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Virtual Slut: I Was A Cybersex Addict

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I waffled as to give Virtual Slut 4 or 5 stars. In the end 5 stars won out because this is screenseductress's (a.k.a. Dena) story not mine. Dena explains in the book she has experienced 3 types of people:

1) Those comfortable with themselves

2) Those who tell white-lies (age, weight, etc) because they don't believe someone will accept them as is

3) And then chameleons - those who will be whoever you want them to be

I fall between types 1 & 2. As with 78% of other women (Oprah show statistic), I am not comfortable with my body. Showing my fat rolls live on the Internet for the world to see, sends shocks of horror through my system that even Freddie Kruger couldn't match. Clearly I am not the exhibitionist Dena is.

But the point is: one of life's lessons is to get comfortable with and learn to love ourselves warts and all. And so much the better if we're having fun doing it. That is the bottom line of Virtual Slut's message.

The book is organized in two parts, which I will describe in three:

1) "Ethical Slut" (by Easton & Liszt) gone virtual - how to get the most out of a particular sexual lifestyle. Topics include:

a. Cybersex = creating an experience versus Porn = consuming a product (geared towards men)

b. Chatrooms as a forum for sex education: better than books because you can see it live and better than real life because often people are shyer in the bedroom

c. Is Cybersex Adulty? (Yes - it's more about broken trusts than boinking)

d. Who can you trust online?

e. When and how to make fantasy into reality

2) Specific cybersex tips

3) Actual IM's between her and her various lovers

All in all - a great book for both men and women to learn new (s)exploration realms. The string of IMs section was difficult to read, but the rest of the book more than made up it.