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Written by certified sex therapist Darcy Luadzers, Virgin Sex is an informed and informative guide written especially for women and which deals honestly and intelligently with the hard questions of sex. Virgin Sex directly addresses issues that particularly concern young virgins, such as "how will I know when I am ready/not ready?", as well as how to make one's first experience a memory to cherish. Virgin Sex is also filled from cover to cover with solid advice appropriate for women of all ages including how to recognize men who are only interested in sex -- not a relationship; how to prevent and avoid rape; how to make sex pleasurable, not painful; and more. Very highly recommended for Human Sexuality reading lists and library collections.

And bears about as much resemblance to reality as a driver's manual does to actual driving. I'm sorry, I know it was written with serious intent, but I came across it in a library and HAD to skim through it, as you would, too, admit it, and within minutes I was laughing so hard I had to get up and go outside. (Once I start giggling I'm hopeless.) Someone I used to date works at the same library and asked me what was so funny and I told him and he said, "Yeah, we're always finding that book hidden in corners where people take it and sneak off to read." (Hey, at least I read it in the open.) Soooo, if it helps even a single person (although how it could is past me, it reads like stereo assembly instructions, and I think the author is out of touch) then great, but in my opinion it seemed pretty silly.

If you want your daughter to view sex as merely a recreational activity that is best enjoyed with a pleasant-mannered playmate who is amenable to her self-study technique tips, and you buy the author's scenario of a scar-less sex playground--this is the book for her! However, if you want your daughter to see sex as something that is profoundly intimate with a profound purpose, this is NOT the book for her.

This book assumes that once sexual development begins, a girl is careening down an inevitable path toward sex. The irony here is that, despite such helplessness and inevitability, the book is chock full of coaching to enable your daughter to select playmates that will please her yet not hurt her--quite a feat!!

If you have any regular time to spend with your daughter, I would forego reading this book. Your time will be much better spent inspiring her to spend time developing her interests and values and socializing with a wide variety of friends of both sexes in a properly supervised atmosphere. In this scenario, while your daughter is avoiding a minefield, she is also noticing which young men are wasting their time indulging their senses and which young men are diligently preparing to be responsible adults through education, work and self-control, all nice things in a husband!

If you want to begin de-bunking the far too rampant nonsense in this book, I suggest reading Unprotected: A Campus Psychiatrist Reveals How Political Correctness in Her Profession Endangers Every Student

This book doesn't assume that a young girl is careening down the path to sex. In fact the book is chock full of tales of teens who did have sex for the wrong reasons and lived to regret it.

It's a wonderful book written by a person who doesn't shake her fingers and say Just Say No, but instead provides young women with a thoughtful and thorough book about sex.

You wanna hide your head in the sand and assume your daughter isn't going to succumb to the incredible pressure placed on teens these days to have sex with each other, then don't buy the book. On the other hand, if you want a book that treats your daughter as a person who is thinking about sex (and believe me every young women is) and gives her a road map to 1. Think very seriously about it before choosing to "do it" and 2. educates her thoroughly about the many hazards including emotional damange, pregnancy and STDs, then this is the best book I've ever seen.

One might want to think twice before jumping into the sac for the first time (or other times)after reading these true stories.