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Understanding Women: The Definitive Guide to Meeting, Dating and Dumping, if Necessary

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About a year ago, I began reading various pick-up artist material, including Neil Strauss' The Game, The Mystery Method by Mystery, and From the Bar to the Bedroom by the editors of AskMen.com. The information in those books was quite useful, but I felt the material that pick-up artists use didn't fit my personality. I tried using that material on a few ladies, and it seemed so unnatural and uncomfortable to me. I successfully creeped out a few of them. I felt like an actor reading from a horrible script. Plus, don't get me started on "the seven hour rule." Sex happens when she wants it to happen. You can't force it on her.

Every guy is different. He must use the strengths in his personality to become successful with women. What I like about this book is that tells you what not to do, what to do, what is going through her mind, and what she expects you to do. All you need to have is a decent personality, and the information in the book will guide you the rest of the way.

The book is nothing more than common sense that guys tend to overlook. The chapters are short and to the point. I read the whole thing in about two hours. By the way, she is hilarious but right, sadly.

If you had a bad role model growing up or your dad taught you absolutely nothing about women, I strongly suggest this book and only this book. It's all you really need. Please, don't buy into the whole PUA thing. The next book you should buy should be on tantric sex.

This book is good for the average guy. I have referred back to this book a couple of times just to remind myself of some of the basics. The book does a good job of covering many basic topics from what to wear, talking to women, treating women, how to act. The good thing is the author doesn't try to make you do outlandish things like other books tell you. The other helpful thing about the book is that the book is short and gets to the point very quickly.

Lonely guy? Read this book, and re-read it. This book is concise common sense instruction on meeting, dating, etc. Easy to read.
Romy Miller writes with an intensity and fervor to teach the readers how to meet women, look sharp, and have an intimate relationship. For whatever reasons, many men of the world really need to read this book to get their heads together.
I've re-read it about 3 times, and I get more out of it, everytime.
And, most importantly, over the last year since I started reading this book, the number of unfamiliar women I've approached and dated has escalated, and I feel like I know what I'm looking for, now and I feel like I'm on my way to meeting the one, if I'm not currently dating her.
This book isn't a guide to seduction. The author's recommendations are for starting relationships, not quick trysts, though trysts are covered. The book covers maturity with simple statements that make you think about where you're going with all this.

Every book about self-improvement is interesting to read, and contains some useful advices, and this one is no exception, but unfortunately it's far from comprehensive and it's overpriced.

In the introduction the author tells you that you do not need to have a lot of money or to look great. Then the first half of the book basically tells you that you need to have money: find a better paying job, buy a nice car and your own home. The second part of the book actually offers some useful advice, like: On a date, don't talk too much about yourself, instead ask questions about her and let her talk, because supposedly that's what she would like; When your girlfriend starts yelling at you for no reason, defend yourself, but don't argue too much. Instead, leave and come back later.

The advice in this book is APALLING. Romy makes a song and dance about how men don't understand women and the advice of a woman is far better but you'd get better advice from a 12 year old boy than whats in here (actually probably about the same).

I've read books like The Mystery Method and Rules Of The Game and found the advice lacking (I don't want to have to change my whole personality, become a metrosexual, and approach 10 women a night) but this book is at the opposite end of the spectrum. If the advice in those books was essentially "treat women like meat and act like you're the prize" then the advice in this book boils down to "women are superior, you should be begging for their attention and showering them with money".

Literally. She actually advises that you pay for everything even if the woman insists she wants to pay her own way.

How ridiculous! From my experience most women would be extremely uncomfortable (and more than a little freaked out)if you insisted on paying despite their protests.

I was hoping to get a modern, intelligent, female perspective on the current dating scene and all I got was a bunch of rehashed cliches about having to jump through hoops and "pay for it" (throw in some useless "be yourself" platitudes for good measure).

There seem to just be two camps in the modern dating scene - the "treat 'em mean keep 'em keen" players and the "if you want to get laid you have to kowtow and beg for it" princesses. Is there no middle ground for the mature & unprentious?

This book is a gold mine of wisdom for readers who are through whining and are ready to get serious about dating. With a tough love approach, Romy Miller challenges males to stop coming up short and to do what is needed to be a success in the world of dating. This relatively short book says much more than some dating books that are twice as long. "Understanding Women" consists of dozens of short chapters and each one addresses an important aspect of dating. No games here! Miller teaches how to succeed while respecting women and thus maintaining good karma. Readers will get a better idea of how women think and why they think like they do. This book makes it very obvious that succeeding with women will require considerable outlays of money and effort but also points out why dating is worth the trouble. Readers will also recognize that dating is not to be done half-heartedly but that success is within reach if they are willing to put forth the effort. For all those whose parents and friends have failed to pass on any true dating insight, this book is an investment that will pay huge dividends!

