist for the Village Voice, a columnist for Taboo and Velvetpark, and the former editor of On Our Backs. She lectures at top colleges and universities, where she speaks on gay and lesbian issues, sexuality and gender, and feminism. She teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world and does private coaching sessions for individuals and couples. She lives with her partner and their three dogs in New York City

Product Details

  • Series: Ultimate Guides
  • Paperback: 180 pages
  • Publisher: Cleis Press; 2nd edition (January 27, 2006)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1573442216
  • ISBN-13: 978-1573442213
  • Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6.3 x 0.7 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (35 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #100,964 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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66 of 75 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Ok for what it is. February 10, 2006
Honestly, there's nothing really wrong with this book, it just seems a little on the thin side. It's like the Cliff Notes version of Jack Morin's book (which I highly recommend). Oh, I suppose I should explain: I bought this for my wife so that she might get more comfortable with anal sex. After I bought this, I bought Morin's book, and that's when the real fun began. What started out as an attempt to get my wife into anal sex turned out to be grand experiment for me. Now, analingus and two-way anal sex is a regular part of our marital relations. Let's be honest here: dildos and strap-ons can be for straight men too.
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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful
Let me start by saying, that although the title implies that this is a book for women, I think it's so jam packed with useful information and candid insight, that anyone, regardless of gender, who has an interest in anal play, from the curious to those who already enjoy anal play in their intimate lives, will find this an extremely informative and fascinating read. And if you're in a relationship, it is definitely one of those books that you can enjoy reading together.

Unfortunately many women I've spoken to over the years have had bad experiences with anal sex, and developed valid anxieties as a result around this form of sexual expression. These often involve concerns about safety, pain, and feelings of degradation, and the subordination of women. If this applies to you, or to anyone you know, then this book could be a very useful resources in helping to gain an understanding of the essential elements for a positive experience, and how to avoid a negative one if you ever choose to venture into that realm again. Because Taormino's loud and clear take home message is, if it's not feeling good and comfortable for everyone involved, then it's time to stop.

The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women 2nd Edition is overflowing with extensive information on social, emotional, physiological and practical aspects of anal play, which guide the reader through the process of making a bit of butt action, the most pleasurable (and safe - emotionally and physically) as possible for everyone.

She opens with a comprehensive guide to the physiological elements, explaining the `why' behind different types of stimulation, and how they have the ability to induce so much pleasure (or if not approached properly, potential pain, discomfort and anxiety).
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15 of 19 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Great for Starters! July 5, 2006
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This book is AMAZING. It will answer all your guestions and make you feel comfortable about trying anal sex. Even those who have some experience will come away with something from this book. A MUST have for women experimenting or thinking about trying anal sex!
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10 of 13 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Perfect for the tentative wife! July 22, 2008
By big Bri
Ms. Taormino does a wonderful job of holding the hand of the female apprehensive about the idea of anal sex! This is the anal sex 101 book written by a woman for a woman. It starts with the basics and continues on with suggestions / recommendations on how to get maximum enjoyment from this naughty pleasure. The emphasis is three-fold: communication, time and lubricant.

