I Used To Miss Him...But My Aim Is Improving: Not Your Ordinary Breakup Survival Guide [Paperback]

Alison James (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: April 8, 2004

Breaking up is hard to do - but sweet revenge can make all the difference! With ever-increasing numbers of single people out there dating, hearts get broken every day. But today's woman needs more than a book of soppy affirmations to get her back on her feet and feeling great. I Used to Miss Him...is full of smart tips, sarcastic stories and hilarious ways to heal after a breakup. This book provides the sort of genuine advice you'd get from your best friend, but with a "rip his head off" attitude. By supporting a girl's right to be angry with her ex, this fun guide helps her rebuild her strength and confidence after he's gone. Features edgy advice on how to: Cash in on his lifelong guilt Look sexy and feel fabulous (then run into him at a party) Make an ex-boyfriend voodoo doll Lose the guy, keep the jewelry Advertise being single Stalk responsibly to keep him on his toes Maximize post-breakup pampering I Used to Miss Him...is the ultimate breakup survival guide for today's woman!

Editorial Reviews

Review

"I really wish I wasn't dating her. I'm probably going to marry her just because I'm afraid of what might happen if I call it off."

About the Author

Allison James is a coffee shop therapist for New York City's most confident singletons. She is a renowned expert in the breakup field, with more than two decades of experience using the recovery plan she reveals in this book.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Adams Media (April 8, 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1593370113
• ISBN-13: 978-1593370114
• Product Dimensions: 8.7 x 5.3 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.4 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (44 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #301,299 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Alison James is an expert in relationship and lifestyle issues that affect young women today. She has appeared on VH1, Soap Talk, CBS, Cinemax, and more. Her work has been featured in USA Weekend, The Wall Street Journal, The NY Daily News, and in hundreds of other publications and on radio shows around the world. Alison James is a graduate of Princeton University and The London School of Economics.

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35 of 39 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars No, not so funny, December 10, 2005

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TAG (Sacramento, Calif.) - See all my reviews

This review is from: I Used To Miss Him...But My Aim Is Improving: Not Your Ordinary Breakup Survival Guide (Paperback)

So the title of this book seemed hokey, but after reading some of the reviews included here, I decided to give it a whirl. After all, who doesn't need a good laugh after a horrible, miserable breakup?

The bottom line, however, is that I just didn't find this book funny -- not even mildly amusing. Take, for example, a selection of "Sassy Scoops" offered by the author for coping with your ex:

-- Post his number on the campus bulletin board as "pizza delivery."

-- Trust your inner guidance system. When that little voice in the back of your head tells you to kick his ass, go for it.

-- During a post-breakup shopping spree, cute shoes qualify as a "need" and not a "want." Pick up any pair with a heel. They'll make you appear taller and thinner and give him an instant height complex.

Funny? Your pre-teen sister might think so, but to me, it just seems juvenile.

20 of 24 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Refreshingly Funny And Empowering, December 9, 2004

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Laura De Giorgio "hypnotherapist" (Canada) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: I Used To Miss Him...But My Aim Is Improving: Not Your Ordinary Breakup Survival Guide (Paperback)

Just about every page in this book will make you laugh and laughing is good. It helps to diffuse the tension and not to take things too seriously. Whatever the problem, it, too, shall pass. Some suggestions in this book are wildly creative - just reading about them will help you to let the pressure out of your system - as for doing them - well, don't do anything you would regreat later on and the best way to invest your energy is in creating a fabulous new life. You'll find lots of ideas prompting you in the right direction - re-creating and re-inveting yourself and your life in a way that will make you feel thoroughly good about yourself and about your future.

10 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars saved my life, July 16, 2005

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This review is from: I Used To Miss Him...But My Aim Is Improving: Not Your Ordinary Breakup Survival Guide (Paperback)

This book seriously saved my life after my breakup. It made me feel like I could get my life together again and for a while I felt like a truck had hit me. It also made me laugh so hard at some of the things going through my head. I'm giving it four stars because I think that some people might prefer a more clinical approach to dealing with a breakup. I personally did not find the clinical style books to be very helpful though. I liked this one because of the advice, but also how it helped me formulate a game plan for getting through this experience. If you have a good sense of humor, you will really really like it. I also recommend Letting Go, by Cabot although it is very clinical. It would be a good one to get in addition to this one.