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Understanding Myself: A Kid's Guide to Intense Emotions and Strong Feelings Hardcover – November 15, 2010


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Product Details

  • Age Range: 9 and up
  • Grade Level: 4 and up
  • Hardcover: 112 pages
  • Publisher: Magination Press; 1 edition (November 15, 2010)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 1433808897
  • ISBN-13: 978-1433808890
  • Product Dimensions: 7.1 x 0.6 x 9.3 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 3.3 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (33 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #319,254 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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"Dr. Mary Lamia knows kids and knows how to talk directly to them...A valuable book for kids by a gifted psychologist which can truly help children better understand themselves." --Michael Krasny, Ph.D., Host, Forum, KQED Radio

"...you will see the way your emotions work in a new light." --Venezia Harrison, Age 12

"...an insightful, smart book that will definitely help preteens make sense of their emotions and develop their emotional intelligence...But if you're a parent, buy an extra copy for yourself." --Armin Brott, Host, Positive Parenting, KOIT

"...kids will get a lot out of this book!" --Katja Lohser, age 12

"This is a book that therapists and families would do well to have on their bookshelves as it supports the development of emotional intelligence in both the children and parents."-- Jean Rosenfeld, LCSW

"An accessible, engaging book for kids and parents, Understanding Myself offers a basic education for families in understanding, managing and discussing strong emotions and feelings. Its tone is respectful as it clearly defines and clarifies 18 feelings, laying out a basic emotional vocabulary. Although its stated audience is youth eight to 13 years old who are experiencing strong emotions, the book's straight forward information makes it also appropriate and useful for older teens, as well as parents who are struggling to understand their children's and their own feelings." --California Society for Clinical Social Work

About the Author

Mary C. Lamia, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst who works with adults, adolescents, and preteens in her Marin County private practice. She is a professor at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California.

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I'm a clinical psychologist in Marin County, California, and a professor at the Wright Institute in Berkeley, California. Teaching the public about the psychology of human behavior has been something I've done for over 30 years. Please visit my website: http://www.marylamia.com

Customer Reviews

Overall, I'd say it's a good book, and I really like the questionnaires.
Mbjaguar
Understanding Myself is an insightful book that will help people of all ages learn how to deal with feelings more effectively.
Robert G Yokoyama
This book is a perfect gift for your grandchild--or for that grandchild's mother or father, whom you gave birth to!
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80 of 82 people found the following review helpful By Grady Harp HALL OF FAMETOP 100 REVIEWERVINE VOICE on January 5, 2011
Format: Paperback
UNDERSTANDING MYSELF: A Kid's guide to intense emotions and strong feelings' by Berkeley clinical psychologist/psychoanalyst Mary C. Lamia, PhD is a brave undertaking. As the adult reader takes the time to read this book the first reaction is that the information in the book may just be too advanced for the suggested age 8 to 13 category of young people. And there is a strong hint there that Dr. Lamia doesn't nee to make apparent: if this information seems too sensitive for kids then the adult reader needs some introspection and possible work on their own! Dr. Lamia takes on the field of emotions - that inner aspect of human behavior that in many ways determines juts how effective we will be in dealing with the world. She simply believes that if young people get an early start on appreciating those aspects of the mind that have little to do with school performance but MUCH to do with social interaction and self understanding, then the opening of the door to mental health as they mature will be a more informed process.

The book is divided into seven parts: Feeling Your Emotions in which the science of emotions (yes!) leads to definitions of moods, emotions, feelings; Felling Self-Conscious deals with the concepts of embarrassment, guilt, shame, and pride; Feeling Threatened discusses anxiety, fear and disgust; Feeling Gloomy addresses loneliness, sadness and grief; Feeling Elated explores excitement/joy/happiness and love/infatuation; and Felling Stormy explains anger and envy/jealousy. Each of these topics are first defined so that the reader hears from an expert just what those emotions really are, examples are given, tests are available, and Psych Notes are offered.
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40 of 45 people found the following review helpful By alyson on November 29, 2010
Format: Hardcover
UNDERSTANDING MYSELF is such a lovely book with wonderfully comprehensive explanations about feelings. I found the Psych notes and chapter quizzes to be interesting and helpful. As a Clinical Psychology doctoral student and elementary school counselor (in training), this serves as a wonderful tool in my work with elementary school children. As a former teacher, I believe that many parents, children, therapists, and teachers, will find this book to be quite helpful and valuable.
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26 of 31 people found the following review helpful By E. C. Lowgren on December 8, 2010
Format: Hardcover
I heard an interview with this author 12/7/10 on KQED radio's Forum with Michael Krasney reviewing this book. If the book is anything like the interview with the author, then I think it will be a useful tool for all ages. She says the book was written for children ages 8-13, but parents should find it helpful too. The author emphasized that getting kids to be aware of their emotions, especially shame and guilt, can help them cope with tough problems like bullies and family tension. The interview has streaming audio so you can hear her for yourself!
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9 of 9 people found the following review helpful By Amazon Customer on December 2, 2013
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As a K-5 social worker, I love to find books I can give my 3-5 grade students that are at their level. This has good content, but the layout of the book and vocabulary is too difficult for many of my students. The text-heavy pages are overwhelming for most readers. The cover also makes it look like it's for younger readers, however, it is truly for 11 years and up. Therefore, it really doesn't get a lot of use in my office.
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Format: Paperback
Understanding Myself is a book that designed for children from age eight to thirteen. It is a book that provides tips to help children to handle intense feelings like anger, loneliness and guilt. Each page of this book is colored differently. This adds to the appeal of the book for me. Every person experiences these feelings, so the information in this book can apply to everyone.

I like reading the psych notes in the book. This book is published by the American Psychological Association. It is filled with psychological research studies that are fun to read and understand. My perception of negative feelings like envy, guilt and embarassment has changed after reading this book. The challenge for me is to take these feelings I have and use them to create positive outcomes for myself.

Dr. Lamia includes self assessments after each chapter. These assessments are a good way for children to gauge how to improve on expressing feelings like anger and fear more effectively. I had fun taking these assessments mentally to see how I measure up. Understanding Myself is an insightful book that will help people of all ages learn how to deal with feelings more effectively.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By Tracey on September 18, 2013
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Really helped to understand my daughter and what she is going through but it is still to high level for my daughter to read.... it needs to be in a much basic form.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By DS on January 25, 2013
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My daughter got some simple tips from this book, but it was a bit too basic for her. Probably okay for a younger child.
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2 of 2 people found the following review helpful By rlwn1 on August 21, 2012
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Why do I feel? That's a good question and one that's answered along with many others in this adorable book. Designed for kids but helpful to adults, Ms. Lamia leads us down a path of emotional intelligence. Emotions, also called emotional responses, are our brain's way of getting information to us for split second decisions. We're constantly bombarded by them, and learning what they mean is a great advantage in life. The younger the person learning, the better.

Several are presented in 5 basic categories which are: self conscious, threatened, gloomy, elated and stormy. Clear definitions are written with details on how they affect a kid's life along with practical advice on dealing with them. Lots of kid quotes are sprinkled in and every chapter contains an insightful quiz for self-knowledge.

I'm grateful for the help I received in making sense of my daily experiences (so THAT'S what comtempt is!) and my complicated relationships. Rating: 5 stars and a smile.
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