In a world of unprecedented opportunityand pressurewomen are struggling more than ever to make career decisions and move forward without second-guessing themselves. Young women graduate from college and believe they have to find the perfect path and then can’t decide which way to go. Undecided is an invaluable guide to this cultural phenomenon of analysis paralysis.” Looking at both what the media and academic studies have reported on women, careers, and particularly the undecided phenomenonas well as personal accounts from numerous womenmother and daughter Barbara and Shannon Kelley discuss how we got to this frustrating place, why it affects women in particular, and how today’s culture fuels our fears and distractions. The Kelleys cast a critical eye upon the psychology behind the pressure to choose, and they argue that if women are going to succeed in rising above the often-crippling demands of the modern world they need to take action . . . starting with a serious shift in perspective.
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Thoroughly dissects an idea: unlimited opportunity means unlimited choices [and] burdens the chooser with responsibility, leav[ing] many women frozen or frantically job, city, and relationship-hopping in search of perfection --Jenna Goudreau, Forbes
A helpful new book... exhaustively researched. Undecided is not an academic career counselor's guidebook with testing or educational advice, but a compendium of on-the-ground stories of actual career choices. --Joyce Lain Kennedy, Chicago Tribune
... looks at the choices today's women have thanks to the success of the Women's Movement--and the unintended consequences... contextualizing it with stories of hundreds of women who call themselves undecided. --Santa Barbara Independent
From the Back Cover
"Undecided sheds light on the complexity of options for women today and the burden our culture places on women who 'settle'. If ever there was a call to arms for women's choice and a road map to better understand ourselves, it can be found in this impressive guidebook." --Susan Shapiro Barash, author of You're Grounded Forever
"Job or career? Biker or banker? Paper, plastic, or recycled, reusable tote? Sane, sensible and funny, Undecided uncovers the many ways having too many choices can mess with a gal's head--with insightful tips for not only getting where you want to go but actually enjoying the ride." --Jenna McCarthy, author of The Parent Trip and the forthcoming If It Was Easy, They'd Call the Whole Damn Thing A Honeymoon
It was refreshing to find a "stuck in the rut; what do I do with my life" book that didn't come with a pat answer. There were no personality or job skills assessments. Instead the Kelleys shared stories from both professional and non professional women, married and single, happy and unhappy. They did not present any one secret for success, but I believe their goal was summed up in the first discussion question at the end of the book - which woman's life resonated with you the most and why? I'm 33 years old, and this book spoke directly to my demographic. I highly recommend this book to any woman who would rather fail by doing something than live with regret for doing nothing.
A wonderful, insightful book that really helped me, as a 64 year old women, to understand the angst of my 40 year old daughter in her endless search for the perfect job, the perfect man and the perfect life. Having grown up in the generation where women's choices seemed so much more limited (I became a teacher), I have had a hard time understanding the inability to find satisfaction with all the endless choices women today. This book gave me a much better understanding of the "grass is always greener syndrome" faced with today's women. I loved all the stories from the different generations and look forward to spending time with my daughter discussing the book. A must read!
The first two chapters were very good at defining the problem I have (and why I bought this book): Why do I feel like a failure even with success? Why am I so petrified at this stage of my late-thirties trying to choose a new direction.
After that, I was suddenly reading a chatty feminist manifesto (and I'm a feminist) constantly informing me that I was about to be REALLY pissed off by an astounding array of facts -- but hey, we'll get to that later. Seriously. They used some variation of that phrase every five pages: Here's a topic. But we're going to talk about that later.
Hi, already informed about pay inequities and the inability to have it all. Got to page 170 and STILL didn't find out "How to ditch the endless quest for perfect and find the career -- and life -- that's right for [me]." It does not pay off the subtitle. Or maybe it will in a follow-up book. I don't know... I stopped reading.