Undressing Infidelity: Why More Wives are Unfaithful [Paperback]

Diane Shader Smith (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: January 31, 2005

Undressing Infidelity is a fascinating, steamy and compelling book that takes you beyond the cold taboo statistics of divorce and infidelity and into the everyday lives of married women who are having extramarital affairs. Who are these women? They are your neighbours, your friends, your co-workers. They go to your gym. They shop at your supermarket. They are the women you see everyday who seem to have it all. So why are they cheating? Statistics tell us that 65 percent of married women cheat - but what does that really mean? Here the author has uncovered the truth behind the numbers by doing what no one has ever done before - listening to them. She sat down one to one with more than one hundred and fifty women, all of whom shared the intimate secrets of their affairs. What tempts women to cheat? And when they do, how do they keep their marriages intact? Or do they? What about the children? And even if no one finds out, how to they face themselves in the mirror in the morning? In this book the author not only reveals the fascinating results of her research, she also provides an up-close-and-personal look at the most telling stories she encountered. She takes you deep inside the marriages and affairs of 12 fascinating women who chose to cheat. Told in their own words, these stories weave a surprising and compelling tapestry of love, sex and cheating loyalties in today's marriages.

Editorial Reviews

From Publishers Weekly

Sidestepping statistics and sociological analysis in favor of good old-fashioned steamy storytelling, this book offers an insider's perspective on the phenomena of cheating wives. Smith reveals her personal fascination with the subject of female adultery in the opening chapter-a flirtatious relationship with a handsome man she met on a business trip once caused her to risk her comfortable marriage by almost starting an affair. Her cautionary tale reads like the opening of a romance novel, engrossing the reader with the daring of her flirtatious encounters. After her near affair, Smith began interviewing other women who had actually cheated in an attempt to figure out why women stray. These 14 absorbing stories are told through the wives' unique voices. Jennifer, a soccer mom with a bad sex life but a loving husband, found that her affair with a doctor actually raised her self-worth and helped her marriage. Theresa, a teacher in her 40s from the Midwest, with a "prim demeanor" and strict parents who never broached the subject of sex, cheated on her abusive husband with a cowboy she met at a bar. Smith admits that every person she interviewed challenged her assumptions about the type of woman who could be unfaithful, but unfortunately, she does not seem to have reached any more substantial conclusions than that. The book offers insufficient insight into how to prevent a good marriage from going sour, but what it lacks in social significance, it makes up for in intrigue and romance. Readers will be entertained by these real-life accounts of cheating wives, even if the overarching question of why women cheat is ultimately left unanswered.
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About the Author

Diane Shader Smith was a Director of Public Relations, working for such companies as Microsoft.

Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Adam Media Corp.; 1st Printing edition (January 31, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 159337481X
• ISBN-13: 978-1593374815
• Product Dimensions: 7.3 x 5.5 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #870,427 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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13 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Provocative but ultimately unfullfilling..., June 8, 2005

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Paul LaRosa (www.paullarosa.com) (NY United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Undressing Infidelity: Why More Wives are Unfaithful (Paperback)

Sort of like most affairs, eh? There's no doubt this is an easy book to read and full of steamy details about married women fed up with their lives or just plain bored who decide to try something new. I was engrossed in their stories and the women did not let me down. Unfortunately, the author did. I had hoped for more analysis precisely because she seemed to be promising that in the very first chapter. She never came through and what could have been a much more important book ultimately, I think, failed. Too fluffy, not enough substance.

10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars Fake stories or so laughingly bad written accounts., December 8, 2006

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Ruby D. (Beverly Hills,Ca) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Undressing Infidelity: Why More Wives are Unfaithful (Paperback)

Her interviews with cheating wives were written in the authors own interpretations. (which she writes like bad Harlequin novels) For example: The 'Doctor' affair cannot be true, no Dr would invite a new patient with an emergency knife cut wound into an empty office after hours and then attempt to seduce the married patient with lines like "leave your blouse open we are casual here" or "one man's pain is another man's pleasure" with a leering grin, can you say Malpractice suit? The other stories are all just as bad/fake and there is never any conclusion to the question on the title why do wives cheat, what is the purpose of the book? This is just boring stories of desperate house-wife wannabees that may or may not have actually happened, not a self help or informal non-fiction.

11 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Undressing Infidelity, February 15, 2006

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A Reader (Glenview, IL United States) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Undressing Infidelity: Why More Wives are Unfaithful (Paperback)

Feel good about yourself and save a tree cuz this is total garbage. What a waste of time and money. It took me nowhere, no insight, no nothing, not even interesting stories, just a plain old bad taste in my mouth. The way I read it I have to think that this "writer" just needed to capitalize in on her personal indescretion in order to justify her indescretion to herself. I've got to tell you I've ordered alot from Amazon and never felt compelled to write a review before as these things are always in the eyes of the beholder but I feel so totally burned by the hype of this waste of space. There's so much better out there.