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Vicki Lansky's Divorce Book for Parents: Helping Your Children Cope with Divorce and Its Aftermath (Lansky, Vicki)

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I purchased this book for my friend to help him understand what his kids were going through and help him learn to deal with a bitter ex-wife. I thought the book would offer solutions to co-parenting issues or offer advise on how to work with a less-than-amicable former spouse. Instead, this book focussed on women who were dealing with deliquent husbands - how to make them pay, how to keep them involved, etc. It would have been more helpful to additionally offer advise on how to make her share the kids, how to make her co-parent with him, how help her move beyond the fight of the parents to the health of the children. I know the roles can be reversed in either case, but the author obviously felt that women were more likely to nurture the children. This, unfortunately, is not always the case.

This book was (and is) of tremendous help to me and my ex-husband in explaining our pending divorce and separation to our children. I cannot stress enough how useful this one little book was. It was the first and only book that I found that in clear and concise terms addressed what the children at various ages "hear" when you say, "Mommy and Daddy are getting a divorce." I cannot recommend this book highly enough. If you are in a (admittedly sad) situation where you are about to separate and need to know how to discuss it effectively with your children, this is the book for you!

This book can do wonders. It covers so much ground in a clear, concise manner. Every paragraph or two provided either insight, encouragement or advice. I bought other books on the subject of divorce and children, but nothing compares to this book. You can look for other books, but this is all you will need. The only exception, is the campanion book written by Lansky, "It's Not Your Fault, Koko Bear" Another must for those parents with young children. Both books will serve parents well. If your Ex is difficult to deal with, get this book for them. It can help defuse situations and refocus them to do the right things for the child(ren) they love.

There were so many great common sense pieces of advice..lots of good stories that let you know, others have been through this..I read this book 5 years ago when going through a divorce..with lots of hard work, my ex an I have avoided the pitfalls of beating each other with our child...We have remained parents together...

This book was a help!

This book is relatively short but covers all of the major topics in divorce pertaining to families. You can skip chapters--just get to the ones you need at the time. A good place for anyone to start.

The book is short and to the point with little editorial message. It suggested three or four things that I would never have thought of in this difficult time of tearing apart our family. It's a good tool, quick read and affordable.

i am in the midst of dealing with these issues and have read many books on the subject. i have also consulted w/ a child psychologist on the best was to address these issues. i found this book to be the most helpful. it is relatively concise and well-organized, which is crucial when you are overwhelmed with everything else you are facing. but most importantly, has the best interests of the child as its priority. thank you vicki.