Vicki Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath (Lansky, Vicki) [Paperback]

Vicki Lansky (Author)

Book Description

Series: Lansky, Vicki | Publication Date: January 11, 1996

An updated parents' guide to helping youngsters cope with divorce and its aftermath offers advice on such issues as breaking the news, custody, financial and legal matters, and support groups, emphasizing the need for cooperation and respect between divorcing partners. Original. IP.

Editorial Reviews

Amazon.com Review

Vicki Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents is a pragmatic yet warm and understanding guide for parents and children on just about every aspect of divorce. From tips on talking to the kids about it, to information on negotiating the realities of custody and child support, Lansky demystifies the divorce process, including the emotional aspects. A parenting writer of many books (Feed Me, I'm Yours), Lansky is also a divorced, single mother. Her combination of information, humor, and compassion make the Divorce Book for Parents a valuable resource.

From Library Journal

Basing her approach on the belief that children are affected less by divorce itself than by the way a family is restructured and the way feelings are handled afterward, Lansky--herself a divorced mother and the author of Feed Me! I'm Yours (Meadowbrook, 1986. rev. ed.) and other books--presents a highly practical and optimistic guide for divorced and divorcing parents. Among the many problem areas she covers, all from the perspective of doing what is best for the child, are breaking the news, the danger of continuing conflict, deciding when professional help is needed, organizing--and surviving--departure, dealing with the ex-spouse, and long-term adjustment. "You might think I'm painting a rather rosy picture in this book and that the real world doesn't work like this," she admits. "But it can. " Highly recommended for all public library collections.
- Marcia G. Fuchs, Guilford Free Lib., Ct.
Copyright 1989 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

Product Details

• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: Book Peddlers, The; 3rd edition (January 11, 1996)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0916773485
• ISBN-13: 978-0916773489
• Product Dimensions: 7.1 x 4.8 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 6.9 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #630,720 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #23 in Books > 4-for-3 Books > Parenting & Families > Family Relationships > Divorce

More About the Author

Feed Me I'm Yours, my first book, began as a local fund raising cookbook in 1974 and turned me into an author. I thought it was the only book I'd ever write and then for a while, I thought that each new book would be my last. Was I wrong!

Along the way I also became a publisher. Feed Me I'm Yours was first published from my husband's and my home on Meadowbrook Lane (i.e., Meadowbrook Press). Our company grew very fast as we learned the publishing business. After our divorce 8 years later, I left Meadowbook Press with no plans of being a publisher again. However, as the books I wrote for others went out of print, I established my own imprint, Book Peddlers, which now publishes over half of my 30 titles...including (naturally) Vicki Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents.

When you write parenting books, everyone glances critically at your children. Thank goodness mine had the good grace to turn out well. Despite my mistakes (and they'll be the first to point them out) my thirty-something twosome have survived and thrived in spite of having had a "professional" mother. Lucky me!

I think my mother would be astonished to know that I give out cleaning and household advice to millions of people as a columnist for Family Circle magazine. After all, she 'not I' had made a career of homemaking. In 1988, when Family Circle asked me to be a contributing editor to their "Help" column, I was delighted. This would be a place for me to share "grown-up" tips. I was now moving beyond the days of needing to know that peanut butter removes gum from children's hair!

Writing about household hints has been more of an education than I ever dreamt. I'm often asked what my favorite tip is. Usually it's the one I've not heard before, which is what keeps my work so interesting. My books on Baking Soda tips and Vinegar tips have sold in the hundreds of thousands copies. Amazing. How lucky I am to be able to share so many helpful ideas...and it is good, clean FUN too.

I'm not sure of my next projects as I've decided to cut back a bit on my book life and work a little more on just my life. But I'm never far from my computer and I know there are idea gremlins scrambling around my brain waiting to escape. Stay tuned.....

Customer Reviews

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32 of 34 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars For Women Only, April 13, 2001

By A Customer

This review is from: Vicki Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath (Lansky, Vicki) (Paperback)

I purchased this book for my friend to help him understand what his kids were going through and help him learn to deal with a bitter ex-wife. I thought the book would offer solutions to co-parenting issues or offer advise on how to work with a less-than-amicable former spouse. Instead, this book focussed on women who were dealing with deliquent husbands - how to make them pay, how to keep them involved, etc. It would have been more helpful to additionally offer advise on how to make her share the kids, how to make her co-parent with him, how help her move beyond the fight of the parents to the health of the children. I know the roles can be reversed in either case, but the author obviously felt that women were more likely to nurture the children. This, unfortunately, is not always the case.

21 of 21 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A tremendous resource for explaining divorce to kids......, June 11, 1998

By A Customer

This review is from: Vicki Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath (Lansky, Vicki) (Paperback)

This book was (and is) of tremendous help to me and my ex-husband in explaining our pending divorce and separation to our children. I cannot stress enough how useful this one little book was. It was the first and only book that I found that in clear and concise terms addressed what the children at various ages "hear" when you say, "Mommy and Daddy are getting a divorce." I cannot recommend this book highly enough. If you are in a (admittedly sad) situation where you are about to separate and need to know how to discuss it effectively with your children, this is the book for you!

24 of 25 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Need Help? Advice? Encouragement? Guidance? READ THIS BOOK!, December 14, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Vicki Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath (Lansky, Vicki) (Paperback)

This book can do wonders. It covers so much ground in a clear, concise manner. Every paragraph or two provided either insight, encouragement or advice. I bought other books on the subject of divorce and children, but nothing compares to this book. You can look for other books, but this is all you will need. The only exception, is the campanion book written by Lansky, "It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear" Another must for those parents with young children. Both books will serve parents well. If your Ex is difficult to deal with, get this book for them. It can help defuse situations and refocus them to do the right things for the child(ren) they love.