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I Used To Miss Him...But My Aim Is Improving: Not Your Ordinary Breakup Survival Guide

5 star:		(32)
4 star:		(7)
3 star:		(0)
2 star:		(1)
1 star:		(4)

 

 

So the title of this book seemed hokey, but after reading some of the reviews included here, I decided to give it a whirl. After all, who doesn't need a good laugh after a horrible, miserable breakup?

The bottom line, however, is that I just didn't find this book funny -- not even mildly amusing. Take, for example, a selection of "Sassy Scoops" offered by the author for coping with your ex:

-- Post his number on the campus bulletin board as "pizza delivery."

-- Trust your inner guidance system. When that little voice in the back of your head tells you to kick his ass, go for it.

-- During a post-breakup shopping spree, cute shoes qualify as a "need" and not a "want." Pick up any pair with a heel. They'll make you appear taller and thinner and give him an instant height complex.

Funny? Your pre-teen sister might think so, but to me, it just seems juvenile.

Just about every page in this book will make you laugh and laughing is good. It helps to diffuse the tension and not to take things too seriously. Whatever the problem, it, too, shall pass. Some suggestions in this book are wildly creative - just reading about them will help you to let the pressure out of your system - as for doing them - well, don't do anything you would regreat later on and the best way to invest your energy is in creating a fabulous new life. You'll find lots of ideas prompting you in the right direction - re-creating and re-inveting yourself and your life in a way that will make you feel thoroughly good about yourself and about your future.

This book seriously saved my life after my breakup. It made me feel like I could get my life together again and for a while I felt like a truck had hit me. It also made me laugh so hard at some of the things going through my head. I'm giving it four stars because I think that some people might prefer a more clinical approach to dealing with a breakup. I personally did not find the clinical style books to be very helpful though. I liked this one because of the advice, but also how it helped me formulate a game plan for getting through this experience. If you have a good sense of humor, you will really really like it. I also recommend Letting Go, by Cabot although it is very clinical. It would be a good one to get in addition to this one.

This book is overall a gem with good suggestions for recovery and a lot of humor. It is probably a book for the college set but I am twenty-eight and really enjoyed it!

The best part about it is that it made me realize I'm not the only one who feels crazy during a breakup. I also felt like despite the obvious sarcastic bent to the book, it did have positive things to say about men. It is not a "let's be bitter forever" book. It's really all about having fun and feeling good about yourself.

I thought this passage was key: "Remember-though it is hard to get over someone you really care about, it is even harder to spend your life in an unfulfilling relationship." I keep reading that phrase over and over again and it has really changed my perspective on my breakup.

I second all the positive reviews of this book. I now keep it in my purse when I go to work and if I feel bad about my love life I pull it out and read a section. I also bought copies to give as gifts to friends. The advice in it is stuff most girls should hear over and over again. One warning to buyers - you won't enjoy it if you don't find humor in twisted things but if you ever felt like kicking a man's a--, you will love this.

After I broke up with my boyfriend (whom I lived with for almost 2 years,) I was devastated. I read this book, among many others, hoping to find some comfort or insight into the process of breaking up and grieving (with also a little humor!)

Instead, this book insulted me with its immaturity. In the first chapter, the author writes under the headline "Sassy Battle Plan" to "secure embarassing photos of him to use in the future."

I mean, if you only saw a guy once or twice and are just feeling a bit annoyed or if you still find high-schoolish "schemes" funny, than maybe this is the book for you.

But if you are looking for any kind of useful advice about grieving and moving on, this is not the book to buy. I would recommend "The Girl's Guide to Surviving a Breakup" instead...

This book attempts to teach a girl how to be a "diva" during the post break up period.

Question: "How is taping an envelope with a bug in it on your ex's door nob" a diva move?

Question: "How is jumping into rebound sex" with a stranger a diva move?

This book is very different from the idea presented in "It's called a break up because it's broken" and personally I agree with everything in that book says.

While "It's called a break up because it's broken" shows how to truely get over someone, this book merely shows you how to drown in your own anger and do stupid things that hurts both yourself and innocent others.

but if you have or are going through a break up that cuts really deep, this book will really help ease some of the things you are feeling and help you feel a little more normal. I remember reading it a saying "holy crap, that is soooo true." Trust me it's just a little step that will help in a big way.

Yes! Bought the book. Liked it a lot. Highly recommend it. It's all of that advice you need to hear presented in a funny way with a hint of sarcasm. My best friend liked it too. Even if you're just dating right now you'll get a big kick out of it and learn something. It also contains good tid bits to write down and hang up on your fridge as reminders.

Not your ordinary breakup survival guide is right - although I am still mourning the end of my almost 2-year relationship, I was in stitches reading this. James offers razor-sharp wit, such as, "If a man calls you 'psycho', it's his way to cover up what HE did wrong." HA! I love it. Although I would never employ the body-maiming suggestions (dunk his head in hemorrhoid cream - voila - he's gone!), I did need the laugh. If you want to hermit yourself, that's ok, but take this book to bed with you. You'll be glad that James sheds the light on how men really think, and reminds you of the diva you really are.