Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse [Paperback]

Mike Lew (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: May 11, 2004 | ISBN-10: 006053026X | ISBN-13: 978-0060530266 | Edition: 2 Sub

For millions of men on the path to recovery, Victims No Longer is the next step.

The first book written specifically for men, Victims No Longer examines the changing cultural attitudes toward male survivors of incest and other sexual trauma. Now, in this Second Edition, this invaluable resource continues to offer compassionate and practical advice, supported by personal anecdotes and statements of male survivors. Victims No Longer helps survivors to:

• Identify and validate their childhood experiences
• Explore strategies of survival and healing
• Work through issues such as trust, intimacy, and sexual confusion
• Establish a support network for continued personal recovery
• Make choices that aren't determined by abuse

Psychotherapist Mike Lew has worked with thousands of men and women in their healing from the effects of childhood sexual abuse, rape, physical violence, emotional abuse, and neglect. The development of strategies for recovery from incest and other abuse, particularly for men, has been a major focus of his work as a counselor and group leader.

Thoroughly updated and revised, and including an expanded Resources section, Victims No Longer educates survivors and professionals about the recovery process -- speaking to the pain, needs, fears, and hopes of the adult male survivor.

Editorial Reviews

Review

“Victims No Longer breaks the isolation, shame and sense of uniquness that most male survivors struggle with. (Ken Singer, LCSW, Executive Director, NJ Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers )

“Accessible, moving, and validating... a beacon of hope for sexually abused men and their loved ones..” (Richard Gartner, Ph.D., author of Betrayed as Boys )

“As an Episcopal priest...I depend upon Mike Lew’s insights in my daily work.” (The Reverend Anne C. Fowler, Rector, St. John's Episcopal Church, MA )

“A touchstone of gtuidance, hope and understanding that helps therapists, survivors and their loved ones.” (-Ernesto Mujica, Ph.D. )

“Victims No Longer sits on my desk as a reference guide for both myself and my clients.” (Vicki Polin, M.A., ATR, LCPC, Director and Founder, The Awareness Center )

“The most important resource for men healing from past sexual abuse. Comprehensive, compassionate and clear, it offers hope.... (Wendy Maltz, author of The Sexual Healing Journey )

“The definitive book on men who were abused. I refer other professionals to the book and make it required reading.” (Joe Amico, M.Div., CAS, CSAC, President, National Association for Lesbian and Gay Addiction Professionals )

“We finally have a book which can offer men support on their journey towards recovery and healing.” (Dan Sexton, Survivors of Child Abuse Program of Childhelp USA )

“Male victims carry a particular burden of shame. Victims No Longer helps to lift the burden.” (Judith Herman, M.D., author of Father-Daughter Incest )

“Victims No Longer will remain for years to come the original resource manual for adult male survivors.” (Hank Estrada, P.L.E.A, the National Organization for Male Survivors )

“Passionate and compassionate , both speaking out on behalf of male victims and illuminating a number of pathways toward healing.” (David Fineklhor, Director, Crimes Against Children Research Center, University of New Hampshire )

“The first book I recommend to new clients.” (Howard Fradkin, Ph.D., Male Survivor Retreat Chairperson )

About the Author

Mike Lew, M.Ed., a psychotherapist and group therapy leader, is co-director of The Next Step Counseling and Training Center in Newton Centre, MA. He provides public lectures, professional trainings, and workshops for survivors nationwide, and he has appeared on "The Oprah Winfrey Show," "Sally Jessy Raphael," and many other television and radio programs.

Product Details

• Paperback: 464 pages
• Publisher: Harper Perennial; 2 Sub edition (May 11, 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 006053026X
• ISBN-13: 978-0060530266
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 6.1 x 1.2 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.1 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (37 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #47,193 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
  • #54 in Books > Health, Fitness & Dieting > Mental Health > Abuse & Self Defense > Sexual Abuse
  • #59 in Books > Self-Help > Abuse
  • #59 in Books > Parenting & Relationships > Family Relationships > Dysfunctional Relationships

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Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

57 of 57 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The best book for Survivors., February 3, 2005

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Mr. D. Lloyd "David Lloyd" (England) - See all my reviews
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This review is from: Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse (Paperback)

My copy of Mike Lew's book is well worn, most pages have sections underlined and notes written down the margins.
A lot of pages are stained with coffee, red wine and tears.
It's a book I still read a lot, five years after I first got it.

I am a Survivor of sexual abuse, and have recovered my life through therapy, and some hard personal work. But the personal work was so much easier with this remarkable book.
Mike Lew's understanding of 'our' problems is second to none and he expresses himself very clearly throughout the book. Don't think that this is just a book for professionals, it isn't. This is a book for everyone concerned with men who have been sexually abused.

I now work with other Survivors, and I always recommend this book to them, which is why I'm here at Amazon again; buying yet another copy so someone else can benefit.

Dave Lloyd

59 of 62 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars five stars isn't enough for this, June 17, 1999

By A Customer

This review is from: Victims No Longer: Men Recovering from Incest and Other Sexual Child Abuse (Paperback)

Mike Lew's book is the definitive book on recovery for males from childhood sexual abuse. When I first bought it, I was not even able to open it to the blurb page without feeling that finally, there was something that I could use to help...finally there was someone who cared. The book is hard to read. Hard, hell, it is, at times, nearly impossible, but it is also hopeful. Mike Lew is sure to include positive messages directed at the survivor, messages of encouragement and hope. I found myself with tears in my eyes as I saw my story and my life on every page, but I now know that I will survive. If you need this book, first get yourself into therapy, then get this book and take all the time you need with it. Don't rush through it.

37 of 38 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars MYSTICAL MIKE----LIFESAVER LEW, May 14, 2004

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John C. Ireland (Chicago) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Victims No Longer: The Classic Guide for Men Recovering from Sexual Child Abuse (Paperback)

As an avid reader all my 44 years, I never dreamed a book was a true mystical lifesaver! For years, I was threatened into a prison of silence after surviving multiple acts of abuse & carrying deeply hidden scars. I finally knew I had to deal with my horrific male abuse. Typical book addict, I searched for anything on male abuse & was shocked with the lack of materials. Writing for years has been a lifeline for me & through my "black blood" I carried my pain, hoping to hear others in the same boat. I finally found Mike Lew's VICTIMS NO LONGER & after several attempts, I finally faced my anxiety & purchased a copy. It came at a time when I was in the darkest depression. I had just lost both my mom & dad, 5 weeks apart in Fall 1998. Along with complicated grief, I again felt wounds reopened with demonic force. (I had finaly told my mom & dad when I turned 30 & they were shocked that people they most trusted, some loved, had me as a victim threatened in silence for so many years). I am a "myth breaker" in that I hid even from my loving & protective parents, afraid death threats were real-----I was 8 when it all started... I would be amazed as I truly began my healing journey accompanied by the printed caring voice of Mike Lew! One day I hoped to thank him in person for the infinite lives he has impacted with his literary lifesaving!!! His words reach out---heart & soul... The energy of Mr.Lew is empowering! My recovery has been rough at times & I finally had the courage to attend a Male Survivor conference held at Dawn Manor in the Catskills. I KNOW I would never had attended if I hadn't discovered Mike Lew:):):) The Male Survivor group's awesome power reflects Mike! In September 2003, I attended the National Male Survivor Conference in Minneapolis where I finally got to thank Mike in person--- What an indescribable feeling! I hope his words reach countless oters suffering n silence as well as those who are in families & helping professions!! Join me on the Healing Highway coasting with Mike Lew, John C. Ireland:):):)