I bought this book for my wife to rouse her interest in the subject. After about a couple weeks, with the addition of appropriate lubricant and anal plug, my wife is experiencing some of the best multiple pleasures in the 20 years of our marriage! And, obviously, I'm happy with it :) Great for the sex life!
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Terrific book! February 16, 2011
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Have a woman in your life that is open minded enough or a bit curious about anal sex?
This book was a terrific way to make talking about it and experimenting with it possible.
In my opinion, this works best if your woman really is already curious about anal sex.
I dont think it would have been as good if I just gave the book to her and said "hey babe, read this...this is something I wanna do...".
Author does a great job explaining all the benefits as well as steps in the process.
Found it very helpful that author was a woman, as I felt that made the way she talked about the topic all the more appealing to the woman in my life.
It's kinda like a woman talking to a woman about the pleasures and excitement of anal sex.
Very helpful indeed, for both of us.
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9 of 13 people found the following review helpful
This is a good book. I learned a few things, and so did my girlfriend, but it's targeted at someone who is already curious about, and interested in participating in, anal sex. If you are hesitant about anal, haven't tried it, or are appeasing a boyfriend by reading it, then it's probably not going to do much for you. The author starts out, right off the bat, expressing how much she loves anal. She always loved anal, since she can remember, and she never had a problem getting into it. If you're having a problem getting into it then this book might make you feel ashamed, or uncomfortable, about the fact that you are hesitant to give/receive anal.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Very interesting and informative July 1, 2013
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This book was very interesting and informative. Facts and Myths exposed, and led to some very cleaver explorations..must read for those who are "afraid" of the "taboo"
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book November 7, 2008
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I stumbled upon this book here on Amazon, and based upon the reviews, I decided to buy the book for my wife. Turns out is was a great buy, my wife loved the book, and has since become very fond of the practice. The book is very easy to read, well written, and because it is written by a women, I think other women can relate well to her perspective in the book.
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Published 5 months ago by Geewhiz
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Excellent book great detail i was shocked at the detail. i would suggest this book to all sexually active adults that want to know more about this kind off sex that is considered... Read more
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5.0 out of 5 stars Good all around manuel
Men and women can both enjoy giving and recieving, what works for one also applies to the other. Good book covers just about every possible subject. Read more
Published 9 months ago by Larry Baker
5.0 out of 5 stars YES
This has done amazing things for my sex life. Not only did it spice up anal sex but it also improved sex over all.
Published 12 months ago by Jared Jensen
4.0 out of 5 stars Informative
Very informative. Tells you everything you need to know and some things you rather not, and even a little arousing. Wish there were actual pictures instead of drawings.
Published 13 months ago by O.W.
4.0 out of 5 stars Educational and interesting
This book is both interesting enough to keep the readers attention and instructional to help the novice to semi experienced couples learn more about anal sex and adding to their... Read more
Published 16 months ago by goodies
5.0 out of 5 stars Very informative read! Recommend!
The writer is enthusiastic about anal sex and is good at sharing her enjoyment and experiences on the subject. Read more
Published 18 months ago by Susan
5.0 out of 5 stars AWESOME! LOVED IT!
Perfect for anyone with any level of experience:)
Squash's all the ridiculous myths, fears and taboos regarding Anal Sex!

I couldn't recommend it enough!
Published 19 months ago by Tim
5.0 out of 5 stars Instructive, insightful, all around great
Super informative and very thorough. It's written in a way that is very approachable for a beginner, but also has information that will be relevant as a reader gains experience. Read more
Published on February 8, 2013 by Ashley
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Tristan Taormino is an award-winning author, sex educator, speaker, filmmaker, and radio host. She is the author of seven books, including The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women, Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships, The Secrets of Great G-Spot Orgasms and Female Ejaculation, The Big Book of Sex Toys, and True List: Adventures in Sex, Porn and Perversion. She is the editor of more than 25 anthologies including The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge and Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, winner of a 2012 Lambda Literary Award. She was creator and series editor of the Best Lesbian Erotica anthology series. Her books have sold over 500,000 copies and been translated into many languages. She's written for a multitude of publications from Yale Journal of Law and Feminism to Penthouse, and served as editor of the magazine On Our Backs. She was a syndicated columnist for The Village Voice for nine and a half years and writes an advice column for Taboo Magazine.

She is the producer and host of Sex Out Loud, a weekly radio show on the VoiceAmerica Network. As the head of Smart Ass Productions, she has directed and produced twenty-four sex education and erotic films; she is currently an exclusive director for Vivid Entertainment. Her films have won more than a dozen awards. Tristan and her work have been featured in over 400 publications including O: The Oprah Magazine, The New York Times, Redbook, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Entertainment Weekly, Details, New York Magazine, Men's Health, and Playboy. She has appeared on HBO's Real Sex, The Howard Stern Show, Melissa Harris-Perry, Loveline, MTV, CNN, NBC, MTV, Oxygen, Fox News, The Discovery Channel, and on over a hundred radio shows; she was the resident sex expert and a recurring guest on two seasons of Ricki Lake.

Tristan's work, writing and films are routinely used in college courses to explore the complex issues of relationship and sexual diversity, politics and media. As a speaker, she is widely regarded as an expert on a diverse range of topics from sexual empowerment and LGBTQ sexuality to non-monogamy and feminist pornography. She lectures at top colleges and universities including Yale, Cornell, Princeton, Brown, Harvard, Columbia, Smith, Johns Hopkins, and UCLA, where she speaks on gay and lesbian issues, sexuality and gender, and feminism. She teaches sex and relationship workshops around the world.


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