I bought the e-book version hoping to improve my dating skills. The book is generally helpful and removes some confusions men generally have about women. The chapters are short but to the point. The main theories in the book confirms with some views I've read from a book written by a men. Both have some extreme views which I won't take seriously or apply completely. What I feel missing in this book is how to pick the women that's right for you. It answered a lot of questions on how to treat women and what women likes, but no much about how to handle certain situations, such as how to handle a women just got out of a bad relationship (there will be a lot of curve balls). It's a good book, but if you meet a complicated women, more help is needed :).

"Men don't understand women. I don't care how many degrees they have, they don't get it. I am a woman. That's all the creditability [sic] I need." - Romy Miller

The above quotation demonstrates the kind of reasoning Romy Miller uses throughout her book, which should give you an idea of just how well researched and authoritative the book is. Despite the title's claim to being "definitive," the book is nothing more than dime-store opinion, cynically put forth by someone who evidently believes people will buy her book as long as she proclaims her own expertise. Don't believe it. Miller has not bothered to do any empirical research, or come up with any other bases for her assertions beyond the mere fact they sound good to her. Just because Romy Miller is a woman does not mean she is an expert on women, or is qualified to explain women to you. (Aileen Wuornos was a woman, too. Would you take dating advice from her?) In fact, a lot of what Miller writes undermines her own credibility and makes you wonder if she should be writing anything at all. Consider the following excerpt:

"One thing you are going to have to do before you begin to transform your life is to stop whining about how difficult women are. We've went [sic] through a lot of crap to get here and we're not about to just give it up. A woman's role today is NOT of a subordinate. More than anything she is your genetic superior. Think about it. She can pop a baby out of her vagina. You can't."

Let me see if I understand this correctly: Part of transforming my life is accepting that women are difficult? Move over Dr. Phil. There's a new self-help guru in town. And, I don't want to get into a lesson on evolutionary biology here, but genetic superiority (if there is such a thing) is not determined by what sex you are. The fact that Miller thinks so shows that she would have been better served - and would have better served you - had she spent some time with a textbook or two before deciding she was qualified to write a book of her own.

As other reviewers have noted, Miller's approach is cursory and superficial, never going into great detail on any one subject. Miller says she's just making things "short and sweet," so as not to waste your time, but that is just a cheap way of justifying the obvious fact she does not have much to say on any topic she covers. Any man who is not completely clueless already knows a good deal (albeit probably not all) of her advice. And even if you think you could use some womanly input, ask yourself this: do you really want to take advice on how to understand women from a woman who thinks men are genetically inferior to women? All things considered, this is just another dating advice book, more poorly written and edited - not to mention misguided and insulting - than most. If you still feel compelled to support Miller's efforts to bilk well-intentioned men (and women) out of their hard-earned, then good luck to you. But don't say I didn't warn you.

Despite a warning that her book wasn't a substitute for psychological advice, and that her words were 'in-your-face', Miller's words are clearly out of frustration with her own problems with men. Instead of giving advice that is neutral and useful for men, she instead complains about things that she finds unacceptable to dating and life, this mindset is more reflective of materialistic women, thus giving the female gender a bad name, and further driving men down wrong roads to 'love'.

If you know what's good for you, you'll stay away from anything Romy Miller has written. Perhaps when she grows up and acts her age (whatever that is), and understands the fact that men are human, and not something women can leech off of, then maybe people will start to take her seriously.

There are a lot of books out there about how to get women into bed.

Most appear to be written by guys, everyone from great writers like Neil Strauss to complete players who can't spell very well looking to have as much wild, irresponsible and ultimately selfish sex as they can.

UNDERSTANDING WOMEN is the perfect book for a nice guy who's looking to improve his game (which, I suspect, is most of us out here). This book doesn't treat women like targets or belt notches because it was written by one, striking the right balance between getting your game and satisfying the romance for your prey. And, no matter how nice you are, you will need "game" out there. It's the law of the jungle, especially these days.

Romy Miller does an excellent job of giving insight into the female mentality and allows men to see what's going on from the other side.

If you're looking to become a player-borderline-sexual-predator, move on to something else (those books are out there), but if you're looking to improve your love life and find something more meaningful, then check this one out.