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Undercover Sex Signals

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... I was really looking forward to reading this book, but page after page, it was nothing more than hot air promising to enlighten the reader on this, that and the other thing but never delivering the goods on how to actually score - all it was were her personal theories bolstered by study after study of "findings" (some of these studies involving experiments with rodents, of all things)... however, most of those findings are hardly conclusive when you take into account the most critical factor of all - what women say and what they actually do are often in conflict (the author admits this herself on page 106).

For instance, take the typical gal who bemoans the lack of decent single guys as she describes her ideal man as practically being the nerd-next-door, and yet she'll only throw herself at every "bad boy" that crosses her path. One can only conclude that women are attracted to nice guys in theory only; they're ultimately ruled by their emotions and have no control over who turns them on, no matter how they may try to intellectualize what kind of guy they claim to be attracted to.

More than anything, women have very strong survival instincts and need to feel financially secure. That mindset usually leads them right to the straight-laced, button-down type with favourable income-earning potential who can fulfill that need (usually the guy she'll marry), while being sexually attracted to an entirely different type of guy altogether (the dude that rocks her world who she'll carry on an affair with).

How do I know this? Because at least 25% of the women I meet are married (or otherwise attached) and, usually after a few drinks and a couple of frisky slow dances, they'll make it very clear to me in no uncertain terms that they're in the market for a torrid affair, no strings attached, would I be interested? The reasons vary, but usually it's because they're not physically and/or sexually attracted to their mates and, in many cases, apparently never have been.

After reading so many books on the subject of picking up women (from both male and female authors), I'm now 100% convinced that your best advice will come from guys who know from experience what it takes to score. A female can't teach you how to pick her up and close the deal because:

1) every woman's level of resistance is different - some are easy to pick up, others are next to impossible;

2) every woman's concept of male beauty and appealing characteristics varies from one to the next;

3) because they're always mindful of their reputation among their social peers, many women believe that the only way they can be picked up for a one-night stand is if they have an overwhelming physical attraction to you in the first place or are otherwise flat-out drunk - most gals are confident that their "defense shield" is impenetrable and don't take into account the smooth-talking joe with all the right moves who can charm them into the sack;

4) you can't teach "chemistry" - either it's there or it isn't, and it can only be gauged in face-to-face situations;

5) what women THINK they want in theory and what they actually find themselves attracted to in real life are, more often than not, nothing alike.

As for the body language stuff? Puh-leeze. Even the average frustrated chump would be able to decipher 90% of these so-called "undercover sex signals" (fluffing her hair? licking her lips? sticking out her chest? hello, McFly! is anyone home?).

Reading this book was like listening to someone build up an elaborate joke but forgetting what the punch line was - it just didn't deliver.

Bottom line: don't bother with books about how to pick up women written by women, because most of the time, they don't even know what they really want in the first place. They might scorn the handsome, muscular ladies' man in theory, but when they're feeling sexy and want to get their freak on, guess who they'll throw themselves at?

How can we tell women are interested? Are women constantly giving us signals that we are just not picking up on, or that some men are picking up on, and acting on successfully?

Well, when it comes to body language, most men are oblivious to about 95% of the buying signals that women are giving out, or misinterpreting them.

There are photographs throughout of women demonstrating the various signals, which are supported by science.

Imagine you're walking into a bar, you see a woman, she holds eye contact for several moments then looks away and down. Is she interested? How do you respond? Subtleties in your response make or break the situation.

Experts say only 7% of communication is verbal, 38% is tonality, and 55% is body language. Which is better to know, the 7% or the 55%?

When you are talking to a woman, should you lead by turning your body towards her, or let her lead by moving her body towards you? If you don't know the answer, you need this book.

Leil understands the way men think, and speaks to the male point of view, and eerily at times seems to know what we are thinking.

Perhaps, the single most interesting and persuasive story for me concerns her aesthetically challenged friend Dan the dentist, a ladies man. Dan's insights persuaded me that being able to identify and interpret these signals will vastly improve your success with women. The idea that men go to a bar and obsess about the unattainable woman, while oblivious to signs of interest from other women, rings true, and fine tuning your perceptions will totally change your success.

Some of the signals that women give are unconscious, particularly when it comes to rapport. Your ability to identify these signals as clear indicators of interest are a roadmap to your eventual success.

Why are women attracted to bad boys and jerks? She has good insights into this.

If you are like me you may think you know a lot, but the proof of the pudding is in the eating, so if you are feeling hungry for more, then you need to add this to your shopping cart.

I trust you find this helpful.

The basic purpose of this book is to minimize the frustration that lonely single men find themselves facing by getting them to quit being so oblivious to the body language cues of women with aggressive temperments. It is a little bit dogmatic, rediculously so, but it does make a number of valid points. It's purpose is to embolden, and in a way to sell hope to the reader who picks the book up in the store. Rather than simply aiming at the pretty girls, women who have no clue about you have a tendency to either indicate their willingness to be approached, or indicate that they are just not capable of responding to a guy by using subtle body language cues (such as exposing sensative and vulnerable nerve centers like palms of the hand and the area under their jaw, and running fingers through hair and fondling jewelry.) that most guys simply miss. Most guys are not aware that women consider themselves to be "on display" around men, which causes them to become hypersensative to their own body language, appearence, and posture... Women generally have exaggerated notions of what a man is likely to be aware of, and they have a tendency to freeze up if their initial "obvious" (to most women anyway) cues go unnoticed by a man they are trying to gain the attention of. One reviewer called this book "rubbish"... talking of the keys to the magic kingdom... Of course there are no keys to the magic kingdom but there ARE keys to getting the attention of women who are contemplating your attention. While the author is dogmatic, her points are not totally invalid as this attention getting Brit seems to want to drive people to think. Calling this book "overzealous" is more accurate than "rubbish" because women don't generally limit themselves to just this.

