The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure (Ultimate Guides Series) [Paperback]

Violet Blue (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: March 4, 2002 | Series: Ultimate Guides Series

Many people enjoy giving and receiving cunnilingus, but where do you turn when you want to learn more about oral sex or ways to introduce it into a relationship? The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus is a resource for people who are looking to expand their expertise or are simply curious. In her clear, concise, and informative text, sex educator Violet Blue provides step-by-step instructions for going down on a woman, as well as accurate and up-to-date information on female anatomy and response. In her friendly, witty tone, Blue dispatches fascinating facts and discusses games for lovers, positions, safety, a variety of techniques, erotic book and video recommendations, and tips for effectively communicating with a partner.

Editorial Reviews

Review

"Violet Blue's cunnilingus book is the best sheer technique manual I've ever read on going down."  --Susie Bright

The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus -- Sexuality/Relationships Silver Medal Winner, 2011 Independent Publisher Book Awards -- All National Categories --Independent Publisher Book Awards

Product Details

• Paperback: 150 pages
• Publisher: Cleis Press; 1 edition (March 4, 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1573441449
• ISBN-13: 978-1573441445
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (58 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #347,626 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #45 in Books > Gay & Lesbian > Nonfiction > Sexuality

More About the Author

The London Times named Blue "one of the 40 bloggers who really count"

"Violet Blue is omnipresent on the Web." -Forbes

"Violet Blue is the leading sex educator for the Internet generation." --Webnation

"America's leading (very) public intellectual sexologist, Violet Blue." --The Institute for Ethics and Emerging Technologies

Violet Blue (tinynibbles.com) is a top 25 Forbes "Web Celeb" and one of Wired's "Faces of Innovation." Blue is regarded as the foremost sexuality and technology futurist and sex-positive pundit in mainstream media (such as The Oprah Winfrey Show, CNN, Attack of The Show and The Tyra Banks Show). A published feature writer and columnist for CBSi/ZDNet, Violet also has many award-winning, best selling books. Her books are featured on Oprah's website.

She is regularly interviewed, quoted and featured prominently by major publications and media outlets including Wired (and Wired UK), Newsweek, MSNBC, The Wall Street Journal, NPR, Salon.com, BBC, CNN, The New York Times, The Los Angeles Times, Cinematical, PBS: Mediashift, CBS, The History Channel, Esquire, Jane, Maxim, Marie Claire and more. Violet is the author and editor of over thirty award-winning, best selling books and was the notorious sex columnist for the San Francisco Chronicle. She is a renowned blogger, high-profile tech personality, the first female podcaster, currently a reporter for long-running web TV show Geek Entertainment Television, and professional speaker, including two Google Tech Talks at Google, Inc.

Violet Blue's many books have won numerous awards and accolades and have been translated into seven languages. Blue connects with an audience of over 7 million a month with her podcast "Open Source Sex", named for the intersection of technology and sex, and the free-flowing information exchange of the open source software movement.

Forbes called her podcast "One of the Internet's most popular podcasts."

In addition to mainstream media features and guest blogging for sites such as Laughing Squid, Blue writes for media outlets such as Forbes, O: The Oprah Magazine, MacLife, and UN sponsored international health organization, RH Reality Check. She has contributed essays to eleven nonfiction books about sex and culture, and has been cited and quoted as a sex and future tech expert in print outlets ranging from Wired UK's "Experts Predict The Future" feature to David Levy's "Love + Sex With Robots."

Violet lectures about Internet sexuality to cyberlaw classes at UC Berkeley (Boalt; Samuelson Law Clinic), human sexuality programs at UCSF, volunteers as an advisor and instructor about sexual health and human sexuality to sex crisis counselors at community teaching institutions. She is considered an expert in the field of sex and technology, and has been invited to speak about the topic at conferences ranging from O'Reilly's ETech, Gnomedex, LeWeb and SXSW: Interactive and has given two Google Tech Talks at Google, Inc.

Oft-quoted and sourced, Violet has been a published writer in the field of sex and culture since 1999, was the first female podcaster and is a respected digital privacy advocate.

Customer Reviews

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348 of 355 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars simply the best, July 18, 2003

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"dannyjam666" (California) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure (Ultimate Guides Series) (Paperback)

I checked out this book because it has been nominated for an award in London, and was quite surprised at the depth and detail covered here. Most books that claim to explain stimulating women sexually seem to handle the material with kid gloves, almost with distaste. But the author clearly has a passion for explaining exactly how the female sexual response system works, and what types of stimulation produce pleasurable results. This is the first time I have seen cunnilingus clearly and honestly explained, and it is without a doubt the most complete book on the topic.

In addition, because the author is a young sex educator working in the field -- at the established sexual pleasure pioneer Good Vibrations nonetheless -- the information goes beyond standard cunnilingus, providing how-to's on every possible variation one can imagine. Using manual stimulation (hands), adding sex toys, incorporating anal play, cunnilingus and S/M, sexual fantasy and cunnilingus, female genital massage, sexual pressure points to heighten pleasure, and the list goes on. There is a mine of information here, as well as etiquette for givers and receivers. The tone is warm and engaging, and doesn't make the mistake many sexual pleasure guidebooks make by coming off too seriously, or using "New Age" terms -- no "goddesses" or "yonis" here.

This book rises far above the rest, and I've read them all. Most come off as soundbites, whereas this is a complete book and an exhaustive resource. It deserves to win that award.

109 of 115 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars A very useful book, October 31, 2003

By A Customer

This review is from: The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure (Ultimate Guides Series) (Paperback)

This is a very good book, and it successfully managed to improve my sex life. With the techniques learned in this book, you can definitely give your lover pleasure without pain. The descriptions are short but to the point, and the techniques are what really get detailed in the book. There are also some chapters that inform you about the dangers of cunnilingus, such as disease and the effect that bad hygiene can have on both people. There are safety tips, cleanliness tips, and foreplay techniques.

While this book is helpful for both men and women, it was clearly intended for lesbians. There's nothing wrong with that at all, but it just limits the information a man like myself can use. Most, if not all the illustrations in the book involve two women, and about 1/3 of the entire book covers relationships between lesbian lovers, and techniques and activities that could only be done between them. The author even stresses the fact that she is a lesbian, and that the book is intended mostly for that audience. Despite that, the book is helpful to both men and women, and I thought that it was very informative, well thought-out, and the author wasn't afraid to use coloquial language...no 'beautiful flowers' or 'godesses' in this book...just general terminology and slang, making it easier to read and understand. Definitely a great book for men or women looking to improve their sex life.

44 of 45 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars simply the best, September 7, 2004

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Danny Boy (California) - See all my reviews

This review is from: The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure (Ultimate Guides Series) (Paperback)

The title of this book is perfect for the content, as this is certainly the ultimate guide. I have bought and read all of the books on this subject, and Blue's book covers everything, literally everything, in a tasteful and warm-hearted manner. There are more ideas for cunnilingus, and giving a woman an orgasm with your mouth, than anywhere else. Every step is detailed and nothing is left to question. There are many helpful illustrations, dozens upon dozens of techniques and the book goes far into territory that other books do not cover. Of all the cunnilingus guides available, this one is the most useful.

While I am a straight man, I had no problems with the material's all-orientation presentation. The author makes no assumptions about who is reading the book and instead concentrates on exploring the subject to the absolute limits. I have a mouth and lips, and my wife has female anatomy; this book was written for me. I was especially pleased to find out the lesbian tips, though the author makes it clear she is not a lesbian herself it is refeshing to know she has researched every angle for the book, including lesbian resources. What a wonderful sex-positive book. It is simply the best.