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explore this book with an open mind, November 10, 2005
This is an easy to read book, with important true-life stories. Told well and honestly. I recognize many of the characters from my own experiences in the litvishe yeshiva world. If you want to gain insight into the complexity of a wonderful but imperfect community -- read this book. It is not condemning, and it does not mean that all Hasidim are sad and wanting more. The author is quite matter-of-factly about what she found. And many of the accounts and stories made me laugh. Although the topic as a whole is challenging. There is a good story here, one that is hopeful, especially with people like Malkie, and others who humanize these people. Read it, think, hope, and maybe even help out. See others as people, real people with real issues. Don't be fooled by the garb. There are real people in the black coat, some happy, some sad, and many are quite wonderful.
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32 of 38 people found the following review helpful:
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Wonderful and informative, October 20, 2005
For a modern-day tale of the triumph of the individual in the face of a closed society that demands conformity, please read this book! This book documents the hidden stories of people, mostly young, who struggle to find their own identities within the ultra-orthodox Jewish communities of Brooklyn. As the author points out, these communities demand strict adherence to their perceived concept of Jewish Law. But as we see, this embodies much more than just religious practices; this adherence affects every single aspect of these Jews' lives, from the bedroom to the bathroom to eating to shopping to who one can talk to, who one can marry, in short - everything.
If one thing stands out from this outstanding book is that so much of the survival of insular religious communities depends on an unspoken fear of 'standing out' and not being accepted. This fear is enforced by a group mentality that is instilled by community leaders, rabbis, teachers and parents. Any challenging of the rules results in sharp condemnation and a rebuke to 'get back in line.'
The heroes and heroines of this book refuse to live by medieval ways of living. They want to explore scientific ways of thinking , they want women to have equal rights as men, they want to find their friends and partners on their own, they want to engage with the society in which they live, they want to see the world outside of their protective cocoons. In short, they want to be individuals!
Thank you Ms. Winston for telling their stories, and I hope the romaticized view we have of such communities will become more nuanced as we are exposed to the silent suffering of good and decent people who are struggling to find themselves. After reading this book the old saying which resonated with me so strongly was 'to thine own self be true.'
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31 of 37 people found the following review helpful:
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A Great Read, October 20, 2005
Reading Unchosen made me think that even a non-Jew could cook an
authentic Cholent, something I never believed possible. What is
sometimes referred to as a homogeneous body, "Chassidic Jewry" is in
fact splintered into many different factions. At times, these
factions are indistinguishable from each other, and at other times
they are unrecognizable as belonging to the same religion. Sadly,
most Chassidim--especially those descended from Hungary--live as a
close-knit community and have little or nothing to do with the
outside world, not even with their Jewish bretheren, as the Lubavitch
Chassidim do. Lubavtichers are extremely different in their outlook
and interaction with the "outside."
Hella Winston chose to write about this less well-known majority of
Chassidim, focusing on the "unchosen," or rebles. A hard, laborious
task considering the closeness of the community and the tight-lipped
members of Satmar and other lesser-known branches of Chassidism.
Unchosen will make an excellent read for Jews who are not affiliated
with Orthodoxy--which, today, is most Jews. Every secular, Reform or
Conservative Jew descends from an Orthodox ancestor not too far down
the line and this is a fascinating way to re-live a great
grandfather's quandary, an ancestor's pain and misery in leaving a
tradition or way of life, or to understand the love/hate relationship
with anything sacred of a beloved grandmother.
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