On the whole, the book is worth buying simply as contemplation material and as a wake up call to clueless guys. I have a zillion books here on "how to date women", and this one rates up there rather high because it's not theory and such like "where to touch her...." which only serves to make a guy self conscious when he sits there and thinks to himself "gee.... if I could only get THAT far... I could be a master with her. How do I get the girl in the first place?" This book is a key to the VERY FIRST STEP to take with a woman who is a complete stranger to you, to get things off the ground. Virtually every other book I have assumes you already have a girlfriend in front of you. This is a pretty good book for guys who are wondering "how do I get a girl to even talk to me in the first place?"

I have read several books on this topic so far. This book to me by far is the best value in terms of cost, to read, to applicability of any of them.

The toughest part for the guys which She clearly explains up front is getting up the courage to approach a woman. And end up with that 50/50 probability of being shot down and having your confidence and ego shredded.

Leil summed up her premise quite simply. Why expose yourself to a psyche damaging experience that you dont need to? Why not approach the woman who has non-verbally communicated her interest in you and escalate your odds of successful closure?

I have to say after a single read (I plan on reading and re-reading this book till all of the information is second nature) I went to a local club. I got the primary and secondary signals from a very attractive woman EXACTLY as communicated in USS. I gave the exact counter signals Leil writes in the book. And I kid you not, I didnt have to approach the woman. SHE APPROACHED ME, and started a conversation. I ended the evening with her phone number!!!! So I can personally attest to a successful field test of the information contained within this book.

Now bear in mind, I view this book as being specifically targetted at successful first contact. I have purchased some of Leils other books and hope to extend into the post first contact successes I have already experienced with USS.

This book definitely gives you the confidence to make contact and read the opposite sex. I do hope women appreciate the additional effort us men put into our side of this equation.

This book isn't going to tell you how to pick up any girl anywhere, but it does explain which girls are already interested in you. I now see how many opportunities I have missed out on by knowing the 26 sex signals. There are a few that I have seen over and over that had me thinking the girl was no where close to interested in me which I see now couldn't be further than the truth.

In addition to the signals she explains exactly how women think when you speak. Ever here you should speak more emotionally to a woman instead of so logical? She says it too but gives examples of exactly what she heres when you say something so that you can adjust what you say in order to demonstrate the attractive qualities she is looking for. This information itself is worth buying the book.

I have read five books on dating and talking with women (PUA if you will) and I had a hard time putting everything together until I read this book. If you are looking to build your game this book is honestly where you should start. Body language is about 70% of it and this book gives you the right tools for reading women and displaying attractive qualities.

Leil does provides a descriptive and informative approach to understanding a woman's body language, signals they give off and their underlying motivations. After reading her book I know have a better understanding of women and what motivates them. This is a great read for any man that is single, looking for a great partner and wants to better understand how to meet available women.

Look I have to tell you.
The men who have anything but positive reviews for this book, they just don't get it. This book was written for the men who really want to have real women in there lives. All of the 20 plus signals in this book are not only accurate but I have seen ever single one used buy many different women since I have read this book. I love this book this book should be one of the bibles that men use and talk about and read.
And to tell you the truth this book is the kind of book you can share with your friends because the secretes in this book can only be used by the person who a women is interested in. This book is not about getting any women you want this book is about knowing and identifying the women that want you.
For those men who really want to know the truth about women and how to be a Master Dater, This book is for you.

This is it! The book that tells us why some guys do so well at picking up women and others dont.The book that shows us guys why we miss out on women,simply put,we missed the signals.

That means:
Women's body language!
If we had only learned to read women's body language
(sex signals)years ago.

This book demonstrates with photographic examples of women's sex signals and how to read them.Now is your chance to pick up women and never go home on your own again.This is the book we have been waiting for guys.
This is the most comprehensive book on this subject I have ever seen.

I also recommend this book and these on picking up women:
1)"Date out of your league:for men only" By April Masini.
2)"How to pick up Beautiful women:secrets every man should know".By John Eagan.
3)"A five-step strategy that really works:How to meet the right woman",By Roger Ratcliff,David conway and Diana Ohlsson.
4)"How to chat up women".By Stewart Ferris.
5)"Understanding women:The definitive guide to meeting,dating and dumping,if necessary".By Romy Miller.
6)"How to pick up girls!" By Eric Weber.

You can find more books on dating women by searching "dating",picking up girls",etc on this site.

At first I was skeptical. But after reading "Undercover Sex Signals," I'm a true believer. Women have this really strange secret body language, and Leil tells you what to look for to know if a woman is interested in you or not.

She's right on target. For a couple of weeks now i've been watching women at my favorite bar in a whole new way. Sure enough, women subtly do show either a positive or negative reaction to practically every man they see. Over the past year, I've probably lost dozens of opportunities because I was afraid to make the move. I never knew whether I'd get shot down or if they wanted me to approach them. Now I do. I can't believe I've been so naïve all these years.

Guys, if you hate getting rejected as much as I do, read this book!

An excellent book...my suggestion is to ignore ...review[s] and rely on your own judgment (backed up by Amazon's return policy).

I haven't finished reading this book, but have read through it. Generally, books of this nature can be absorbed in about an hour or two. 'U.S.S' has much more to offer that other self-help/how-to-meet books in that Leil Lowndes provides interesting insight into things which I already know, as well as enough new information to justify spending the time reading. Reading the book is like getting good advice from your sister. The reading experience flows smoothly, helped along by a casual witty style that seems to make the observations gleaned from Science Journals seem obvious. I read these journals, and I admire the ability to translate the findings in such an enjoyable manner.

This book is a good value.