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224 of 307 people found the following review helpful:
1.0 out of 5 stars
OVER-HYPED PSYCHOBABBLE THAT'S ALL FILLER, NO THRILLER..., February 1, 2007
... I was really looking forward to reading this book, but page after page, it was nothing more than hot air promising to enlighten the reader on this, that and the other thing but never delivering the goods on how to actually score - all it was were her personal theories bolstered by study after study of "findings" (some of these studies involving experiments with rodents, of all things)... however, most of those findings are hardly conclusive when you take into account the most critical factor of all - what women say and what they actually do are often in conflict (the author admits this herself on page 106). For instance, take the typical gal who bemoans the lack of decent single guys as she describes her ideal man as practically being the nerd-next-door, and yet she'll only throw herself at every "bad boy" that crosses her path. One can only conclude that women are attracted to nice guys in theory only; they're ultimately ruled by their emotions and have no control over who turns them on, no matter how they may try to intellectualize what kind of guy they claim to be attracted to. More than anything, women have very strong survival instincts and need to feel financially secure. That mindset usually leads them right to the straight-laced, button-down type with favourable income-earning potential who can fulfill that need (usually the guy she'll marry), while being sexually attracted to an entirely different type of guy altogether (the dude that rocks her world who she'll carry on an affair with). How do I know this? Because at least 25% of the women I meet are married (or otherwise attached) and, usually after a few drinks and a couple of frisky slow dances, they'll make it very clear to me in no uncertain terms that they're in the market for a torrid affair, no strings attached, would I be interested? The reasons vary, but usually it's because they're not physically and/or sexually attracted to their mates and, in many cases, apparently never have been. After reading so many books on the subject of picking up women (from both male and female authors), I'm now 100% convinced that your best advice will come from guys who know from experience what it takes to score. A female can't teach you how to pick her up and close the deal because: 1) every woman's level of resistance is different - some are easy to pick up, others are next to impossible; 2) every woman's concept of male beauty and appealing characteristics varies from one to the next; 3) because they're always mindful of their reputation among their social peers, many women believe that the only way they can be picked up for a one-night stand is if they have an overwhelming physical attraction to you in the first place or are otherwise flat-out drunk - most gals are confident that their "defense shield" is impenetrable and don't take into account the smooth-talking joe with all the right moves who can charm them into the sack; 4) you can't teach "chemistry" - either it's there or it isn't, and it can only be gauged in face-to-face situations; 5) what women THINK they want in theory and what they actually find themselves attracted to in real life are, more often than not, nothing alike. As for the body language stuff? Puh-leeze. Even the average frustrated chump would be able to decipher 90% of these so-called "undercover sex signals" (fluffing her hair? licking her lips? sticking out her chest? hello, McFly! is anyone home?). Reading this book was like listening to someone build up an elaborate joke but forgetting what the punch line was - it just didn't deliver. Bottom line: don't bother with books about how to pick up women written by women, because most of the time, they don't even know what they really want in the first place. They might scorn the handsome, muscular ladies' man in theory, but when they're feeling sexy and want to get their freak on, guess who they'll throw themselves at?
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16 of 23 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
It is 55% body language, July 11, 2007
How can we tell women are interested? Are women constantly giving us signals that we are just not picking up on, or that some men are picking up on, and acting on successfully? Well, when it comes to body language, most men are oblivious to about 95% of the buying signals that women are giving out, or misinterpreting them. There are photographs throughout of women demonstrating the various signals, which are supported by science. Imagine you're walking into a bar, you see a woman, she holds eye contact for several moments then looks away and down. Is she interested? How do you respond? Subtleties in your response make or break the situation. Experts say only 7% of communication is verbal, 38% is tonality, and 55% is body language. Which is better to know, the 7% or the 55%? When you are talking to a woman, should you lead by turning your body towards her, or let her lead by moving her body towards you? If you don't know the answer, you need this book. Leil understands the way men think, and speaks to the male point of view, and eerily at times seems to know what we are thinking. Perhaps, the single most interesting and persuasive story for me concerns her aesthetically challenged friend Dan the dentist, a ladies man. Dan's insights persuaded me that being able to identify and interpret these signals will vastly improve your success with women. The idea that men go to a bar and obsess about the unattainable woman, while oblivious to signs of interest from other women, rings true, and fine tuning your perceptions will totally change your success. Some of the signals that women give are unconscious, particularly when it comes to rapport. Your ability to identify these signals as clear indicators of interest are a roadmap to your eventual success. Why are women attracted to bad boys and jerks? She has good insights into this. If you are like me you may think you know a lot, but the proof of the pudding is in the eating, so if you are feeling hungry for more, then you need to add this to your shopping cart. I trust you find this helpful.
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73 of 108 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
perhaps a bit dogmatic, March 5, 2002
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This review is from: Undercover Sex Signals (Paperback)
The basic purpose of this book is to minimize the frustration that lonely single men find themselves facing by getting them to quit being so oblivious to the body language cues of women with aggressive temperments. It is a little bit dogmatic, rediculously so, but it does make a number of valid points. It's purpose is to embolden, and in a way to sell hope to the reader who picks the book up in the store. Rather than simply aiming at the pretty girls, women who have no clue about you have a tendency to either indicate their willingness to be approached, or indicate that they are just not capable of responding to a guy by using subtle body language cues (such as exposing sensative and vulnerable nerve centers like palms of the hand and the area under their jaw, and running fingers through hair and fondling jewelry.) that most guys simply miss. Most guys are not aware that women consider themselves to be "on display" around men, which causes them to become hypersensative to their own body language, appearence, and posture... Women generally have exaggerated notions of what a man is likely to be aware of, and they have a tendency to freeze up if their initial "obvious" (to most women anyway) cues go unnoticed by a man they are trying to gain the attention of. One reviewer called this book "rubbish"... talking of the keys to the magic kingdom... Of course there are no keys to the magic kingdom but there ARE keys to getting the attention of women who are contemplating your attention. While the author is dogmatic, her points are not totally invalid as this attention getting Brit seems to want to drive people to think. Calling this book "overzealous" is more accurate than "rubbish" because women don't generally limit themselves to just this. On the whole, the book is worth buying simply as contemplation material and as a wake up call to clueless guys. I have a zillion books here on "how to date women", and this one rates up there rather high because it's not theory and such like "where to touch her...." which only serves to make a guy self conscious when he sits there and thinks to himself "gee.... if I could only get THAT far... I could be a master with her. How do I get the girl in the first place?" This book is a key to the VERY FIRST STEP to take with a woman who is a complete stranger to you, to get things off the ground. Virtually every other book I have assumes you already have a girlfriend in front of you. This is a pretty good book for guys who are wondering "how do I get a girl to even talk to me in the first place?"
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