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The Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette, 50th Anniversay Edition [Hardcover]

by Nancy Tuckerman, Nancy Dunnan
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Book Description

January 1, 1995 0385413424 978-0385413428 1st
The Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette is the most authoritative book of its kind. Filled with practical advice for every occasion, business and pleasure, this book ensures that all of your social interactions will be handled with grace and confidence.

This classic guide, first published in 1952, has been fully updated to reflect the concerns of the modern reader. The advice that has made Amy Vanderbilt the first name in etiquette remains pertinent today. Here is the final word on buying and using stationery, responding to dinner invitations, hosting a party, and attending religious ceremonies. The chapter of the most enduring popularity is, of course, the one on weddings. From addressing invitations to sending thank you notes, everything a bride needs to plan the perfect wedding is easily accessible.

In addition to the time-honored guidance that has made this book a treasured reference, this updated edition contains information that addresses modern concerns of every kind. Here is advice on answering cellular phone calls in public, behaving courteously at the gym, and speaking at business meetings.

Whether you need to compose an invitation, write a letter of condolence, address your senator, set a dinner table, or buy a gift for a foreign business associate, you will find The Amy Vanderbilt Complete Book of Etiquette practical, down-to-earth, and always reliable.

Updated and revised by former White House Staff Coordinator Nancy Tuckerman and respected businesswoman Nancy Dunnan, this trusted book remains the most complete and authoritative guide to living well.

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Since debuting in 1952, this has been one of the premiere etiquette guides. After Vanderbilt's suicide, former White House staff coordinator Tuckerman and corporate executive Dunnan have taken up the banner and completely revised and updated this standard.
Copyright 2000 Reed Business Information, Inc.


"Manners are the happy way of doing things, each one a stroke of genius or of love."
--Ralph Waldo Emerson

Product Details

  • Hardcover: 800 pages
  • Publisher: Doubleday; 1st edition (January 1, 1995)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 0385413424
  • ISBN-13: 978-0385413428
  • Product Dimensions: 9.4 x 6.6 x 2.2 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 2.9 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (20 customer reviews)
  • Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #239,040 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

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61 of 63 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars A disappointment, but still an authority October 13, 2003
My mother has a copy of the original edition, so I grew up treating Vanderbilt's work as a constant reference for social graces. Naturally, I was overjoyed to learn that a new edition had made an appearance. Unfortunately, I was disappointed.
With no disrespect intended to Tuckerman et al for their fine work, this once-great guide is a shadow of its former self. It is no less accurate than it once was, but is unfortunately much more base. Do people really need to be told not to leave dirty dishes lying about, for example?
As a guide to minimal civilized behaviour--how not to behave like a spoiled child--it carries the tradition of excellence. However, for the finer points of etiquette, I strongly recommend tracking down a copy of the 1978 (Baldrige ed.) edition of this great reference.
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34 of 38 people found the following review helpful
4.0 out of 5 stars The Cornerstone of Modern Etiquette January 27, 2000
By far this is the most comprehensive work on modern etiqutte. It is not particularly a book that you should read cover to cover due to its vast size, but it lends itself to an excellent reference manual for everyday affairs. I would highly recommend this for the office.
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20 of 23 people found the following review helpful
5.0 out of 5 stars A wonderful reference. June 6, 2001
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Out of all the helpful information in this book, I found the following most helpful: etiquette with cell phones, answering machines, and call waiting. Proper etiquette at weddings, funerals, and other religious rituals. Etiquette at the office and with meeting new people.
In a world where we are often greeted with a "yeah?" when using the phone, this book is a breath of fresh air. Simply a must for the social person!
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful
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I often have felt that if everyone read a good etiquette guide and followed the suggestions, the world would be a kinder, gentler place. One can't do much better than Amy Vanderbilt and I bought this for my niece, who is going to be married soon and should have a good guide in her library. Every aspect of one's life works better with good manners.
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6 of 9 people found the following review helpful
3.0 out of 5 stars Manners Makyth Man * February 4, 2009
*The motto of New College, Oxford, founded in 1379. I've appreciated this saying since I first saw it years ago. My claim to be conversant with this subject is based on my interest and reading, a semester course in etiquette required at my girls' prep school, living in a foreign country for two years (England) and successfully dealing with my students and their parents from different Asian cultures. And having married a naval officer, I learned a bit about protocol. I also enjoy the novel of manners -- Austen, Trollope, Dickens, Waugh, and so forth.

It seems an important thing to me not to make another person feel awkward; and just as important that I not feel so either. I happened to pick up a copy of Vanderbilt's "Etiquette" at my library's book sale. This oft-revised but essentially unchangeable prescription for correct behavior is not at all the best in the field. Emily Post's "Etiquette" is better written and deeper in thought: older copies even have a period charm. That book allows more flexibility and offers more examples of possible situations. Vanderbilt's is cut and dried, not particularly imaginative.
But still it could be of good use to many people. It could be consulted by a young person, or one trying to learn American ways or perhaps a couple planning a wedding -- still a highly ritualized social occasion. This is for people who tell me they are too busy to be polite, or imply they have too much money, (or not enough), to express courtesy. So an etiquette book is enlightenment to the uninformed but verification to the initiated.

Here are some sample quotes:

Letter of Apology --
"Occasionally you may need to send a letter of apology....
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5.0 out of 5 stars Great Book February 27, 2014
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I purchased this book for my younger niece because etiquette seems to be a thing of the past with the up and coming generation and she loved it
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4.0 out of 5 stars Great book! January 30, 2014
By Joy
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This book has a lots of information in it. And I know it will be a help to me as well as for the entire family.
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By C. Bank
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I have been looking for this book for sometime happy to have found it. I bought it for my granddaughter for a gift
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Most Recent Customer Reviews
4.0 out of 5 stars Amy Vanderbilt Etiquette 50th Anniversary Ed.
Very well written. This book is an excellent resource and guidebook. I recommend it to all those interested in keeping knowledge of proper custom up-to-date.
Published 8 months ago by A. Sedacca
5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Book
In a world where we are being invaded by nations from all over the world. It is important for the western culture to remain civilized and eradicate the imported barbarism with good... Read more
Published 14 months ago by Edgar Flotte
5.0 out of 5 stars This is a great book to keep as a guide to reference how things should...
Love this book! All the information and the way it is laid out in great. I would recommend this to anyone.
Published 15 months ago by Dana L.
5.0 out of 5 stars Great!
Nice present for my 12 years old son. Good book with quality binding, seldom (rather never!) found nowadays for the newer books. Pleasantly surprised.
Published 15 months ago by Drothus
5.0 out of 5 stars Mom loved it!
I purchased this book last year for Christmas for my Mother. This was on her Amazon wishlist. the book was cheap and shipped very fast. Read more
Published on October 23, 2011 by Totally xx310702
4.0 out of 5 stars I liked it!
This book is vry informative and really has some great information. I wish more people would read it and learn a little!
Published on April 5, 2008 by Sarah D. Petro
5.0 out of 5 stars Manners
Excellent reference for the proper to the ignorant. Great gift for those who spout manners and etiquette but wouldn't know it if it ran them over, send anonymously of course!
Published on November 15, 2007 by Marina
3.0 out of 5 stars Today's World Has Some Shortcomings.
Etiquette are the rules to apply toward others in public. When you work in the public sector, there are such a thing as manners and treating others as you want to be treated. Read more
Published on November 23, 2005 by Betty Burks
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