From Library Journal
Although these books examine the ins and outs of cohabitation from different viewpoints, they do agree on some basics: cohabitation is on the rise (there are 11 million cohabitors in this country today, claim Solot and Miller), and six out of ten couples live together before marriage (claim the Whitmans). Strangely enough, not many self-help manuals on the subject exist. Founders of the Alternatives to Marriage Project, Solot and Miller are a committed unmarried couple, and their book reflects this perspective. Although they acknowledge that many couples live together as a step before marriage, they are most concerned with couples who are planning to live together instead of getting married. They cover topics such as reasons why couples would decide not to get married, how unmarried couples can legally protect themselves, and how to agitate for acceptance of unmarried lifestyles. Stacy Whitman, a journalist currently living with her fianc , and her sister, lawyer Wynne Whitman, have a different focus. While they recognize that some couples might decide to live together ad infinitum, their advice pertains to couples for whom the wedding bells will eventually toll. They address many of the same areas as Solot and Miller, such as legal protection and how to deal with negative reactions from family and friends, but they also include advice on what to do if one member is not willing to tie the knot. Given the dearth of books on cohabitation, either of these would make great additions to public libraries. Also consider Ralph Warner and others' Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples, endorsed by the authors here.Pam Matthews, M.L.S., Olmsted Falls, OH
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A must-read for anyone wanting to shack up .... this thoughtful, practical book ... offers guidance and questions to ponder. -- Utne Reader, September-October 2003
A thoughtful, no-nonsense resource for unwed partners both gay and straight...a unique and invaluable resource for the happily unwed. -- Bitch: Feminist Response to Pop Culture, No. 20, 2003
Fantastic work...[Unmarried to Each Other's] warm style is such that it can be read "cover-to-cover," like a novel. -- The Texas Triangle, January 10, 2003
They've written the guidebook, and it's a triumph. ...Contains just about everything cohabs (and prospective cohabs) need to know. -- Free Inquiry, Spring 2003
Top-notch collection of advice for couples who want to keep their relationship strong -- with or without a marriage license. -- Minneapolis Star-Tribune, January 13, 2003